7 Mistakes Single Women Make While Dating (who are looking for long term commitment)

Let’s Break Down Some Common Mistakes Women Make On Their Quest for An Amazing Long Term Committed Relationship 👇  

1- Not Asking Him About Past Relationships 

How someone speaks about their ex and why the last relationship ended says a lot about that person. 

If they talk trash about their ex (they were crazy, narcissistic, sleeping around, it’s all their fault), it says that this person doesn’t look at themself and hasn’t done any work on themselves. They are blaming. They are the victim. 

You want someone who takes personal responsibility for their part in the relationship. They said YES to dating that person. Which means they are ½ responsible for the relationship (and the ending). 

And the same goes for you! How YOU talk about your ex’s says a lot about your healing journey and the amount of responsibilty you are taking to ensure you don’t have to learn that lesson again. 

Every relationship is an opportunity to learn. Are you looking for it? Once you learn the lesson, you graduate and don’t have to learn it again. If not… well history repeats itself, doesn’t it? 

2 – Sleeping With Him Before A Spoken Commitment 

If you sleep with a man before he is invested emotionally in you, BYE BYE. 

There is no exact timeline to when this happens but I can tell you this: if a man is not emotionally connected to you and you sleep with him, it will NOT MAKE him emotionally connected to you. In fact, he’s more than likely to think, “That was easy,” and then walk away. 

Men like the chase and to feel like they’ve earned it. If it was easy for him to get you into bed, there’s a part of him that wonders if he’s really that special AND if you’re that easy with other men. 

Trust me, it’s better to wait and take things slow. Wait to sleep together until you’ve both formed an emotional connection and had the discussion about monogomy and committment. 

3 – Sleeping With Him And Not Knowing If He is Sleeping With Other Women 

A high value woman knows her worth. And she doesn’t sleep with a man who’s sleeping with other women… let alone NOT even know if he’s sleeping around. 

Let’s make things easier on you and just ASSUME he’s sleeping with other women. 

Do you really want to be ‘one of the girls’ he’s sleeping with? Or wait until he’s decided you are THE ONE? 

Now that being said, if you’re just looking for a hook-up, sleep with whoever you want. But if you’re looking for something serious, it’s most likely NOT going to manifest by sleeping with a man before you two are emotionally connected and when he’s sleeping with other women. Make him EARN the right to be intimate with you. And give it enough time to truly ensure that you WANT to CHOOSE him. 

4 – Believing His Words Over His Actions 

Men can talk pretty. We all can. But how does he ACT? A respectable man will not only KEEP his word to you, but ensure his actions match his words. Don’t be distracted by a smooth talker. Give the relationship enough time to ensure that he’s a man of action. 

5 – Getting Distracted By His Good Looks  (instead of how you FEEL when you are with him) 

Looks fade. A man that is a 10 will suddenly seem like a ZERO in your eyes if he treats you (and others) like sh*t. It’s been proven that attraction GROWS or FADES based on someone’s personality. Give a man who is a 5 a chance… you just never know. Once you get to know him … and if his personality is amazing .. and you have a lot of fun together … and he treats you like a Queen … and you feel adored, special, and chosen when you are with him… don’t be surprised if all of a sudden he becomes a 10 in your eyes!! 

6 – Getting Distracted By His Job or Success (instead of how he TREATS you) 

Yes, a man who is successful and financially responsible DOES matter. But don’t put it as the only requirement on your list. How does this man treat you when you are together? How does he treat others? (Like the server or his employees or friends or family?) Is he looking out for your needs and desires? Does he want to please you? Does he care about your happiness? Does he ask you about your day and go out of his way to support you? Is he paying attention? Does he respond to your texts/calls in a timely manner? Does he keep his word? 

7 – Settling For Anything Less Than What You You Truly Desire (and Deserve!) 

Many will tell you that you’re being too picky. 

I say the opposite: RAISE THE BAR! 

We are talking about lifelong partnershp + love here. This is the LAST THING you should ever settle on! 

And within The Magnetic Femme​, I teach you how to raise the bar + get even MORE than what you asked for!! 

> Lauren made a list of 50 things she wanted in a partner… she got ALL of them… plus some things she didn’t even think to ask for! She used to settle for men who had 2 or 3 things she was looking for. Because she didn’t know how to ask for more. 

> Jen’s partner just whisked her away to a New Years Even trip to Puerto Rico. He covered all expenses and treated her to fancy dinners and massages. He treats her like the Goddess she is.  “I’ve never been treated this well before” is what she told me in a text. And she USED to settle for breadcrumbs. She would date men who made HER pay for the dinner. Men she was too embarassed to introduced to her girlfriends. Men who were ‘beneath’ her. All because she didn’t believe that men of her caliber existed. 

> Mi’s husband told her to pick any spot on the planet to meet for the first time. (Since they met online.) Over the course of the next year, he flew to the US multiple times to see her… until he proposed and moved in for good. 😉 Before that, she was still texting her ex meaningless romantic texts… settling for a situationship with someone who couldn’t give her what she wanted and needed. 


Are YOU ready to RAISE the BAR? To ask for EVERYTHING your heart desires in partnership… and to get it?!


> Click here to learn more about The Magnetic Femme process + fill out your application. 

I’m so excited to help you manifest a relationship that finally matches the caliber of woman that YOU are!!! 

#2 Block to Love


Has it ever felt like all the good ones are taken?

The successful, attractive, spiritual, emotionally intelligent ones are all snatched up, right?

I mean, it MUST be that way because you are NOT meeting then online or in person, amIright?

I understand that it can FEEL that way.

But the challenge with this line of thinking is that it reinforces the block and only makes it stronger and even more challenging for you to meet the types of men you are looking for.


Let me give you an example: I want you to spend 60 seconds looking around the room you are in and intensely looking for everything green.

Pay careful attention and make note in your mind of everything green that you see.
Notice the different shades and colors of green that are around your room.
The plants. The pillows. The small details. 
Green is such a common color. 

FIND. ALL. THE GREEN. 


Did you do it?


For the next part, you are going to close your eyes and recall everything RED! 

Did you do it?

What this exercise illustrates is that it’s incredibly challenging to recall everything RED when you were so singularly focused on finding everything GREEN.


That’s how your mind works.

It filters out reality based on:

1 – What you are looking for.

AND 

2 – What you expect to find.

What are you looking for in a partner? And do you actually EXPECT to find it?

Whatever you are experiencing in your dating life is what you are actually looking for.

As A Course in Miracles says, “Whatever you seek, you shall find.”


Pillar One of The Magnetic Femme helps you to shift your belief system, raise your expectations and find a completely different caliber of men.

Rather than looking for the green (men who ghost you, are emotionally unavailable, not successful, driven, passionate or sexy) you’ll train your brain to look for the red (the intelligent, successful, well-traveled, attractive) … And find them!

​My client Jennifer was previously dating men who were ‘way beneath her.’ Men who were ‘safe.’ Men she knew would never leave her. ​ ​ 

In short: she was settling because she was looking for the ‘green.’

She didn’t believe the ‘red’  existed.

But very quickly – within two months of applying the principles I teach within the Magnetic Femme, she met John. Her equal in every single way. The man she is proud to call her partner. The man all of her friends love. The man she trusts, respects and adores.


“I’ve never been with a man who treats me as well as John does!” she told me once.


And this gorgeous woman is almost 50. Took her 40+ years (and only 2 months of working together) to figure out that she was worthy of a HIGH CALIBER MAN…


because SHE is a HIGH CALIBER WOMAN!!!



He’s smart. Successful. Intelligent. Emotionally aware and communicative. He supports her. He’s a shoulder to lean on. A friend she can laugh endlessly with on game night. The man she trusts to plan all their trips and vacations. The man who spoils her and whisks her away fro New Years last minute… just because he can… and wants to. 😉

A true partner in every way. 

I promise you, once you stop looking for what you don’t want in partnership, you’ll find what you do.

Ready to have my expert support to magnetize YOUR exceptional partner to you? 

Click the link below to become The Magnetic Femme.

Magnetic to the types of men you desire and deserve.

#1 Block to Love

“I don’t need a man.”

Ever said that to yourself?

Guess what…

It’s blocking you from the relationship that you DESIRE.

Sure you don’t NEED anyone to take care of you in the traditional sense. You’re completely capable of taking care of yourself. You make your own money. You own your own place. You successfully run your own life.

You don’t NEED a relationship to survive, but the RIGHT relationship will ADD so much to your life.

It’s the loving and supportive partner to come home to after a long day at the office. It’s the man who helps plan the trips and travel (so you don’t have to). The one to rub your feet after you take off your heels. The one that believes in you and your dreams. The snuggles on the couch in front of the tv or fireplace.

The knowing that you don’t have to do life alone. You have your person. Your match. Your equal. The man you feel safe and comfortable being yourself with. The one you can let your guard down with. And share your fears and insecurities with. Knowing he won’t judge you or think less of you. But instead he’s cheering you on and offering you emotional support. Same but different. You’re equals.

With complementary energy.


And I know that you’ve settled in the past because you haven’t been meeting men that inspire you. Impress you. Turn you on. You haven’t met the men that you actually would consider spending the rest of your life with.


Why is that?


Because you’ve been settling.

As you lower the bar you meet lower quality men. Which then reinforces the belief system that no good men exist. So you settle and lower the bar even further. Or you stop dating completely. It’s a negative cycle that keeps you blocked from meeting the caliber of men you desire (and deserve.)


You’ve been telling yourself all the reasons why you don’t need a man… and as a result, you’ve been starting to believe those stories… which is why you’re only meeting the men you don’t really ‘need.’

But I also know that emotionally you do NEED a man. You’re tired of meeting all of your own needs. And you truly do desire (and I’ll even use the word NEED here) a partnership with the right man.

Every human being has needs and desires.

And while you are capable of meeting most (if not all) of your needs/desires on your own… I also know your heart craves for a partner that you can rely on. A partner that you trust to HELP you meet your needs.

You don’t need to do it all on your own.

You can allow yourself to have support in partnership.
I call this interdependence.

It’s not independence (where you do it all on your own).
It’s not codependency (where you cannot do anything without him).
But the beauty of interdependence in partnership.

Where you are two sovereign individuals. Both aware of your individual needs and desires. Both capable of meeting his/her own needs and desires.

But both desire to support each other in partnership to meet each others’ needs and make each others’ lives more enjoyable and easier.

No, you don’t NEED a man.

But I’ll be honest with you – there are many beautiful aspects to partnership that you are missing out on by doing it all yourself:


Laughter. Love. Friendship. Snuggles. Memories. Trips. s3x and intimacy. Personal growth and development.


And all the FEELINGS that come along with partnership: safety, security, stability, love, adoration, connectedness, desire and more.


I want you to imagine…

  • Imagine waking up and FEELING loved, adored, cherished, supported.
  • Imagine having the man you love greet you with a smile, an ‘I love you” and your cup of coffee in the morning.
  • Imagine your partner having dinner warm and ready and waiting for you when you get home after a long day at the office.
  • Imagine your man planning the entire New Years Eve getaway… and you completely trusting him to plan something incredible.
  • Imagine being such a strong, sexy, funny, intelligent, successful man… that you get butterflies every time you see him… and he’s yours. And he’s completely dedicated to you.
  • Imagine you finally have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of but were scared actually existed.
  • Imagine if you got everything you desired and so much more! 

You could have MORE… so much MORE in your life. The love, trust, connection, bond, friendship, stability, and support that only partnership with the right man provides.

Are you ready to stop telling yourself that you can ‘do it all on your own’ and that you ‘don’t need a man’?

The Magnetic Femme is how you quickly move beyond the old stories and fears and blocks you’ve built up around love and the right type of high-caliber relationship entering your life. (Click here to find out more.)


Rather than think about all the ways a man could interfere with your successful life that you’ve built all on your own…

I want you focusing on all the ways the RIGHT MAN ADDS to your life.

  • Intimacy + s3x is a lot more incredible with two…
  • Dinners are more intimate and special with two…
  • Trips around the world to magical far off locations are more memorable with two…
  • Holidays are merrier with two…
  • Storms are easier to weather with two…
  • Love is multiplied by so much more when shared between two…

You don’t need a man like you need food, water, shelter and oxygen. I agree.

But you deeply desire a partner who is your equal on every level that fulfills the emotional needs of your heart.

Click the link to become The Magnetic Femme: Magnetic to the types of men you desire and deserve.

Where To Meet NEW Amazing Men (part 3 of 3)

Most women notice the huge gap between where they are (single) and where they want to be (in an amazing relationship with their equal).

And they think about how much TIME it’s going to take to meet him.

Plus the fact that they haven’t (yet) met him in the last 35, 40 or 45 years… so IF they even meet him is it going to take decades?

And so what do they do?

They give up.

They let PERCEIVED TIME get in the way.

​They think the gap is too large so they don’t take action at all.

But this is where the compound effect comes into play. 

If you ate a candy bar ever afternoon with your lunch, it might not seem like a lot. But let’s say that candy bar has 200 calories. Within 18 days, you’ve eaten enough extra calories to add a pound of weight. Within a year, you’ve gained 20 pounds!

Let’s say you decide to do the opposite.

To remove ONLY 200 calories from your diet every day and change nothing else.

For awhile it seems like NOTHING is happening… but after a year you’ve potentially LOST 20 pounds!

Small daily actions might not seem like much because it takes TIME to see the results of those actions.

In the case of love, what are small daily actions that you could take that would add up over time? 

For example: Every weekend I commit to going to a new location (BY MYSELF) and talking to at least one new person and smiling to at least 3 new people (because maybe one I will eventually talk to or he/she will come up to me)

… that’s at least 52 new men you are meeting a year!

For example: Rather than order my groceries online, I’m going to GO to the grocery store. And, once a week when I’m grocery shopping I’m going to complement one person (ideally a cute guy)

… imagine if you did this once a week every week – that’s another 52 new men you’re exposed to over the course of a year!

Can you think of any other small daily actions that will add up over time? Not only for your love life but for all areas of your life?

​THIS IS THE POWER OF THE COMPOUND EFFECT!!
​SMALL DAILY ACTIONS/HABITS ADD UP OVER TIME TO CREATE MASSIVE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE! 

Now that you’re changing your habits to meet new men… how do you ensure that they are attracted to you?

Great question!!!!



Within The Irresistible Woman, you’ll learn:

– The Most Attractive Trait(s) That High Quality Men Are Searching For That Make Them Want To Pursue A Woman & Commit

– The Top 3 Communication Mistakes That Repel High Quality Men & Has Them Running Away From You

– The Invisible Elements That Magnetically Attract Men To You Consistently

– How To Let Go Of the Obsessive Need to Pursue Men, Plan the Dates and Take Control

– How to Become the Woman That Men Want to Commit To

Click this link to save your spot for the masterclass! 

https://emyraldsinclaire.com/irresistible/

Where to Meet NEW High Caliber Men (part 2)

It’s time for YOU to become the center of the social hub! Rather than hoping and praying you’ll naturally run into your person or you’ll be set up by friends, take charge of your social circle by becoming the center of the social hub. 

What you are going to do is this: 

2x /month you will create a Happy Hour event

This will happen consistently at the same time every other week.

It’s simple. It’s a 2 Hour Meet-up where you invite your friends.

Then tell your friends to bring a friend/colleague.

(Now you just doubled numbers + potentials.)

Then you ask yourself who you want to get to know better? Invite them.

Then you think about who might be a romantic interest. Invite them.

New fun person you just met? Invite them.

“Next Tuesday a group of us are getting together for Happy Hour… come! And bring a friend or two!”

Let everyone know they can always bring a friend. In fact, PLEASE bring a friend!

This is low pressure. Everyone mingles with others. There isn’t the pressure of a date.

It happens twice a month… you’re constantly meeting new people that you’ll most likely get along with because they are friends of friends.

It quickly gathers momentum and gets a life of its own.

This is a wonderful way to meet new amazing people and get to know them without the formalities of a date with someone that you don’t even know!

This is how you are more efficient with your time and meeting new potential partners!

Plus it helps you stay in touch with those you love hanging out with!

Your homework: get started at being Miss Social and the life of the party… and before you know it, you’re meeting so many new amazing humans… one of which might become your person… or your person might be a connection of them and eventually show up at one of your gatherings!

Now that you are making a plan to get out there and meet new men… how do you become Irresistible to them?

Join me for my newest masterclass: The Irresistible Woman! 

Where to Meet NEW Amazing High Caliber Men (part 1 of 3)

Where to Meet NEW Amazing High Caliber Men (part 1 of 3)


I know that you’re busy. I also know you’d like to meet an amazing partner. I also know you’re most likely not into online dating. And you don’t have the time to go out every single night to a new location in order to meet men.


So what do you do? Where do you go? And how do you maximize your time so that you ARE meeting available, high-quality men IN REAL LIFE!!!?? (And once you do meet them, how do you get them to pursue you?)


In real life, you know immediately if you have chemistry.


(Whereas in online dating you have to go out and meet first to find out if you have chemistry and you like him.)


So where do you go when you decide you want to meet someone new?


If you’re like most women, you go to:

  • bars
  • wine bars
  • restaurants
  • coffee shops
  • your typical lunch spot
  • the gym
  • parties

Where you NEED to go to meet men:

>>> You need to get more creative and expand your horizons.


I want you to make a list of 100 places you could go to POTENTIALLY meet men.


100?


Yes! I’m not saying you HAVE to go to all of these place over the next month, but it expands your mindset that you COULD potentially meet your future partner at:

  • a museum
  • a library
  • an art opening
  • the amusement park
  • a dog park
  • the farmers market
  • inside an elevator
  • at a jazz club
  • a scotch tasting { trust me, more men will be here than at a wine tasting 😉 }
  • volunteering for a cause you believe in
  • lunch break at a new restaurant

It’s actually much more relaxed and easier to meet men when you’re not at the typical places … such as the bar.


At the farmers market or a baseball game (standing in line for a hot dog or beer) for example…. you already know you have something in common and you can connect at that level. Whereas if you meet a guy at a bar, you only know he values alcohol or socializing.


I actually once met an ex-partner while standing in line to enter an Abraham Hicks conference. (How amazing to have that level of spiritual connection in common?)


Now, a new locations is not enough… you have to MAKE THE MOST of these new locations.


Are you present and OFF your phone? Are you actually TALKING to NEW people?

  • Ask a guy for support on a machine when you’re at the gym.
  • Ask a cutie for his opinion on a piece of art at the opening.
  • Ask the guy behind you for his recommendation of what to eat at the bistro you visited for lunch.

I want you to look at the next month in your schedule and ask yourself two things:


1 – Is there a way to maximize what I’m already doing?

Could I talk to or meet new people at the same locations I’m always going to? (Such as going to a new class at the gym that is male dominated or NOT wearing your ear buds while working out and saying ‘hi’ to someone new.)


or


2 – Can I go to new locations as a way to get out of my routine and meet new people as a result?

Doing something you wouldn’t normally do brings you into a new circle of people! And they can turn into new friends. And one of those friends could become your person or be friends with your person! Truly, when you expand your social circle, then you are connected to THEIR social circle. So the more people you know, the more potential you have to meeting your exceptional partner!


(I’ll get more into this with part 2!)


Now that you are making a plan to get out there and meet new men… how do you become Irresistible to them?


Join me December 7th for my newest live masterclass: The Irresistible Woman!

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex?

Can you be friends with your ex?

It depends on a variety of factors.

But we can sum it up into something simple:

♥️ If you feel better when you’re around them, If they lift your energy, If they believe in empowering you to be your best self … then most likely YES! You can easily be friends with your ex.

💔 If however, the relationship was based on co-dependency + searching eternally for validation … then it’s going to be challenging to have a healthy relationship with your ex.

Find out more in the video!

How To: Success In Love & Career

👵🏼 Spending the rest of your life alone… or worse, wasting your potential with a man that can’t meet you at your level, just isn’t what you deserve.

Neither is being unhappy in a relationship, secretly desiring to have a more fulfilling partnership 💔

🧲✨Thankfully, dating a high-quality man can be easy… if you understand how to call him in… And it’s what my clients are doing…

Every.👏 Single.👏 Day.

⛔ But let me be clear, this is NOT for women who are looking for a quick fix or superficial “magazine dating tips”.

This is ONLY for the woman who wants lasting change and is willing to put in the work it takes to have a thriving career and a fulfilling romantic partnership with her equal.

✅ This method works, it has been verified by over 10,000 of my clients. 

It’s what my private client Lisa N., a successful author and entrepreneur, used to meet her high-caliber fiancé in under 4 months, after years of searching.

👰🏼🤵🏻And what Fortune 500 CEO Christina S., used to find her current husband, who she claims is “her Prince Charming & the perfect fit for me”.

If you’re reading this you probably want the same, and that’s why I created my most recent Masterclass so that you can have success BOTH in Love & Career.

… There is no catch!

💖 This masterclass is completely FREE because I want to reach as many women as possible and teach them the secrets of having a fulfilling career and love life.

I want you to watch it to understand how you can call in your high-quality partner, that fits in perfectly with your driven career life.

✨ At the end of the masterclass I also offer you the opportunity to book a Free 30 min 1-1 call with me (at a value of $500)…

AND… the chance to receive my top training on Unlocking Your Feminine Magnetism, for free. 

Why?

Because I’m committed to finding my next success stories and I’m deeply committed to my mission of helping 1,000,000 women improve their love lives! 💘

⏳This opportunity will not be up forever, as soon as the coaching spaces are filled, I’m closing the doors to this masterclass for another six months.

I want you to have it all, babe. Both in your career and in love!

💕 You no longer need to pick & choose one or the other.

Watch my masterclass here:

>>> https://emyraldsinclaire.com/truelove/

Your Friends Know Why You’re Single (Truth Tuesdays Ep 42)

Here’s a truth bomb for ya: Your friends know why you’re single! 

Let’s be real, they’ve known you forever.   They know all of your stories and your issues and your struggles. They’ve seen you interact with the opposite sex. They’ve heard all of your relationship stories.

And when it comes to your love life, let’s be real, they are definitely MORE OBJECTIVE than you are!    So, if you want to know WHY you’re single and what to change about yourself, ask a friend. 

  If you don’t mind that you’re single and are perfectly happy going to a restaurant and asking for a ‘table for one!’ then stop reading this blog.

But if you’re looking for the real reason you’re single such as:

  • “you’re a bit clingy”
  • “you totally obsess over men and smother them”
  • “You’re absolutely needy, demanding and kinda a bitch to guys.”

Then it’s important that you ask a friend who is going to be honest with you. But perhaps cushion the blow a little bit?

 

If you’ve been single forever, or your dating game seems to be a bit off, or you always attract a ‘certain type’ or the guys you like never like you back, then perhaps it is time for a serving of cold, hard truth!   A word of caution – the truth can hurt.   So make sure you’re ready to hear it.  

And then swallow your pride, get over yourself, and fix what is getting in your way to having an amazing partnership!

 

And you might want to sign up for my free masterclass coming up “Single for the Holidays? Manifest Love Now!”  

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How to GET OVER your trust issues so you can have Happily Ever After (Truth Tuesdays)

I’ve never been cheated upon. 

 

Thank god.

 

But my partner, unfortunately, has experienced the gut-wrenching pain of a significant other NOT being faithful. 

According to “Infidelity Statistics”

“It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage… And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, if you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart”

Yuck.

That means at least half of you who are reading this have engaged in infidelity or have been cheated on! 

So – if that is you, how do you tell your partner that you have trust issues? 

And more importantly, how do you GET OVER your insecurities already!? 

Find out by watching!

And make sure you do the following exercises I talk about in the video: 

1. Write your Painful Love Story and then shift it to become the HERO in your life, not the VICTIM

2. Write your Letters of Forgiveness and BURN them, baby! 

 

For those of you who are looking for clear, open, honest and conflict-free communication with your significant other, check out my Conflict to Conscious Communication course!! 

It’s a MUST for anyone looking to remove arguing, drama and fights from there relationship for good!