Why affirmations are sh!t…and what to do about it!

 

I recently completed a survey of single women who are actively trying to do something to manifest their soulmate.

To call in the one…

Find their other half…

Their ‘media naranja’ as they say in español….

(now that I’m lounging on the beach in Costa Rica, I actually have time to compile the results and make something of them!)

Emyrald Sinclaire on the beach of Costa Rica

If you’re one of these ladies, do any of these things sound famiilar?

1. Visualize

2. Meditate

3. Go on spiritual dating sites

4. Not looking

5. Looking

6. Vision board

7. Becoming celibate

8. Making a witches brew

9. Praying

10. Praying harder

I will be the first to admit that I’ve tried it all in regards to dating (and no that wasn’t MY list up there.)
And yet nothing really ever worked….

(well up until now because I’ve actually figured out HOW TO manifest an amazing partner that is exactly what I asked for)

Want to know why?

It’s what I lovingly refer to as the WHIPPED CREAM ON GARBAGE syndrome.

Told to me first by my father.

A world renowned hypnotherapist.

“World Renowned? What does that mean?”, you might ask.

Well, quite simply it means people fly in from all across the globe to work with him.

When I was a kid he taught me about beliefs and affirmations.

And he said: Affirmations are crap. They actually don’t do anything because they are whipped cream on garbage.

Well actually he said shit. They are whipped cream on shit.

If you don’t get to the underlying belief system.

If your underlying belief system, your garbage, is that I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I suck, no one will ever love me…

You can look in the mirror and affirm yourself to death but you will still not be good enough, not lovely, not loved…

So…

As you can see, the reasons all these things that women are trying are not working is because they are….

WHIPPED CREAM ON SHIT.

It might taste sweet, it might sound sweet, it might LOOK sweet, but it doesn’t actually work.

Whereas the 6 week program I’ve developed, gets to the garbage, it gets down to the nitty gritty, to the sludge, to the toxic waste.

That underlying belief system….that record on repeat, that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, you suck, you’ll never be loved….

What ever it is that YOUR record is…

These are horrible. These are toxic. They are sludge. They are garbage. A toxic heap.

And that is the actual reason that you are not worthy of love.

It’s because deep down inside you actually believe it.

Look in the mirror and tell yourself pretty words…

Sit down with your journal and write affirmations till your fingers bleed.

Do your mantras every day…

Because those are only going to work (and they do work by the way) if you clear the trash, the rubbish, the crap that is sitting deep down inside.

You have this beautiful light, this diamond, this jewel on the inside but it’s so tarnished and covered in all these different negative beliefs.

This 6 weeks to love program, what it does, is start to polish that jewel by tearing away those belief systems one by one and replacing them with something new.

Let me reiterate one more time.

Whipped CreamWhipped cream = where you want to be.

I am beautiful.

I am lovely

I am worthy.

I am good enough.

I deserve to have the love of my life.

The garage (not true) = a lifetime of negative belief systems that have been handed to you from your parents, from society, from them TV shows you watch.Trash Monster

They all pile up on top of each other.
They build and they build and they build…

We have to clear the trash out.

Make space. Make room.

So when you actually do amazing powerful work – like mediation , mantras, and affirmations, they WORK! Because then your entire field is clear.

You see what I’m saying?

It’s like trying to make a meal in a pan that’s crusted over with last nights dinner. And before that, last weeks’ lunch. And the month before’s breakfast.

All these layers of grime have been stacked on top of each other.

At the time you’re trying to create anything beautiful and lovely….well it’s gonna taste like horrible old shit. It’s gonna taste like rotten food from months ago.

So you’ve got to clear out the pan.

aka – clear out the trash.

And start fresh!

And then – oh my goodness – you will be THE most powerful, sexy, goddess that you know in your heart of hearts to be true.

Emyrald Sinclaire love coach on the beach of Costa Rica

You know her.

She’s there.

You’ve caught glimpses of her.

But it’s not all the time.

And I want to help you get to the point where she is.

She’s there all of the time.

Because all of those untruths and misbeliefs….

Are GONE!

Sending you love,

xo

Emyrald

Emyrald Sinclaire love coach in costa rica

 

(Want to find out more about the 6 Weeks to Love 1:1 Intensive Coaching program? It might be the ONE THING that can guide you from where you are to where you want to be!)

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