How do you continuously up level your relationships, getting closer and closer to what you desire in partnership?
Versus getting stuck on a merry-go-round of the same person (just with a different name, face + shoe size) over and over and over again?
It’s all about your mentality + focus.
In one scenario, you’re in lack mentality and focusing upon what is NOT working. Those are the individuals who complain about ‘no good men in town‘ and ‘bad first dates‘ and how they’ll ‘never find someone.’ If you place your personal power OUTSIDE of you, you’re REACTING to life, and then you’ll always be the victim and the right relationship (if it even happens) will be a happy accident.
But more likely than not, you will NOT get into a happy relationship because you’re stuck in a lack mindset leaving love up to chance. And since you get what you focus upon and what you believe you can have, then your relationships will be a reflection of that lack mentality.
In the second scenario where you are continuously up leveling your relationships, you are taking 100% responsibility for your life + dating experiences understanding that the external world is simply a reflection of your internal world.
What do I mean by that?
It means every date, every encounter, every relationship is showing you both the healed + unhealed parts of you. It’s showing you:
1 – The work you’ve done to be in alignment with love + the relationship you desire
but also
2 – The work that STILL needs to be done in order to be ready for the relationship that you desire
For example:
Let’s say you meet an amazing man who seems to check all the boxes you desire in a parter but…
He’s just getting divorced and not looking for anything serious right now. He wants to play the field and get back in the game, not yet committing to one person right now.
So how could you adopt the healthy mindset that brings you closer to the relationship you desire? (Versus what most women do which is some variation of, “See? No good men in town. It’s so hard to meet men who are emotionally available and ready for a relationship.”)
1 – You celebrate all the positive characteristics and qualities in this man! You attracted in a catch and the universe is showing you that what you want exists and is possible for you!
2 – You use it as a mirror for yourself: where are YOU not yet ready to commit? Where are YOU not fully emotionally available for a relationship?
I suggest you pull out a journal right now and do this work on ALL past relationships + dates so that you can continuously up level and move forward towards what you want by:
1 – Bringing the energy of celebration and “I’m getting closer,” into your dating world!
But also,
2 – Looking for all the ways that you are not yet aligned for the relationship that you want. When you find the opportunities for growth and learn those lessons, then you don’t have to learn them again.
In theory. 😉
Look, I’ll be honest with you: sometimes we have to learn the same lesson over and over again. So, it’s important to practice loving kindness towards yourself. To be compassionate, understanding and non-judgmental. You’re doing the best you can with the tools that you have and it’s completely ok to misstep + stumble along the way.
But what’s more important to remember is this: if a dream or desire was placed in your heart, you are meant + made to manifest it!
And this is true for partnership.
The only ‘work’ you really need to do is:
1- Believing in yourself that you are worthy of love
and
2 – Believing that what you want exists
and
3 – Becoming the woman who is ready for the type of partnership she craves in the interim
How to do so?
>> Click here to EMBODY the version of yourself who is ready for partnership today!