How to GET OVER your trust issues so you can have Happily Ever After (Truth Tuesdays)

I’ve never been cheated upon. 

 

Thank god.

 

But my partner, unfortunately, has experienced the gut-wrenching pain of a significant other NOT being faithful. 

According to “Infidelity Statistics”

“It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage… And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, if you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart”

Yuck.

That means at least half of you who are reading this have engaged in infidelity or have been cheated on! 

So – if that is you, how do you tell your partner that you have trust issues? 

And more importantly, how do you GET OVER your insecurities already!? 

Find out by watching!

And make sure you do the following exercises I talk about in the video: 

1. Write your Painful Love Story and then shift it to become the HERO in your life, not the VICTIM

2. Write your Letters of Forgiveness and BURN them, baby! 

 

For those of you who are looking for clear, open, honest and conflict-free communication with your significant other, check out my Conflict to Conscious Communication course!! 

It’s a MUST for anyone looking to remove arguing, drama and fights from there relationship for good!

#TRUTHTUESDAYS Ep. 1 – Be yourself already!

WATCH THE VIDEO FIRST. THEN READ ON!

AS YOU’VE LEARNED BY NOW, I CUSS LIKE A SAILOR.

But I wasn’t always that way. 

I used to be quite the lady and change my attitude and persona and words based on who I was talking to.

If I met a woman who owned a health clinic, for example, I would play up my nutrition degree, I would talk about how I didn’t eat gluten, I would invite her to my yoga class, I would even change the cantor of my speech and the words I would use.

WHICH IS KINDA LAME IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT.

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HERE’S THE THING.

Yes – we probably shouldn’t talk to our grandma the same way we would talk to our best friend. And if I met the president of the U.S., I wouldn’t say “sup, dawg?”

But there’s something to be said about being unapologetically true to myself and my beliefs and my way of going about in the world.

Prior to my coaching business, I owned a little cafe.

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And it pretty much owned my life.

I didn’t have many friends, because I was working 60 to 80 hour weeks, and just didn’t have the time or energy to nurture relationships.

It was a total drag.

AS YOU CAN GUESS, I GOT LONELY.

If I didn’t have my partner, well I’m not really sure how I would have gotten through that period in my life.

All work and no play.

When that phase ended, I decided I needed some serious female connections in my life.

Strong powerful women that were kicking ass in life (and in their careers) and fiercely proud of who they were.

So I started to go to various networking events where I assumed these amazing women hung out!

And you know what happened?I started meeting some cool babes!

BUT…AND THERE’S ALWAYS A BUT…

I wasn’t being genuine.

I didn’t act fully like me – which meant being funny and silly, cursing when appropriate and having a drink now and then.

Instead, I acted how I assumed that person would act or expect in a friend.

So all those connections with these powerful women remained superficial.

No deep and powerful connections happened as a result.But then! 

AND THANK GODDESS THERE IS A TURNAROUND.

  • I decided to let loose. (because what the fuck did I have to lose?)
  • I talked with passion about what it was that interested me.
  • I had a drink when I felt like it when everyone else was sipping their bubble water.
  • I cursed whenever the fuck I felt like it (with some discretion…I’m not a complete asshole).

YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED?

These powerful women that I was so desperately trying to make friends with…

ALL OF A SUDDEN THEY WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH ME!

And you wanna know why?

I WAS FINALLY BEING ME!

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PEOPLE AREN’T DUMB. THEY CAN TELL WHEN YOU’RE NOT BEING SINCERE.

So since I wasn’t being genuine, they picked up on it and kept their distance.

Acquaintances, YES. Friends, NO.

And once I let the magic and beauty and uniqueness of ME shine through 100% of the time….

Deep and powerful connections happened!

So where am I going with this?

You have to be 100% unapologetically YOU in order to attract in those that will FULLY appreciate who you are.

If you are putting on aires and trying to be someone else that you think a guy will like….well then sooner or later he’s going to find the ‘real you’ and might not like what he sees.

So the sooner you go about being 100% confident in who you are and allowing that person to be present 100% of the time…

The only people you actually attract to you are the ones that really matter because they LOVE the true you.

And when you attract in a match that SEES you for who you are and LOVES you for who you are, good times and bad, with or without makeup, with a massive zit on your face or just after a massage….

You get the idea…

THAT’S SOULMATE LEVEL LOVE RIGHT THERE.

That’s why I created my 8 Week Radical Self Love Group Coaching Program!

  • To help you learn how to LOVE the real you.
  • To help you appreciate the beauty that is within.
  • To help you learn to love and appreciate yourself for exactly who you are so that you live the life of your dreams and attract in an amazing and loving partner to share it with!
  • To help you raise your confidence and self-love levels so that you fall deeply in love with yourself and attract in a man who does the same.
  • To help you break through your excuses and pain and barriers to love so that you finally learn to love yourself and attract in the love of your life to do the same!

Sound good? 

Hop over to the group coaching page right this instant sister, and get ready to experience Radical Self Love!

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