Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why you actually want a relationship?
Most people don’t. They date because they’re “supposed to.” They look for love because it feels like the next step. They crave connection but never pause to consider what they truly desire from a partnership.
And yet, the strongest, healthiest, most fulfilling relationships are built with intention.
So, let’s dive deep—why do we seek love? What is the true purpose of a relationship?
Here are 10 reasons that might resonate with you (or open your heart to a new perspective):
1. To Share a Life Filled with Meaning & Joy
Life is so much richer when we have someone to share it with. The highs feel even sweeter when you have someone celebrating beside you, and the lows feel more bearable when someone is there to support you. A great relationship isn’t about completing you—it’s about enhancing an already beautiful life.
2. To Grow as a Person
A relationship is the ultimate mirror. It reflects back our strengths, our blind spots, and our deepest wounds. The right partnership will challenge you, stretch you, and call you into the highest version of yourself—not through force, but through love, patience, and understanding.
3. To Experience Love in Its Fullest Expression
Love isn’t just butterflies and passion—it’s devotion. It’s choosing to show up, to listen, to care, to stay. Being in a relationship allows you to practice love as a verb—giving it, receiving it, and embodying it in ways you never thought possible.
4. To Build a Legacy & Shared Vision
For some, love is about creation. Whether that’s raising a family, building a business together, or leaving an impact on the world, the right relationship becomes a foundation for something greater than just the two of you.
5. To Feel Seen, Understood & Deeply Connected
At the core of every human is the desire to be truly known. To have someone look into your soul and say, “I see you. I love you. I accept you.” A healthy relationship provides a safe space for vulnerability—where you can show up as your full, unfiltered self and still be cherished.
6. To Create a Safe & Supportive Partnership
Life is unpredictable. There will be moments of uncertainty, hardship, and change. A committed partnership provides a sense of safety—a person who has your back, who believes in you, and who is willing to walk through life’s challenges with you.
7. To Have a Best Friend & Adventure Partner
Love should feel fun. Yes, relationships take work, but they should also bring joy, laughter, and excitement. A true partner isn’t just someone you love—they’re someone you enjoy life with. Traveling, trying new things, making memories… love should feel like an adventure, not an obligation.
8. To Learn How to Love & Be Loved Fully
Love isn’t just about finding the right person—it’s about becoming the right person. Every relationship is an opportunity to expand your capacity for love—to soften, to trust, to open your heart in new ways.
9. To Heal & Rewrite Old Stories
Many of us carry wounds from past relationships, childhood, or experiences that made us question our worth in love. The right relationship can be deeply healing, allowing you to rewrite old stories, break toxic patterns, and experience a love that feels safe and expansive.
10. To Have a Witness to Your Life
There’s something sacred about knowing that someone is walking alongside you, through all of life’s seasons. Someone to celebrate your milestones, hold your hand through loss, and simply be there—witnessing, supporting, loving.
💡 Which of these reasons resonates most with you? Comment below and let me know—I’d love to hear your thoughts!
