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So I actually sat down and mapped out step by step how the hell I was going to manifest the love of my life, the man of my dreams.
And you know what happened as a result?
Like at all.
Instead, I’m going to show you how it CAN work in your favor!
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If you follow the steps I’m sharing with you today you will:
Rumi, one of my favorite poets, once said:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
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And that is what you’ve got to do, my dear.
Don’t LOOK for love as OUTSIDE of you. Instead, remove all the blocks and barriers you’ve created INSIDE of you to love.
Sounds woo-woo but it really is as simple as that.
Let’s do this!!!!!
Before you can actually change your life for the better and attract in the love of your life, you actually need to commit to it happening.
You need to be hell-bent on the outcome happening for you!
You need to push aside any worries or fears that it’s not going to work out.
You need to get rid of any sorry-ass excuses that “I’m too ugly/fat/boring/tired/busy to manifest love”.
Instead, COMMIT to yourself that love is available to you right in this moment and you will stop at nothing to get it.
okay?
You can’t always get what you want. That’s for sure. (cue Rolling Stones song….)
And sometimes we don’t even get what we need.
But what I’ve figured out in my life is that I usually (if not 100% of the time) get what I COMMIT to and put my mind to and work my ass off towards getting….
What’s that? I can’t run my own wildly successful love coaching business online, mister neigh sayer ?
Just you fucking watch me!
And then I commit to making it happen and then BAM! Less than 3 months later, I have a schedule full of clients and am building various online programs that already have a waiting list.
Commitment.
That’s the difference between WANTING something in life and actually GETTING something in life.
So, when you actually DECIDE that you’re ready for your soulmate in your life (and this is no small feat because you will have to face your SHIT and own up to it on a daily basis), you have to COMMIT to it.
Just like getting married, baby.
Anything less than a 120% commitment, well, that’s the relationship you’re going to get. Half-assed.
Okay, this one is a bit more challenging for some people, because we are a tangled mess of fears and insecurities and ‘yeah, but…’ that even though you say the affirmations and journal and dream and whatever else woo-woo shit that I suggest you do….
If you don’t actually BELIEVE it can happen for you deep down inside, it WON’T happen for you.
(I elaborate MORE on this concept in my recent blog post – so I’m not going to go into it here. Read the post. Then come back, mmmkay?)
So, spend a couple minutes figuring out what your current belief systems are in regards to love and a good way to do it is as follows:
I’m not saying you have to publicly post on Facebook that you are looking for your soulmate and currently taking applications. (although you certainly can if you want to. I saw someone do it once and I thought “Hells yes! Good for him. Putting himself out there and letting the world know he is ready!”)
But what it does mean is this:
I love this part! This is where you get to sit down and journal EXACTLY what you want Mister/Missus Right to look like, smell like, feel like, etc.
Our subconscious mind operates in pictures and feelings.
So – get clear on what your perfect life with this perfect person is going to LOOK like. And I highly suggest you get super duper clear in what you want. And please DON’T write what you don’t want. Only focus on what you DO want. Nothing is too trivial. Put it all in there!
And then sit your pretty self down for at least 10 minutes a day and DREAM. See this vision clearly in your mind’s eye and FEEL it like it was happening today.
That’s an order, young lady!
I know, easier said than done. But this step has to happen.
Work on forgiving yourself.
Forgive past lovers and old partners.
You NEED to create space for this NEW love to enter your life.
Another great analogy (because I love them)….
Imagine you were walking through a prairie of waist high grass.
You walk through it once.
Most likely, no one will be able to tell you were there….
But, if you walk it over and over and over again…
A path is formed!
So, train yer brain!
What NEW PATHWAYS are you going to create?
We have spent years and years and years creating certain paths and belief systems and a lot of the time….they aren’t even our belief systems! They were handed down to us by society or by our parents or friends!
You tell the story of how you were hurt in the past, or why daddy didn’t love you, or how you were left at the alter on your wedding day…..YAWN!
Stop it already!
The more you tell the same old sorry stories, the more you tell the universe that is what you expect to continue to happen with your life.
Instead, start telling a new story of how you always meeting amazing and loving people. Of how you are excited to go to new events because of the people you are going to meet. Of how much you fricken love yourself and love your life and are looking forward to so many new amazing experiences in your future!
You get me, here?
It takes a village, baby.
When I was seriously ready to let go of my old limiting belief systems, you know what I did?
Yeah, duh.
No body can (or should) go at ‘it’ alone.
Think about professional athletes – they have coaches! They don’t decide one day to stop training because they are good at what they do. Nope, they seek help and get better!
And you know what else?
Some days you feel like crap. Your emotions get the better of you (especially if you’re a woman!) and you feel like there is no hope in sight. So you cuddle up with a gallon of Ben and Jerry’s.
But if you have a support system on hand – those moments won’t last long and they will be few and far between!
So – take a good hard look at your friends – are they building you up or tearing you down? Are you cheering you on or agreeing with you when you say there are no good men out there?
And guess what – when you’re soulmate comes along….shit comes up!
My relationship with my man can be challenging. He’s a beautiful mirror of issues in myself that I have not healed.
And if I didn’t have friends/mentors/coaches that I could turn to when the shit hits the fan….well most likely we still wouldn’t be together. It’s constant work, my friends. And it never ends.
You’ve set the intention. You’ve done the work. Now what?
Keep doing the work!
Keep taking the steps to improve yourself.
Clear out emotional baggage.
Get your mind on track and stop thinking silly old limiting beliefs.
Take care of your beautiful body – hikes, yoga, gym time, whatever you enjoy.
Love yourself fiercely, like you’re all you’ve got.
Because guess what?
You ARE all you’ve got.
You’ve done all you can. Now is the time to let go and trust in the universe. Trust that all is happening in divine timing and will manifest exactly when and how it’s supposed to!
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Here’s the dealio.
(yep, that beauty up there)
You can let that shit go. With ease. And no longer allow it to plague you with guilt, shame and anxiety!
So – I suggest you watch the not quite 5 minute video up there to learn EXACTLY what it is you can do whenever the hell you want to let go of yucky feelings.
You make space for LOVE, BABY!
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But I wasn’t always that way.
I used to be quite the lady and change my attitude and persona and words based on who I was talking to.
If I met a woman who owned a health clinic, for example, I would play up my nutrition degree, I would talk about how I didn’t eat gluten, I would invite her to my yoga class, I would even change the cantor of my speech and the words I would use.
Yes – we probably shouldn’t talk to our grandma the same way we would talk to our best friend. And if I met the president of the U.S., I wouldn’t say “sup, dawg?”
But there’s something to be said about being unapologetically true to myself and my beliefs and my way of going about in the world.
Prior to my coaching business, I owned a little cafe.
And it pretty much owned my life.
I didn’t have many friends, because I was working 60 to 80 hour weeks, and just didn’t have the time or energy to nurture relationships.
It was a total drag.
If I didn’t have my partner, well I’m not really sure how I would have gotten through that period in my life.
All work and no play.
When that phase ended, I decided I needed some serious female connections in my life.
Strong powerful women that were kicking ass in life (and in their careers) and fiercely proud of who they were.
I wasn’t being genuine.
I didn’t act fully like me – which meant being funny and silly, cursing when appropriate and having a drink now and then.
Instead, I acted how I assumed that person would act or expect in a friend.
These powerful women that I was so desperately trying to make friends with…
And you wanna know why?
So since I wasn’t being genuine, they picked up on it and kept their distance.
Acquaintances, YES. Friends, NO.
And once I let the magic and beauty and uniqueness of ME shine through 100% of the time….
Deep and powerful connections happened!
So where am I going with this?
If you are putting on aires and trying to be someone else that you think a guy will like….well then sooner or later he’s going to find the ‘real you’ and might not like what he sees.
So the sooner you go about being 100% confident in who you are and allowing that person to be present 100% of the time…
The only people you actually attract to you are the ones that really matter because they LOVE the true you.
And when you attract in a match that SEES you for who you are and LOVES you for who you are, good times and bad, with or without makeup, with a massive zit on your face or just after a massage….
You get the idea…
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To call in the one…
Find their other half…
Their ‘media naranja’ as they say in español….
(now that I’m lounging on the beach in Costa Rica, I actually have time to compile the results and make something of them!)
1. Visualize
2. Meditate
3. Go on spiritual dating sites
4. Not looking
5. Looking
6. Vision board
7. Becoming celibate
8. Making a witches brew
9. Praying
10. Praying harder
(well up until now because I’ve actually figured out HOW TO manifest an amazing partner that is exactly what I asked for)
It’s what I lovingly refer to as the WHIPPED CREAM ON GARBAGE syndrome.
Told to me first by my father.
A world renowned hypnotherapist.
“World Renowned? What does that mean?”, you might ask.
Well, quite simply it means people fly in from all across the globe to work with him.
When I was a kid he taught me about beliefs and affirmations.
Well actually he said shit. They are whipped cream on shit.
If you don’t get to the underlying belief system.
If your underlying belief system, your garbage, is that I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I suck, no one will ever love me…
You can look in the mirror and affirm yourself to death but you will still not be good enough, not lovely, not loved…
So…
As you can see, the reasons all these things that women are trying are not working is because they are….
WHIPPED CREAM ON SHIT.
It might taste sweet, it might sound sweet, it might LOOK sweet, but it doesn’t actually work.
Whereas the 6 week program I’ve developed, gets to the garbage, it gets down to the nitty gritty, to the sludge, to the toxic waste.
That underlying belief system….that record on repeat, that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, you suck, you’ll never be loved….
What ever it is that YOUR record is…
These are horrible. These are toxic. They are sludge. They are garbage. A toxic heap.
It’s because deep down inside you actually believe it.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself pretty words…
Sit down with your journal and write affirmations till your fingers bleed.
Do your mantras every day…
Because those are only going to work (and they do work by the way) if you clear the trash, the rubbish, the crap that is sitting deep down inside.
You have this beautiful light, this diamond, this jewel on the inside but it’s so tarnished and covered in all these different negative beliefs.
This 6 weeks to love program, what it does, is start to polish that jewel by tearing away those belief systems one by one and replacing them with something new.
Let me reiterate one more time.
I am beautiful.
I am lovely
I am worthy.
I am good enough.
I deserve to have the love of my life.
They all pile up on top of each other.
They build and they build and they build…
We have to clear the trash out.
Make space. Make room.
So when you actually do amazing powerful work – like mediation , mantras, and affirmations, they WORK! Because then your entire field is clear.
It’s like trying to make a meal in a pan that’s crusted over with last nights dinner. And before that, last weeks’ lunch. And the month before’s breakfast.
All these layers of grime have been stacked on top of each other.
At the time you’re trying to create anything beautiful and lovely….well it’s gonna taste like horrible old shit. It’s gonna taste like rotten food from months ago.
So you’ve got to clear out the pan.
aka – clear out the trash.
And start fresh!
You know her.
She’s there.
You’ve caught glimpses of her.
But it’s not all the time.
And I want to help you get to the point where she is.
Because all of those untruths and misbeliefs….
Are GONE!
Sending you love,
xo
Emyrald
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“I have chosen you as my lover for many reasons. But I am most compelled by the attraction I feel for your feminine heart… Your special gift to me is the unique quality of the feminine love you offer. Your feminine essence fills my life with a love that is so intimate and tender, my heart opens at your sight. I understand there is a lot more to you, but you are my chosen lover – rather than just my friend – because the ambrosial light of your feminine essence fills my heart and brightens my world with beauty, inspiration and the unending grace of love’s abundance.”
– David Deida
Which means at some point in your life and somewhere deep in your heart you have held the fairy tale belief: the right man will find you, you’ll give him what he wants and needs, and he’ll love you forever.
Sure you still LOVE romance novels and you might cry during weddings but somewhere along the way….
So you put on your big girl pants.
And you slowly started to let the magic and wonder of love and fairy tales fade away…
Do you deep down inside STILL BELIEVE in that fairy tale romance?
Are you ready to attract and keep a man capable of meeting you where you’re at and giving you what you most passionately yearn for?
Then read on. Because I’m here to tell you that it’s not only possible, I’m going to show you how to do it.
For those of you who are not familiar with David Deida, I highly suggest you buy Dear Lover immediately! (And then buy The Way of the Superior Man for extra brownie points and understanding.) David Deida is my own personal spiritual guru in regards to love, sex, intimacy and the divine masculine and feminine.
I’ve been studying him for years and there was ONE HUGE turning point for me that happened while reading his books.
One very important shift that allowed me to see what I was doing wrong in all my prior relationships.
In order to understand what you could be doing wrong, you have to understand the difference between the divine masculine and the divine feminine.
And I’m not talking about the difference between a boy and a girl and if you’ve got male-bits or lady-parts.
I’m talking deep down inside…..
or
2. the ever-changing flow of love and and life; the unknown; the mystery; the constant change
or
2. dance and move yourself in total body ecstasy
Both of us have masculine AND feminine qualities, but there will always be one that you MOST resonate with.
If you’re still having trouble figuring out which you are, this question usually seals the deal.
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2. be ravished by your lover and desire him/her to merge with your heart and take you completely
If you answered (1) to most of the above, then definitely a masculine core essence, regards of what your genitals are. If you answered (2), well then definitely the feminine.
I speak from personal experience.
I’m a lady at heart; but I never really had that ‘a-ha’ realization until I read David Deida.
I was caught up in the de-feminization of our society. Women can work AND run the household. They can have kids and a career. By golly, if a man can do it then so can a women!
Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, except backwards and in high heels!
In all my intimate relationships, I was trying so hardly to be the man AND the woman. And as a result, one of the following things happened:
And I’m you can guess what happened as a result.
We broke up.
One day, while I was serving in a brew pub, a cute sweet guy sat at my table. He ordered a beer and he asked for my number.
At least, that’s what I thought. I didn’t have a huge amount of confidence; I didn’t go on many dates; The popular (aka cute) guys weren’t attracted to me.
Times were rough.
And it’s good attention. It’s not because I’m wearing a low-cut shirt or a super short skirt.
How would you like to learn how to instantly appear more attractive to the opposite sex without going on a diet, getting a haircut, or buying new clothes? How would you like to have men notice YOU instantly when you walk into a room? Do you desire to get asked out on more dates without changing a thing about your personality?
So how do you make some simple changes that will have the men turning heads when you walk into the room and notice you as you’re walking down the street?
Read on my friend, and stick with me until number 7 – because it’s my favorite one, it’s the MOST effective (for me) and you’ll never guess what it is!
This one is the MOST SIMPLE one to implement! And it works! A study in Switzerland examined the relationship between attractiveness and smiling.
And not only that, a happy facial expression compensated for relative unattractiveness. So, put a beautiful smile on your face, honey, when you walk into the restaurant, or step into a bar, or walk into a new environment where you don’t know anyone and you’ll instantly appear more attractive and approachable.
This is a bit trickier to convey if you’re not a naturally confident person. It’s so much easier to be a wall flower. BUT that’s not for you! Here are a couple of tips to convey elevated levels of confidence that will INSTANTLY make you appear sexier. Celebrate the success of others. Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes. Celebrate your OWN successes (no, it’s not bragging)! And get this –
Isn’t that amazing? Too many women judge themselves too harshly (I can raise my hand and say I’ve been in this boat before. Too many times.) Have confidence in your beauty and trust that most people actually see you as MORE beautiful than you see yourself! Own it, girlfriend.
Join a hiking group, volunteer for a cause you believe in, train for a marathon, play guitar at an open mic night, you get the idea! You’ll instantly appear more attractive when you’re following your heart and filling your day with activities that you enjoy.
Bonus – the people you meet will be into the same interests as you – score!
Meeting a guy with similar interests will make it much more likely you two will hit it off and create a lasting friendship, if not something more!
If you wear stuff you feel good in, you’’ll instantly look and feel more attractive. Go through the closet and get rid of items that no longer serve you and put much more focus into wearing the items that you LOVE. When you’re celebrating the real YOU, the guys you attract to you will appreciate the real you, too.
Have beautiful blue eyes? Long sexy legs? Shiny brown hair? Whatever it is that you LOVE about you, find a way to make your best features stand out by choosing certain clothes and accessories that accentuate them. For example, if you have really pretty dark eyes, wearing gold hoop earrings might draw more attention to them. Or how you wear your bangs might attract more attention to those beautiful eyes.
It’s been a while since I’ve had bangs, but when I did, I got so many compliments on my eyes! The attention/focus was directed straight to my big blue eyes!
Another interesting study!
When you hang out with a group of ladies, men will generally see individual group members as being more attractive than they actually are.
Can we say – ladies night!
I find that men are super attracted to me when I’m wearing red lipstick. I FEEL like a sexy vixen when I’m in it, and I KNOW that confidence is just oozing out of my pores and men see that and are attracted to it. I’m not saying you have to go out and buy the lipstick yourself, but it works for me. And it’s a really simple thing to do whenever I need a boost and want to feel more attractive.
There are plenty shades of red, if you’re looking to get a couple more looks in your direction, find a shade that works for you!
Start putting all 7 of these steps into practice and get ready for more heads to be turning your way and for your confidence levels to soar and to instantly feel more attractive to the opposite sex!
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