Are you looking to attract a lover that is devoted to you?
Are you looking for a deep, strong unwavering connection with your partner?
Are you looking to heal your wounds and put yourself on the path to attracting the type of love you know in your heart you deserve?
Then read on, girlfriend, because I’ve got three helpful practices you can implement today in order to attract JUST THAT TYPE of love and partner into your life!
As time goes on and my connection deepens with my man, I can’t help but reflect on how far I’ve come in the realm of love. My partner cares for me deeply and I feel secure in his love. He cherishes me and our relationship deepens on a daily basis as he showers me with love and appreciation.
Life wasn’t always this way…
My past relationships are sprinkled with heartbreak, tears, sadness, and disappointment. (sound familiar?)
And as painful as it was, I wouldn’t trade those experiences for the world because they taught me ONE very important thing.
This ONE thing has actually been the basis for the creation of my amazing relationship as it is today.
So what is that ONE thing?
It taught me what I DON’T want in a relationship.
It’s important to know what we want in life and in our love life. When we know what we want, we can take the steps towards creating it!
But sometimes it’s not so easy to figure that out…
How many times have you been asked “What do you want?”
to which the answer is usually:
- I don’t know.
- Everything.
- Whatever.
- Whatever you want.
You see, it isn’t always crystal clear to know what we want.
But ask a woman what she DOESN’T want, on the hand…
Ahh…..now we’re talking!
So, when you are continuously confronted with painful situations laden with what you DON’T WANT, it’s a great basis for creating the opposite: a life you do want!
All that pain and all that heartbreak gave me a crystal clear vision of what I do not want in my love life.
So I shifted things around and started practicing three things.
These three things I teach in my 6 Weeks to Love Intensive Coaching program and I’m happy to introduce them to you now!
1. Love Yourself
I know you’ve heard it before because I like to preach it!
You’ve got to LOVE THYSELF.
Self-love is the KEY to attracting an amazing relationship.
Our lives are simply mirrors of our beliefs of yesterday. Whatever we believe about ourselves or believe we can have is EXACTLY what we end up creating in our lives.
The reason self-love is so important is simple: we attract people who treat us how we treat ourselves.
How many of you have heard about the woman who always attracts in the abuser? And usually the woman is a stereotypical type of gal: meek, timid, doesn’t believe in herself, the victim.
Many of us carry hidden beliefs that we aren’t good enough or worthy enough to be deeply loved. So we attract someone in that gives us just what we believe we deserve. We create relationships that ‘prove’ this to be true. We call-in people and circumstances that make us feel unworthy. And it affirms our belief system and the cycle continues.
*Sigh*
So how do you break that cycle?
The way to end this cycle is exactly what I teach in my coaching intensive. It centers around learning how to value yourself way MORE than you ever have before!
You learn to listen to yourself. You learn what YOUR needs are. You get to know yourself and become super sensitive to your needs. It’s everything that you’ve always wished (and waited) that your ideal partner would do for you.
It’s how your ideal match would care for you.
But the big secret is – you can’t wait until you’ve found the one.
You’ve GOT to start loving yourself today in the EXACT way you want to be loved.
Only then will you attract in the person that will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
2. Make Space for Love
Let’s say you wanted to buy a new couch for your living room.
But your living room is full!
There’s the old couch still in there, for one. There are stacks of books piled next to it. Last night’s dinner is still on the coffee table….
There is no space in your living room for a new couch.
So how do you expect to fit one in there?
Well for one, you’ve got to clean up the mess.
For two, get that old couch out of there!
It’s the exact same for your love life.
Clean up the mess –
- Get your emotional state in order. If you’re still pining over a lost love. Let. It. Go. If you have any thoughts of “there’s no good men out there” you need to replace them with “my guy is on his way! There is totally an amazing match for me.”
- Physically clean up the mess. Does your house even offer a warming environment to have a lover over? Do you have the physical space in your life for a second person to be there? To share a bed with? To sit on the couch with? To sit in the car with you? Or are you so entrenched in the single life that your passenger seat is another space to collect your stuff and the bedside table on the other side of the bed stores your stacks of books and magazines? Do you still have photos of ex’s hanging on the wall? Look around and make your space available to host your partner.
3. Visualize Love
This one is the best part of the process!
It’s the best for two reasons.
- It works!
- It’s fun!
I love to write and I love to dream and use my imagination.
We all have the abilities to create whatever it is we want in our heads.
The sky is the limit! This is how progress is created in the world. How many scientists and revolutionaries came up with something simply amazing that changed the course of history because they dared to dream of something that didn’t exist before?
The lightbulb. Electricity. The gas powered car. An airplane. Gravity. The Earth revolving around the sun, for goodness sake.
And you know what these all had in common?
It was something that didn’t exist prior. It was only in that person’s head.
And then it was created!!
So when you visualize love, all you have to do is close your eyes and picture yourself in an average day with your partner.
- What do you do?
- How do you feel?
- What does it feel like to be loved by this person?
Before I was actually in this amazing relationship I am today, I would journal and dream and write down everything I wanted in a relationship.
And then I would close my eyes…
And I would SEE it and I would FEEL it.
I could imagine what it would FEEL like to be with this person even though I didn’t have the awesome relationship yet.
Before I had experienced what it truly felt like to be cherished by a man, I would hold that vision and feeling in my mind at least once a day, and usually more like three or even five times a day! It felt good to go to my ‘never land’ of a place I had never experienced before.
The more I concentrated on the vision and the feeling, the more certain I became in the idea that my love was being attracted to me. The more I felt those feelings of love and worth, the more excited I got about the relationship!
The more excited I become, the closer the relationship came to me until one day, he was standing right in front of me and ordering a beer. (yup, I met my guy while I was a waitress. Goes to show, you never know what life has in store for you!)
By implementing the practices above, I started the process of attracting my devoted partner towards me.
- I loved myself.
2. I created space for a partner in my life.
3. And I visualized what life would look like with that person.
I became the embodiment of love. And so love was attracted to me!
If you’re interested in going deeper and attracting in your partner in as little as 6 weeks, I highly suggest you apply to for my 1:1 intensive coaching program.
And also, please leave a comment below telling us how you’re going to become the embodiment of love. How are you going to implement these practices into your daily life? Have you already been doing them and are they working for you?
I look forward to hearing from you!