Ask Your Partner *this* if you want to stop fighting about the little things

Jerry and Pamela were in a horrible spot in their relationship. 

Jerry had anger issues. 

And he would BLOW UP over the smallest things. 


He wouldn’t talk about the little things that bothered him until enough had piled up to bother him and then – bam! The smallest thing would set him off. 

It got to the point where his wife didn’t want to bring up anything with her husband for fear of how he would react. (Can you relate at all?)

This is very common.


Ron and I even experience this sometimes. 


He allows a bunch of smaller annoyances to pile up but he keeps it all inside…like little pebbles piling up on a scale. It’s fine for a while, but one day, the scale is going to tip over. 

And it usually leaves one partner thinking “wtf just happened here?” 


So what can you do if you’re in this situation?


Here’s an exercise I’ve given to a LOT of my couples and it’s one that Ron and I have added to our daily routine in order to connect on a deeper level, learn more about what the other person enjoys, plus it helps us to avoid what pisses the other person off. 


Find out these two small questions to ask your partner below and how to incorporate them into your daily routine in order to experience feeling safety of being yourself and expressing your feelings in your relationship! 

Also – if you’re looking to reconnect with your partner (if the sparks seem to have faded away), I suggest the Relationship Reconnection! It’s a free 3 part video series designed to help bring love and intimacy back to the forefront of your relationship again! 

How to spot a cheating man and how to forgive a cheater (#truthtuesdays Ep 32)





Let’s be real – it sucks. 


Cheating hurts no matter who did it or who it was done to. 


It’s a violation of trust. 


And it definitely shows that the person is unavailable for love. 


So how do you spot a cheating man or woman? 


Versus how do you spot the faithful type?! 


Today – I teach you (with the help of some visual aids) how to spot those red flags and RUN versus when to  proceed full-steam ahead!!


Plus as a little bonus, I give you the FOUR F’s….


How to actually FORGIVE a cheater and move the EFF on!!

For anyone who is single and actively looking for love and would actually be super pumped to STOP searching for love and actually MANIFEST love this year…. then “Attract the One” is for you! It’s my PREMIER program for singles looking to attract love within 8 weeks!



What would you GIVE UP for love? (#TruthTuesdays Ep 24)

I recently led a weekend workshop and asked the women to tell me their heart’s desire! 

This was easy for them and answers ranged from ‘Meeting an amazing man and getting married.’ to ‘living happily ever after with the love of my life!’ 

But then I asked a harder question: What would you be willing to GIVE UP for love? 

This stumped them. 


Would you be willing to give up your stubborn idea of what ‘the one’ looks like? Would you be willing to let go of your anger towards your mother? Would you be willing to give up your control issues? Would you be willing to let down your guard? 


ALL OF MY CLIENTS have blocks in their way to experiencing the love life they crave. 

That’s why it hasn’t happened for them yet. And it’s also why the come to me for help. 

Today, I’m sharing with you a powerful process to release the blocks you have that are getting in your way. 

It’s a simple process that will take you 15 minutes. Carve out some time to watch the video and follow the steps I outline for you! 

When the process is complete, you will be 100% more available and ready to attract the one to you! 


Truth Tuesdays with Love Coach Emyrald Sinclaire


46 Questions That Will Help You Fall In Love With Your Partner Again

What would you think if I told you that in only 46 questions, you could fall in love with a stranger? 
Or re-fall in love with your significant other!? 
It’s EXACTLY how Ron and I fell in love…. 

I found this list online talking about certain questions that couples asked each other…and they fell in love!

I have long since forgotten the website and which study it was related to but the premise was that as two strangers go deeper and deeper into getting to know one another, they create a bond of intimacy. 
And in this particular study, going through the questions actually caused two strangers to fall in love and some to even get married! 
But maybe not.
Maybe we don’t actually spend enough time deepening our connection to our love; getting to know who they are and what makes them tick. 
When you feel heard and seen, a bond is formed. 
And get this, my partner and I did go through all the questions that were on that test over the course of a month or two (we were dating long-distance).
We finished the questions the same weekend we took  a trip together and told each other ‘I love you.’
The proof is in the pudding (yes, calling myself pudding, I guess). 
Try it for yourself and see what happens! 
The Rules of the Game
  1. One or two word answers are NOT allowed
  2. “You already know that” is not a valid answer
  3. Skipping the question is not allowed. 
  1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  5. Would you ever serenade someone with a song? 
  6. Would you like to live to the age of 120? Why or why not?
  7. Name three things we have in common
  8. Name three things you like about me.
  9. Name three things you like about yourself. 
  10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? 
  11. Would you rather have grown up with JUST your mom or JUST your dad? 
  12. If you could wake up tomorrow and be different in ONE way, what would it be? 
  13. If I had a crystal ball and could tell you one thing about your future, what would you like to know? 
  14. What is your favorite thing about the opposite sex? 
  15. What makes your heart melt and go gooey? 
  16. What is something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? 
  17. What’s your biggest regret in life? How can you remedy it? 
  18. If you could write a book on our life together, what would you title it? 
  19. If you lost one of your senses tomorrow, which one would you choose to lose and why? Which one would be the worst to lose and why? 
  20. What is your most treasured memory? 
  21. What is your most hurtful memory? 
  22. What are the traits of some of your best friends? 
  23. If you knew you were going to die in a year, what would you change about your life? 
  24. Make three ‘we’ statements that I would agree to as well. 
  25. In what ways has being in love made a positive impact on your life? 
  26. In what ways have you allowed fear to get in the way of the life of your dreams? 
  27. If we were best friends, instead of partners, what is one thing you’d tell me this week that you wouldn’t tell your spouse? 
  28. When was the last time you cried? Why? 
  29. Tell me something that inspires you! 
  30. When was the last time you got in a fight with someone? What happened? 
  31. What, if anything, is too serious to joke about? 
  32. Tell your partner your life story in 5 minutes. Tell it in a way that is different from what they might know. 
  33. Tell your partner your biggest heart-break story. Re-frame the story into how the pain brought you to where you are today and why you are grateful for it. 
  34. What is your favorite thing about me? 
  35. What is your favorite thing about yourself? 
  36. Are you close with your mom? What annoys you about your mom? What do you love about your mom? 
  37. Same questions as above about your father. 
  38. If you were to die tonight and couldn’t communicate to anyone, what would you want someone to know that you haven’t said yet? Why haven’t you said it? 
  39. If your house was on fire and you had time to grab 3 things, what would they be? 
  40. Of all the people in your family, who do you look up to the most? 
  41. Of all the people in your family, who do you wish you had a deeper connection with? 
  42. Of all the people in your family, whose death would bother you the most? 
  43. Share a personal problem with me and ask for my advice. 
  44. Share a personal problem with me and I’ll just listen and won’t offer a reply. 
  45. If I were to die unexpectedly, what would you like me to know that you have never said to me? 
  46. What would you like your legacy to be after you are dead and gone? 
For the finale- set a timer for 4 minutes and simply stare into your partner’s eyes without speaking. 

Trust me. This works. I can tell you from experience! 

Comment below how it goes for you. 
AND – if you’re looking for even MORE ways to deepen the connection with your partner, sign up for the Relationship Reconnection! A free 3 part series that is guaranteed to deepen the love and connection between the two of you and potentially save you from a messy break-up!

35 of the Best Ice Breaking Questions for the 1st Date

Are you one of the 124.6 million U.S. adults who are single? 

And if so, have you ever been on a first date?

Have you ever been stuck in the awkward silence where neither of you can figure out how to fill the gap of words…

Except for something really lame like:

So, what do you do for fun?

Let’s be real.

Being captivating on the first date is super important. 

In fact, most men form their opinions about a women within 10 minutes of the date. Women give it 60 minutes.


So that means you don’t have too much time to make a great impression. 


Don’t waste it with typical questions like:

What do you do for work? 

What do you like to do in your free time? 

These questions are boring and honestly won’t give you too much insight into who this person is and if their ‘waters run deep’ so to speak.

Why not, instead, be the date he can’t forget!? 

Why not leave your date wanting more!?

Why not be smart and white and clever while also getting to know the person sitting across the table from you!? 

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Without further ado, here are my top 35 ice breaking questions for the 1st (or 40th!) date! 


1. Which three words describe you best?

2. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this week?

3. What did you want to be when you grew up?

4. What is the longest word you know?

5. What is the best praise or advice you’ve received?

6. What was your favorite birthday or Christmas present?

7. Where would you like to be in five years time?

8. If money was not a concern what would you do every day if you didn’t work?

9. What is the best/worst/cheesiest pickup up line you’ve heard or said or had been said to you?

10. What do you think about chick flicks and which was the last one you saw?

11. Who’s the person in your own life you admire most?

12. What do you hate most about meeting someone on a first date?

13. What is the most expensive thing you have ever bought?

14. Were you closer to your mom or your dad when you were younger?

15. What would your closest friends tell me about you?

16. If you had your own talk show, who would your first three guests be?

17. It’s Saturday morning. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?

18. If you could have been told one thing that you weren’t told when you were a teenager, what would you like to have heard?

19. What do you keep in the trunk of your car?

20. What’s the most romantic place you’ve ever visited?

21. Who is the most famous person you’ve had a face to face encounter with?

22. If you knew you could not fail, what would you do?

23. If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?

24. What’s your biggest pet peeve?

25. Can you comfortably eat in a restaurant by yourself? Go to a movie?

26. If you could snap your fingers and appear somewhere else, where would you be?


Would you rather….

27. Find true love or win 10 million dollars?

28. Be rich and ugly or poor and beautiful?

29. Date someone who is 10 years younger than you or someone who is 10 years older?

30. Marry someone who your parents choose for you or spend the rest of your life single?

31. Be the funniest person in the room or the most intelligent?

32. Win $50,000 or let your best friend win $500,000?

33. Have a baby at 10 or a baby at 60?

34. Live in space or under the sea?

35. Lose your sense of touch or your sense of smell?


Now obviously it goes without saying, don’t simply pull out the piece of paper and read off the questions to your date.

Have these questions in the back of your mind and use them to get the conversation flowing and to find out more about this stranger in front of you.

Otherwise, the date can get real awkward real fast.

And your date will NOT look back on the date as memorable and be licking his/her chops to see you again!

Instead, date with confidence. Be a little silly and sassy and allow your true personality to shine through!


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