5 Ways to Boost Your Self Love

If you’ve found your way to this blog post, I’m going to guess that you struggle with feelings of not being good enough.

And girl, you are not alone!

There are two common records playing in your thoughts on repeat for most (okay – all) human beings when you strip away all the nonsense and fluff and they are the following:

I’m not lovable

I’m not good enough

Which means if you fall into the category of being a human being… then you suffer from feelings of not being good enough and not feeling lovable at times.

Some people experience these feelings most of the time…

As a self-proclaimed self-love expert (and honestly, who is going to hand me that title?), it’s my mission, my purpose and my pleasure to help women (and some men) just realize how perfect they already are.

You are already worthy.

You are already good enough.

So let’s work on some steps to that you can take today to remember your value, shall we?

(Which, by the way, I’m hosting my annual FREE Self Love Challenge! Every day you’ll get a Self Love Challenge to perform and you can share your experience in my private Facebook group with amazing women who are ready to love and empower you and hold you accountable to being the best possible version of yourself who loves the crap out of herself! How does that sound? Click here to get your beautiful self signed up. If you’re on this page, trust me, you could benefit from the Self Love Challenge.

Here’s Why We All Need More Self Love

First of all, how you value yourself will always be reflected in your environment including your finances, your significant relationship and the lifestyle you live.

Self Love = Self WorthSelf Worth = An Incredible Life

I promise you this: when I didn’t value myself, it was reflected back to me in the types of jobs I accepted, the types of men I dated (or put up with), how my friends treated me and my general low-class lifestyle.

But when I increased my self value… then the love of my life arrived… then the six figure

business was built… and finally, a lifestyle I loved!

It might seem simplistic. But these types of things don’t have to be hard.

Increase your opinion of yourself and the world will respond in the same!

(Oh yeah, and if you haven’t signed up for the self love challenge yet, what are you waiting for?

Click here to sign up and then come back to this page to continue reading!)

1. Start Pointing Out Things You Love About Yourself

Why do we always point out our flaws? Why do you reject compliments? Why do you pass by a mirror and find the one small tiny pimple and focus upon it over and over and over again?

We are our own worst critics and the more you talk yourself down the lower you are going to feel.

There is no rule against complimenting yourself.

There are no laws against accepting a compliment either for that matter.

So the next time someone compliments your shirt / your work / your dog / your car / your face / your whatever smile and say, “Thank you.” That’s it.

And today whenever you walk by the mirror, you are going to find one thing about yourself to compliment.

You are going to become your biggest cheerleader instead of your own worst enemy.

Be careful what you think and say about yourself because eventually they become your belief systems. And when you believe something to be TRUTH, you start to see affirmation of it in your reality.

(I’m going to sound like a broken record here because I believe in the power of valuing yourself… check out the self love challenge! It starts on February 11th!)

2. Stop Saying Yes to Things You Hate

This one might seem obvious… but how many of you actually say NO when you mean to say no?

Women are too nice.

As a woman, I’ve been guilted into saying ‘yes’ when I really wanted to say no because I didn’t want to be a bitch.

Luckily I got over that bad habit.

Today, I can proudly tell you that if I don’t really want to do it because I’m busy, or it just doesn’t interest me, or I don’t have the time, or just don’t give a flying F… I simply say, ‘no, thanks.’

When you say YES to things you hate, you are telling the Universe that your desires are not worthy. You are putting others’ desires and needs above your own. (that’s crazy!)

Quite simply: you are NOT in alignment with the desires of your heart.

That’s the complete opposite of self love.

So right now, you are going to place one hand on your heart and reach one hand into the air and repeat after me:

“Today I commit to saying NO to things I don’t want to do. Today I commit to saying YES only to things that bring me joy. Today I commit to being selfish because it IS all about me. This is my life and I deserve to be happy.”

And then go out there and do what you just said sweetheart.

(Want to jam more on this topic? I’’ll be discussing it in greater detail during the self-love challenge because I honestly believe that we all need to become MORE selfish. It would make the world a better place. Click here to join us!

3. Adopt the Attitude of Gratitude

It’s practically impossible to be grateful and …. anything else at the same time! You cannot be grateful and filled with hate or envy or self-loathing.

And so, I suggest you adopt the additive of gratitude for your body and start to send her some love for all the amazing things she does for you on a daily basis.

It’s the quickest way I know of to shift your vibration and raise your energy!

I’m so grateful for my lungs. (Hey, thanks guys for helping me to bring oxygen in and out of my body so that I can, you know, live.)

I’m so grateful for my legs! (You guys are power houses! Without you, I wouldn’t be able to dance through life!) I’m so grateful for my skin! (You know, skin, we’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationshipthroughout my life. But now, I’m so grateful for you. You keep all the stuff on the inside that needs to stay there… and all the stuff on the outside that needs to stay there, too. You rock!)

(Join the international Self Love Challenge here! Told ya, broken record.)

4. Say I Love You (at least once a day)

One of the most challenging things I did once upon a time when I was filled with feelings of:

Why can’t I look pretty like her?Why doesn’t he like me?Why isn’t my stomach flatter?Why isn’t my skin clearer?

Is that I looked myself in the eyeballs, in the mirror and said “I Love You.”

And then as I started to cry, I said it again. And again and again.

I realized I had been holding out for so long.

I was looking for love in so many other places that where you really can only find love… within.

I was searching outside of myself for validation of my worthiness.

And when I said those three little words to myself in the mirror, I realized it was the love I was looking for for all those years. #sigh

Why did I wait so long?

Regardless, you can choose to love yourself today. You can choose to express the love to yourself that you’ve been craving to others. You can use decide to love and accept yourself unconditionally regardless of every stupid thing you’ve done in the past that for some reason you think has made you less worthy and valuable.

Nothing will ever take away your value.

You are created from love. You are love. Nothing will ever change that.

(Which by the way, if you love my style, join us for the self love challenge. Whoop whoop!)

5. Sign up for the Self Love Challenge!

Seriously. We all learn from each other and it’s having friends, mentors and others around you that inspire you to lift you up and keep you accountable!

Join the world-wide Self Love Challenge!

You’ll take everything you’ve just read (and so much more) and actually PUT IT TO PRACTICE.

And that is where the magic happens.

Sign me up for the Self Love Challenge!

ABOUT YOUR HOST EMYRALD SINCLAIRE:

Self-love expert, Emyrald teaches women how to Manifest It A.L.L. (Abundance, Love and Life of Your Dreams)

When you learn how to raise your own internal worth and value, everything in your life changes, including the type of relationships you attract in, the amount of money in your bank account, and ultimately the type of life you lead!

It starts with Self Love so join the Self Love Challenge and get started down that path of manifesting the life of your dreams!

13 Men (and 1 bi woman) Tell All: What’s REALLY beautiful about a woman

What do men REALLY want in a woman?

What makes a woman’s beauty noticeable to a man?

I bet it’s not what you think…

Let’s be real here, there are some crazy scary statistics out there focused around body images. Crazy shit like:

Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ‘ideal body shape.’ Why? Because only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by models, superstars and actresses in the media. 5%!!! And I would wager that some of those 5% live in underdeveloped countries and actually suffer from malnutrition!
53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies! (Um, WTF?) This number grows to 78% by the time girls reach 17. But here’s the real shocker: 95% of people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25.
80% of 10-year-old girls have dieted. 90% of high school junior and senior women diet regularly. And finally, young girls are more afraid of becoming fat than they are of nuclear war, cancer, or losing their parents!

Woah? Did anybody else just stand up and exclaim, “What the fuck media portrayal of beauty,” or is that just me?

Regardless, as a self love activist, I have made it my personal mission to help women see their REAL beauty no matter their shape or size.

And I’ve polled 13 men and 1 bi-woman to bring you the following results of what is REAL BEAUTY in a woman.

(Also, if you haven’t read it…find out what women first notice in a man by clicking here…)

David: Her ability to effortlessly intuit and fulfill all of my needs.

James: Her heart. PERIOD.

Hans: Outside and Inner Beauty

Derek:Their taming qualities us filthy animals require to be better individuals, lol

Karlos: Passion for living and sense of adventure for me

Shane: Sanity. Aactually, just enough sanity.

Jay: Her desire and ability to take complete responsibility for her emotions and actions…(this also tends to contribute to the beautiful smile upon her face)

Tyler: Face.

Jeff: Commitment. I say this because i feel if you are truly commited to something, husband, wife, life partner, career, or positive energy you are the girl for me

Tex: Her intelligence. But, sadly, that won’t overcome an unfortunate body or face. We guys aren’t wired that way

Matthew: Intuitive wisdom

Shivaya: the curves around the belly

Sophia: I’m going to answer this bc I’m bi. Women who aren’t afraid of being themselves. Also, women who have a sense of humor and communication skills.

Phillip: Confidence

As you can see, there are so many attributes that men (and women) find beautiful about you ladies. And it doesn’t have to do with your physical looks. Instead, it’s the energy you are putting off. It’s your passion. It’s your wisdom. It’s your confidence.

So the next time you aren’t feeling good enough or sexy enough, read the words above and remember that it’s so much more that makes a real woman beautiful!

And finally, if you haven’t watched this video before, it’s time:

“No wonder our perception of Beauty is distorted.”

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7 Simple Ways to appear more attractive without going on a diet, getting a haircut or buying new clothes

When I was younger, I was a bit of an ugly duckling.

At least, that’s what I thought. I didn’t have a huge amount of confidence; I didn’t go on many dates; The popular (aka cute) guys weren’t attracted to me.

Times were rough.

Luckily, I’ve gotten through that phase and have learned a couple of things. And now…men instantly notice me when I walk into a room.

And it’s good attention. It’s not because I’m wearing a low-cut shirt or a super short skirt.

How would you like to learn how to instantly appear more attractive to the opposite sex without going on a diet, getting a haircut, or buying new clothes? How would you like to have men notice YOU instantly when you walk into a room? Do you desire to get asked out on more dates without changing a thing about your personality?

What I’m about to share with you are seven simple, easy and effective ways to appear much more attractive to the opposite sex without spending a dime on your looks and without changing your personality.

So how do you make some simple changes that will have the men turning heads when you walk into the room and notice you as you’re walking down the street?

Read on my friend, and stick with me until number 7 – because it’s my favorite one, it’s the MOST effective (for me) and you’ll never guess what it is!

One – Smile More

This one is the MOST SIMPLE one to implement! And it works! A study in Switzerland examined the relationship between attractiveness and smiling.

The stronger the smile, the more attractive a face looked.

And not only that, a happy facial expression compensated for relative unattractiveness. So, put a beautiful smile on your face, honey, when you walk into the restaurant, or step into a bar, or walk into a new environment where you don’t know anyone and you’ll instantly appear more attractive and approachable.

Two – Confidence

This is a bit trickier to convey if you’re not a naturally confident person. It’s so much easier to be a wall flower. BUT that’s not for you! Here are a couple of tips to convey elevated levels of confidence that will INSTANTLY make you appear sexier. Celebrate the success of others. Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes. Celebrate your OWN successes (no, it’s not bragging)! And get this –

Studies have shown that people tend to see you as 20% more attractive than how you see yourself!

Isn’t that amazing? Too many women judge themselves too harshly (I can raise my hand and say I’ve been in this boat before. Too many times.) Have confidence in your beauty and trust that most people actually see you as MORE beautiful than you see yourself! Own it, girlfriend.

Three – Do things you enjoy!

Join a hiking group, volunteer for a cause you believe in, train for a marathon, play guitar at an open mic night, you get the idea! You’ll instantly appear more attractive when you’re following your heart and filling your day with activities that you enjoy.

Bonus – the people you meet will be into the same interests as you – score!

Meeting a guy with similar interests will make it much more likely you two will hit it off and create a lasting friendship, if not something more!

Four – Find your personal style.

If you wear stuff you feel good in, you’’ll instantly look and feel more attractive. Go through the closet and get rid of items that no longer serve you and put much more focus into wearing the items that you LOVE. When you’re celebrating the real YOU, the guys you attract to you will appreciate the real you, too.

Five – Play up your favorite features!

Have beautiful blue eyes? Long sexy legs? Shiny brown hair? Whatever it is that you LOVE about you, find a way to make your best features stand out by choosing certain clothes and accessories that accentuate them. For example, if you have really pretty dark eyes, wearing gold hoop earrings might draw more attention to them. Or how you wear your bangs might attract more attention to those beautiful eyes.

It’s been a while since I’ve had bangs, but when I did, I got so many compliments on my eyes! The attention/focus was directed straight to my big blue eyes!

Six – Hang out with women

Another interesting study!

When you hang out with a group of ladies, men will generally see individual group members as being more attractive than they actually are.

Can we say – ladies night!

Seven – My favorite way to appear more attractive might surprise you… red lipstick!

I find that men are super attracted to me when I’m wearing red lipstick. I FEEL like a sexy vixen when I’m in it, and I KNOW that confidence is just oozing out of my pores and men see that and are attracted to it. I’m not saying you have to go out and buy the lipstick yourself, but it works for me. And it’s a really simple thing to do whenever I need a boost and want to feel more attractive.

I’ve also read studies that show that men are more attracted to women who WEAR red.

There are plenty shades of red, if you’re looking to get a couple more looks in your direction, find a shade that works for you!

So here’s what I want you to do right now!

Start putting all 7 of these steps into practice and get ready for more heads to be turning your way and for your confidence levels to soar and to instantly feel more attractive to the opposite sex!

And put your name and email into the box below to get my free resource guide: “Manifest your soulmate in 5 easy steps.”

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