3 Ways to avoid DRAMA in your relationship

Here’s the best way I know to avoid drama in your relationship:

Don’t BE dramatic. 


Simple as that. 


We get what we put out, energetically speaking. And so if YOU are the type of gal who is dramatic, who is jealous, who gossips, etc, you will absolutely attract drama into your relationship.


One of my favorite sayings is this: 


“We don’t get what we want. We get who we are.” 


So who are you being? 

I know this is not what you wanted to hear and many will think to themselves: I’m not dramatic! I’m not jealous. I have no issues. I’m just perfect. It’s him that needs to change. 

Sorry, sister. This is simply not true. No one is perfect. We are all works in progress. 


News flash: We are mirrors for one another. 


And your relationship is the most intimate mirror you will ever have. So if you don’t like something in your relationship, you’ve got to change yourself. YOU are the person who needs to take a good hard look into the mirror and realize that you need to step it up in the self-development department.  


So how do you improve yourself and remove the pattern of being dramatic, or needy, or whatever other ‘issues’ that you may have? 


  1. Read self-help books. Yes, you heard me correctly. Self-help books are no longer just for those under the care of a psychiatrist. I’ve read over 1,000 self-help books in the past decade and they have morphed me into a human being that truly cares about herself, that sees the good in every person she meets, and believes that love is at the core of it all. And as a result? I have a pretty damn good life filled with amazing close and loving relationships. We are mirrors for one another. Once you change your internal environment, your external environment will change. I do promise you this. 
  1. Meditate.  Our ego loves to run the show. He’ll run the show in the form of self-doubt, self-sabotaging, fears, talking yourself out of a good idea, pursuing the ‘bad boys’ instead of the strong, supportive man, etc. One of the best ways I know to shut the ego off – aka the monkey mind – is to meditate. It clears the mind and paves the wave for love/inspiration/source energy to step in. A daily meditation of only 10 minutes has been shown to have a variety of benefits including: stress reduction, improving concentration, encouraging a healthy lifestyle, increasing self-awareness, increasing happiness, increasing acceptance, and reducing the desire to give a damn what other people think about you or what other people are doing with their lives. And that my dear, is fricken awesome, if you ask me.
  1. Love yourself and treat yourself how you want to be treated. So many of clients are their own worst enemy! The shit they say to themselves has even me feeling anxious and uncomfortable. But the more you can learn to love yourself and feel like a rockstar in your skin, the less drama you will feel you need to play out in your life. Start being aware of the words you are saying in your mind and be kinder and more gentle in your speak. Take time out of each and every day to do something for you. Even if it’s just 10 minutes to sit down and read your favorite book. You must put yourself first in your life not last after every item on your to-do list. 


Because it’s so important I’ll say it one last time to really sink this point home: we are consistently attracting into our lives the exact energy that we are putting out into the world. 


If you think the world is filled with kind, loving individuals, in general you will experience a world filled with kind, loving, and generous individuals. 

If on the other hand, you think people are not to be trusted and he’ll cheat on you and everyone is only out for themselves…well…you probably can guess exactly what you’ll encounter on a daily basis. 

In summary, if you’re looking to remove the drama from your relationship, remove the drama from yourself first! 

5 Ways a Love Coach helps Y-O-U to find love

Are you looking for the ‘secret’ to a life filled with love, happiness and romance?! 

And yet, are you even a little bit apprehensive that true love exists, given the current divorce rates? 

Do you believe in the power of a positive example that can guide you and lead by example? 

Stick with me…. and allow me to answer your concerns, my dear.


I’ve had numerous people ask me what a love coach is. 

And it’s quite possible that before you ‘met’ me, you’d never heard of a love coach before!

In fact, I even had one older gentleman laugh out loud when I told him what I did! (upon further questioning, he said he laughed because he’d never heard of that as a profession before)

Quite simply, a love coach helps you to find love. 


But most women have it backwards. I’ll admit it, I had backwards for years, too!


They think that once they get the guy, THEN they’ll feel loved and adored and cherished. 


Am I right?! 

But here’s what I teach and this is why it works.





This is the exact opposite of what most women do. And honestly, why do you think over 50% of marriages end in divorce?
It’s because people are looking outside of themselves for love and validation. They are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right to complete them, to save them, to fix them.
And that is the fasted way to D-I-V-O-R-C-E if I’ve ever heard one!

So, looking to know why a Love Coach could be exactly what you’re looking for in order to have a life filled with love and admiration and cherishing?! 

Of course you do!


One. Point out the blocks right in front of your eyes 


Have you ever misplaced something and spent hours looking for it? You turned all the drawers inside out, you checked your car at least 10 times and you went through all the pockets of your jeans? And then a friend/boyfriend/boss/mother walks into the room and immediately sees what you’ve been searching for?!


Of course you have!


We’ve all been there.


Have you heard the expression: “Not being able to see the forrest for the trees”?


It means that when you’re in the thick of it, it can be very hard to see the bigger picture.


Because a love coach has worked with tens, hundreds, and sometimes even thousands of clients, she has a pretty good idea of common blocks and limiting beliefs.


In fact, usually after the first consultation with a new client, I can tell them exactly what their biggest block to love is. 


Similar to how an athletic coach is going to be able to point out something wrong in your stance or your swing, a love coach is going to see quite clearly (from an outsiders point of view) what it is that you’re doing wrong.


Get it?


Trust your love coach.


She knows what she’s talking about. She’s unbiased and simply sees things that you cannot because you’ve lived with yourself and your quirks your entire life.


Two. You just hired your own personal cheerleader….go, team go! 


A love coach is your own personal cheerleader cheering you on to success! Where else in your life do you have someone who is 150% committed to your success and to finding an ideal partner?

Girlfriends are great, but let’s be honest here. Sometimes girlfriends don’t have all the time in the world to listen to your sob story.

Or – sometimes girlfriends don’t give the greatest advice: “You should totally sleep with him. He’s hot!”

And even though your mother loves you, she’s not qualified to give unbiased love advice. Most mothers don’t want their children to experience pain or hurt. So her advice is going to be based on how to protect you.

When you hire a love coach, you get someone that is going to boost up your self-esteem always. You get someone who is there to help you through thick and thin. A person who will NOT let you wallow in your sadness. A person who will NOT let you make excuses as to why you’re alone and allow you to live with them.

Oh no.

A love coach KNOWS that you are 100% meant for legendary love. And she is going to remind you of your awesomeness and your dreams of a love story to remember….




Sound good?!


Three. She leads by example


There’s an old saying that says “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” 


So who are you hanging out with? 


  • Other single women who are also struggling to find romance?
  • Married couples who fight all the time?
  • A single mom who struggles to make ends meet?

These are extreme examples but the point I’m trying to make is this:


I’m going to show up 150% as the highest vibe person I can be. Not only for myself but for YOU, my dear client. 


Every single thing I teach, I’ve done.


Every single exercise, worksheet, meditation, writing exercise I have done 100s of times. No exaggeration.


I teach the practices that have worked for me.


So trust that I understand what you’re going through. And that I also have the exact tools necessary to get you to where you want to be.


Four. Mess to Success… I’ve been there! 


Similar to the point above….girl. I’ve been through it all in regards to love. I can look at my younger self and lovingly say: “what an idiot!” 


But I also know it was for a reason.

The more challenging our struggle is….

The harder the journey is…

The more people I can connect with and the greater the triumph will be!


Every good love story has some type of challenge, a battle, a journey to true love. 

I have one, too.


And as a result, I’ve accumulated a life-time of skills and tools that have worked for me and countless others!


It’s inspiring to know that your coach once had her own limiting beliefs and thought she wasn’t ‘good enough for love’ and despite those thoughts, she fought through it all until coming out on top!

If I can do it, so can you!


Five. Accountability Partner


This one is truly the most important way a love coach can help you find love.

It’s one thing to read books.


It’s another thing to write down goals.


But if you don’t actually TAKE ACTION on your dreams and desires, nothing will happen! 


You can fantasize and dream all day in your PJs on the couch…


But if you don’t actually leave the house, how do you expect to meet Prince Charming?! 


A love coach helps you to set achievable and realistic goals and then holds your little buns to the fire to ensure you accomplish what you set out to do.
And if ‘true love’ is the goal, allow me to give you a loving smack on the ass to ensure you accomplish that goal! 


Are you ready to find love? 

Sign up for a time to chat and we’ll discuss your goals around the love life you crave and get you started down the path towards Happily Ever After!