7 Reasons to LOVE being Single during the Holidays (or any time of year for that matter)

Newsflash: being single during the holidays can massively suck.

(And in other news, the sky is blue, the snow is white, and eggnog is disgusting)

But guess what, lady?!

Being SINGLE during the holidays can actually be the ‘most wonderful time of the year.’

So before you drown your sorrows in a cup of whiskey and hot cocoa…

Why not FIRST focus on these 7 AMAZING reasons why being single during the holidays is actually an awesome thing! (plus, I give you one extra bonus reason….so stick around until the end!)

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7 Reasons to LOVE being single for the Holidays!

1. Quality Time with Friends and Family

This is a wonderful time to deepen the connection with those that are already in your life! Instead of focusing on why you’re oh-so-alone, why don’t  you put more energy into relationships with those that you already love!? Or the family members that you only see once a year!?

You’re already surrounded by loved ones. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and have a great time with those amazing people that already love and adore you, baby!


2. Pamper Yo’self

And that’s an order!

Guess what?

You have no significant other to spend money on in the form of gifts, booze, dinners, etc. 

So save that money and spend it on you!

Have you had your eye on something special for you for a while? Well NOW is the perfect time to get yourself those pair of shoes, or new phone or put the money aside for a trip. You get the idea!

On a side note – If you are stressing that you’re alone, NOW is the time to learn these 3 ways to become Irresistible. 


3. Work it out, baby

Instead of moping around feeling sorry for yourself, use your free time to work out! Get in shape. Get in better shape! Head to the gym with your single girlfriends instead of having another martini after work.

This is the perfect time to actually utilize your free time towards something productive….like taking care of that beautiful body of yours!


4. Socialize and Be Merry

When you’re single….you get to meet MORE people! So get out there and socialize because you’re not going to be single forever. Enjoy the fact that you can unabashedly meet and flirt with everyone at the party (until you find out they are taken, of course).

And on another side note, you actually don’t have to worry about fights with your significant other. And for some reason, they seem to come up a lot during the holidays! Fights about money, fights about family, fights about who has to shovel this time, etc…


5. Tell peeps you’re single

For some reason, during the holidays us coupled people like to set up our single friends! So this is great time to announce to the world that you’re single. And that you’re totally open to being set up on blind dates. And that you’d totally love to tag along with couples to their functions. You’d be amazing at how FULL your social calendar can become!

Fun Story…

One Single Year – one of my married friends invited me to their Jewish family holiday Hanukkah party! It was so much fun and totally amazing! I learned so much. I ate new food. I got hit on by 80 year old uncles. AND I didn’t necessarily have to worry about being polite to the snobby aunt that no-one could stand to be around, because they weren’t my family!

Ha! You just never know what will happen when you’re open to tagging along to everyone else’s events!


6. Start your Resolutions Early

Want to read 50 books next year? Start making the list and buying the books.

Resolve to get yourself to the gym 5 days a week? Start going now!

Want to take the trip of a lifetime? Start saving now and looking up flights!

You get the idea. Use this extra time to start working on you and what makes you happy and feel fulfilled in life. Instead of focusing on the lack and what you don’t have.

Which is pretty much the fastest way to feel bad about yourself and get stuck in your misery.


7. Holiday Guilty Pleasures

I once ate an entire pumpkin pie in one sitting in high school.

And I’ve done it again since.


Because I LOVE pumpkin pie.

And I had no one to share it with.

Now I’m not saying you should sit around and stuff your face with bonbons.

But the point I’m trying to make is that if you want to sit around in comfy pajamas all weekend and watch the Hallmark channel holiday movie marathon for 36 hours straight…

Well you can do just that, now can’t you?

And if you’re obsessed with holiday music, well you can sing ‘Single Bells, Single Bells’ at the top of your lungs while drinking a bottle (or two) of wine on Christmas Eve, now can’t you???


8. In Laws.

Seriously. Need I elaborate more on that bonus reason?

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How to GET OVER your trust issues so you can have Happily Ever After (Truth Tuesdays)

I’ve never been cheated upon. 


Thank god.


But my partner, unfortunately, has experienced the gut-wrenching pain of a significant other NOT being faithful. 

According to “Infidelity Statistics”

“It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage… And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, if you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart”


That means at least half of you who are reading this have engaged in infidelity or have been cheated on! 

So – if that is you, how do you tell your partner that you have trust issues? 

And more importantly, how do you GET OVER your insecurities already!? 

Find out by watching!

And make sure you do the following exercises I talk about in the video: 

1. Write your Painful Love Story and then shift it to become the HERO in your life, not the VICTIM

2. Write your Letters of Forgiveness and BURN them, baby! 


For those of you who are looking for clear, open, honest and conflict-free communication with your significant other, check out my Conflict to Conscious Communication course!! 

It’s a MUST for anyone looking to remove arguing, drama and fights from there relationship for good!

How to spot a cheating man and how to forgive a cheater (#truthtuesdays Ep 32)





Let’s be real – it sucks. 


Cheating hurts no matter who did it or who it was done to. 


It’s a violation of trust. 


And it definitely shows that the person is unavailable for love. 


So how do you spot a cheating man or woman? 


Versus how do you spot the faithful type?! 


Today – I teach you (with the help of some visual aids) how to spot those red flags and RUN versus when to  proceed full-steam ahead!!


Plus as a little bonus, I give you the FOUR F’s….


How to actually FORGIVE a cheater and move the EFF on!!

For anyone who is single and actively looking for love and would actually be super pumped to STOP searching for love and actually MANIFEST love this year…. then “Attract the One” is for you! It’s my PREMIER program for singles looking to attract love within 8 weeks!



Why MANifesting a high quality partner is hard (Truth Tuesdays Ep. 31)


You know what you want…


An amazing partnership with a man or woman who loves you and respects you…

and let’s be real…the sex is ah-maze-ZING!!  🙂


So – why don’t you have what you want? 


Because there is one little (OK HUGE) thing getting in your way. 


In today’s episode of #TruthTuesdays, I give it to you straight with a side of sassy!


Why MAN-ifesting a good man is so gosh darn difficult! 


And the proven 3 step process (that I refer to as the ‘three c’s’) to SHIFT your beliefs and manifestation process so that you actually CAN manifest true love. 


Watch and learn and be prepared to be blown away at what you learn, my dear!



Psst….hey you!


Yes, you.


The one still reading because you LOVED the video and you’re hoping for some MORE secrets to love and manifestation. 
If you are READY to cut through the BS excuses…


If you are READY for a loving and cherishing partner…


If you’d like to STOP the patterns of lame-ass dudes in your life…


If you’d like to stop being SCARED that you’ll be alone forever…


Then quite honestly, we need to talk. 


I have the solution for you. 


Click here to find out what it is, love. 




THIS is what my man did to attract me in you’re probably not going to guess it! (truth tuesdays ep 30)

If you’re a woman looking for a spiritual man, I have great news for you! 

Your man is also doing the work to ATTRACT YOU IN!

This weekend my man and I were talking about the start of our relationship and he shared with me EXACTLY what he did weeks before he met me. 


And obviously it worked! 

If you’re a man and want to learn what it is he did…watch below! 

If you’re a woman looking for social proof that there are spiritual men out there doing the work to attract in their perfect match…watch below! 


And I’m sure it goes without saying…then YOU have to do the work to attract THE ONE to you!!

Looking to ATTRACT THE ONE!? Join my “Attract the One” mini course! 

Learn EXACTLY what you need to do every single day to put yourself in the position to meet the love of your life! It’s a simple 7 step process to put into action every single day in order to manifest the love of your life. 

Click here to manifest the love of your life!

How to Forgive your Ex and Why this Helps you ATTRACT Love (truth tuesdays ep 28)

Do you find it hard to forgive your ex? 

Do you still harbor resentment towards a past (or current) lover who has betrayed your trust? 

I hate to be the one to tell you so bluntly but you HAVE to let that go if you are going to actually be in a healthy and happy long-term relationship with the love of your life!!

Stick with me here, in the short video below I show you EXACTLY how to forgive someone who has betrayed your trust so that you can create space for a truly fulfilling relationship that gives you everything your heart craves for! 

Such as: safety, security, trust, happiness, love, desire, and fulfillment!


How to Forgive Someone Who Has Betrayed You


Looking to reconnect on a  deeper level with your significant other?

Join the Relationship Reconnection! A FREE 3 part series designed to help you deepen your connection with your partner, increase the intimacy between the two of you, and bring love to the forefront of your relationship again.

Envision, Manifest, Create the Love of your life with these 3 questions (#TruthTuesdays Ep 25)

Would you like to learn how to ENVISION the love life of your wildest dreams!? 


Would you like to know without a doubt what is standing in your way to having the love you crave? 


Would you also like to know what you have to do and who you have to be in order to realize the love of your life!? 


There is a process called Envisioning that will give you the CLEAR answers to the questions above.


If you’re looking to consciously create the love life of your dreams, then Envisioning is the process meant for you! 


And if you’re familiar with visualization, this is an entirely different process! So watch and learn, my dear!


Looking for a super high quality man? You gotta be THIS first….

Have you noticed lately that you’re dating duds?

That men only want ‘one thing’?

And that no matter where you look, there are just ‘no good men out there!’?

If you answered ‘YES!” to all three questions, you are NOT alone, sister.

While it might seem like there’s an epidemic and shortage of high quality men ‘out there’, I’m going to be the one to look you in the eye and say ‘you gotta look in the mirror first, sweetie.’

If you are NOT with a high quality man who simply adores and cherishes you and treats you like a Princess…


It’s absolutely because YOU are NOT being a high quality woman. 


Like energy attracts like energy.

We do NOT attract to us what we WANT.


We attract to us what we ARE. 


So if you want a high quality man who is better than any man you’ve ever dated in the past, what have you got to do!?


BE the high quality woman unlike anything you’ve ever been in the past!


How do you step up into the best version of yourself possible so that you are truly ready for your Prince Charming?

21 ways of a high quality woman by love coach emyrald sinclaire

  1. Listen

Have you ever been guilty of interrupting?

Or waiting for someone to finish their sentence so that you can jump in and offer your amazing and superior opinion!?

Of course you have!

There are two issues that survey said are the hugest frustrations that men have with women. (Number 1 reason I go over later on in #19…)

The second biggest issue men have with women is their inability to listen to them. They ask a question. Get impatient while waiting for the answer, and interrupt their man. Or answer the question for them. Or start to listen to the answer and assume they can answer it better and interject.

Ringing any bells here?

Men do take longer to answer questions than a woman, on average.

In fact, one of the biggest frustrations women have with men is the amount of time it takes them to actually answer a question!

Give your man space to process. To think. And then when he actually replies, bite your tongue. Give him time to get it all out.

Or else, he’s simply going to clam up in the future and not answer your questions at all.


2. Don’t make assumptions 

There’s a saying that goes:


To assume is to make an ASS out of U and Me.


Don’t assume 1 single thing in your relationship. Ever. Or in life for that matter.

Making assumptions is the fastest way to try to prove that “I’m right and you’re wrong.”

Instead, open yourself up. Ask questions. Why does this person act a certain way? Why did he not call you when he said he would?

Being able to be open without making assumptions is incredibly sexy.

Also, you’ll get out of the horrible pattern of self-sabotage via mind fucks, as I like to call it.

You know, the good ole: He didn’t call me. That means he’s with another woman. He totally didn’t think I was funny enough, sexy enough, good enough. I suck. I’ll always be alone. I’ll never attract in a good man. 

You see where simply assumptions can take you?


3. See things from HIS point of view

Instead of trying to be right….instead of trying to persuade another human being to believe your point of view…

Why not just try to see things from someone else’s point of view?

How many times have you put your foot in your mouth?

Remember that everything we think…. are simply based on personal belief systems.

What are ‘absolute truths’ anyway?

I’m sure we could collectively think of a few that we all agree on:


Ok – that’s all I got.

But ultimately, the way someone was raised affects how they believe and think and thereby the way to perceive their reality.

Who are you to say that it’s wrong?

So much can come from an open mind of being willing to understand and see another’s point of view.

When you make it a point to understand the other person instead of judge or change the other person, the energetics of the relationship shift in a huge way!


4.Accept what is 

I have Byron Katie to thank for this!

The quickest way to live a life of pain and struggle and misery is to live in a reality that you wish was different from the present one.

You live in a world of ‘should’ and ‘should nots’ instead of the world of ‘what is.’

When we can shift our awareness to a simply acceptance that: this is my life. And I love it. And I accept it.

This is when we step it up on the scale of quality as a human being.

When we accept what is, we no longer gripe. We no longer complain. We no longer struggle and push to make things fit into a mold of what we believe in our minds is socially acceptable.

Instead, when we are open to accepting what is, we are essentially open to the miracles that can unfold simply because we are in alignment with life.

Now if that isn’t high quality, I’m not sure what is.


5. Be present

This is the quickest way to being a high quality human being.

Living in the moment.

Without being stuck in the past or anxious about the future.

When you’re simply present with what is in front of you – your man, your job, your boss, etc – you are fully available to the wonders of life!

Too often we are caught up in our minds. Which equates to living in the past and living in the future about 99% of the time.

A high quality human being lives in the present moment as much as is possible.

Because life happens in the present moment.

“Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.” – Alice Morse Earle

6. Put his needs first

This one could be confusing because number 9 I tell you to ‘remember your needs’. But what I mean is this: any long term healthy relationship is more about giving than receiving.


And the more you give, the more you get.


Can you imagine if the main focus of your relationship was ‘how can I help my partner to feel love and to feel good?’

If BOTH partners are focusing on how to be the best partner for the other person….

Then you have two very happy and loving people simply in LOVE in their relationship…

Deepening their ability to love and be loved.


7. Touch him, be sensual 

I’m sure this one is a bit obvious.

But don’t be shy to touch. Human beings crave touch.

Don’t forget to touch a man in a sensual way.

Just because he’s a man doesn’t mean he doesn’t crave intimacy and sensuality.

Heck – don’t forget to touch YOURSELF  in a sensual way.


8. Open up emotionally 

Being closed up because you’ve been hurt in the past….

Not sexy.

Not high quality.

It shows that you haven’t healed your past. And if your past is not healed, how can you be fully present in the your next relationship?

You cannot.

Even opening up to share past pains and hurts is a sign of emotional stability. Don’t be afraid of your emotions. Instead, embrace them. You are a woman who runs around with a body filled with intense emotions at any given moment!

Don’t you dare close up that side of you. That’s your most feminine side. And the sexiest side, too.


9. Care about yourself; remember YOUR needs 

You can only offer that which you have yourself first.


You cannot give from an empty cup.


Fill your cup up first, and you’ll have so much more too give!

Do not be selfless.

I repeat: selfless is not sexy.

Care for yourself. This shows that you are number 1 priority. And a high quality man will see how much you love and respect and adore yourself and want to offer that exact type of treatment to you!


10. Play and have fun

Have fun!! Life is meant to be enjoyed. It’s absolutely unattractive to be serious and uptight all of the time. Couples that laugh together, stay together!

So in what ways can you add more joy to your life today? What activities can you do that you simply ADORE doing?

Men love women and they love our pleasure!

So be open about what pleases you. Laugh often and fill your life with what fills you up!


11. Blow Jobs 

Tee hee. See this article. Enough said.


12. Trust and respect him

There are so many ways that women ruin relationships (men, too!) and that relationships end.

But the most common reason I’ve seen as to why the woman leaves: she stops trusting her man.

And then it spirals downward from there.

As she loses trust for him, she stops respecting him. This leads to a clash of opinions and a battle for control.

And 9 times out of 10, it ends in a horrible breakup.

A way to prevent this?


Trust and respect YOURSELF first.


Truly. Madly. Deeply.

Be the best version of you that you can be. Trust your opinions and don’t second guess them. Know that you’ve doing the best you can with the tools that you have at the moment.

And then give your partner the benefit of the doubt.


13. Understand the dynamics of the masculine and feminine

Opposites attract. One masculine energy and one feminine energy. Understanding these differences and learning how to soften into your feminine essence so that you can attract in a masculine man is extremely important to a healthy and high quality relationship.

Furthermore, the more you ‘know and understand’ yourself and the energies of YOU, the more the man you attract in will understand himself.

This makes for a very mature, high quality relationship.


14. Learn to be your most feminine self (if you are indeed the feminine energy)

Looking for help? My Irresistibility 101 masterclass is the route for you!!

This means not having to be in control! This means being able to go with the flow. This means allowing the guy to take the lead and make decisions.

This also means respecting his lead. This also means respecting his choices.

So many women try to control their relationships and control their men like they try to control their lives.

But guess what?!

You have control only over (maybe) 5% of your life.

The rest of it…..?

Feminine flow, baby.

Jump in the river and trust.

Allow the current to bring you downstream to the most amazing adventures….

Instead of staying your masculine energy and trying to control EVERYTHING.


15. Wait to have sex

It’s extremely challenging to go from ‘friends with benefits’ to ‘dating.’ Waiting to have sex shows that you respect your body and who you allow into that private and sacred space. If a man ‘gets sex’ from you right away, it shows him that you are easy. That you don’t respect your body. That you are certainly not a temple and deserve to be treated as a prize that has to be worked for and earned.

And guaranteed, he’s going to be thinking: ‘well if she gave it up that easy to me, how many other men has she slept with?’

Men are competitive. They want to know that you’re their one and only.

If you ‘give it away’ without establishing a connection and an agreement of monogamy and continuity, you’ve pretty much assured that the relationship will not progress into an intimate relatinoship.

Want to learn more on this? Check out my recent #truthtuesdays episode! 


16. Be loyal 

I’m sure this one is pretty obvious. But let me explain a bit further than simply ‘not cheating’ on your man.

Being loyal to your man also means that you trust him.

You respect his beliefs and his opinions. You don’t counter what he said about a subject with something along the lines of: “Well, John/my dad/my brother/my boss/ the homeless man on the corner said that…”

That is a huge act of disloyalty. Essentially you are showing him that some other ‘man’ trumps him. And that is not loyalty.

You want to prove from the very beginning that you are a woman who stands behind her man. You respect his opinions.

Loyalty also means supporting your man and sticking up for him. Being his vice president. Someone he knows that always has his back regardless of what the world throws at him.

Men have feelings, too. And it can be hard for them to open up. By being loyal to a man from the very beginning, he feels safe to open up to you!


17. Be vulnerable 

Many women have the notion that being vulnerable equates with being weak.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.


A woman in touch with her feelings and emotions is absolutely vulnerable with strength.


In fact, some of my greatest moments of closeness with my man have been when I’ve been most open and most vulnerable with my feelings and my pain.

Being a strong powerful woman equates with knowing and understanding her emotions.

Notice I didn’t say she controls her emotions. On the contrary, she understands her emotions. She let’s them powerfully move through her and understands that they are there to offer wisdom and guidance. She does not allow her emotions to control her.

Your emotions are there for a reason. They are your guide. Trust them.

Be vulnerable with your man and it shows strength and quality as a woman.


18. Be honest

Don’t you want a man to be honest with you no matter what!? Don’t you really want to know what’s on his mind and what he really thinks of you?

Of course you do!

That’s why you have to be courageous and be honest with everyone in your life no matter what.

I’m NOT saying to speak without a filter.

Kindness goes a long way.

But what I’m saying is to always be honest with your feelings and your opinions and to certainly act with integrity based on your belief systems.

Otherwise you know what happens?

Deceit. Jealousy. Mistrust.

It only takes ONCE to be caught in a lie and to lose someone’s trust forever.


19. Don’t be petty or gossip 

This is the lowest quality action you can take. And it’s also the number 1 thing men can’t stand about women! (I know. I surveyed over 100 men ages 20 to 80 and it ranked on top of the biggest frustration men have with women)

It’s not attractive. It lowers your own personal vibration. And it certainly changes the opinions of what others think of you.

Want more proof? Check out ‘Winning Friends and Influencing People’ by Dale Carnegie. Still a best seller almost 100 years later!


20. Do your own personal growth work, first 

We all carry baggage with us from past relationships: relationships with our parents, lovers, colleagues, etc.

If you’re naive enough to think that they aren’t carried forward into present relationships, well then I have news for you!


You will always repeat the patterns of your past until you break that pattern - quote by love coach emyrald sinclaire


yes, tweet that wisdom!

Unravel yourself first before you jump into a relationship. Relationships are vehicles for spiritual growth. A partner does not fix/complete/save/etc you.


The more of a complete individual you can be on your own…..the more complete of an individual you will attract in.


But on the other end of the specturm, if you are needy or possessive and 50% of a whole looking for her other half, well guess what?

You’ll attract in a  relationship based on possessiveness and neediness of an incomplete and unhealthy human being.


21. BE the energy you want to attract 

This one is my favorite! At any given moment in our lives, we are vibrating at a certain frequencycy. And that is the energy we are broadcasting out into the universe. So the next time you find yourself in a  certain situation and thinking to yourself: “Ugh, why the hell do I always end up with unavailable men?” its time to look in the mirror, sister.

In what ways are you unavailable?

If men are consistently blowing you off, or showing up late to dates or not responding to your texts, ask yourself in what ways in your life are you blowing off others? Are you also not respecting the time of others?


We get what we ARE, not what we WANT.


Tattoo that to your forehead so you see it every time you look in the mirror.

This is the law of the Universe. You get what you give.

Every single time.