If you’ve found your way to this blog post, I’m going to guess that you struggle with feelings of not being good enough.
And girl, you are not alone!
There are two common records playing in your thoughts on repeat for most (okay – all) human beings when you strip away all the nonsense and fluff and they are the following:
I’m not lovable
I’m not good enough
Which means if you fall into the category of being a human being… then you suffer from feelings of not being good enough and not feeling lovable at times.
Some people experience these feelings most of the time…
As a self-proclaimed self-love expert (and honestly, who is going to hand me that title?), it’s my mission, my purpose and my pleasure to help women (and some men) just realize how perfect they already are.
You are already worthy.
You are already good enough.
So let’s work on some steps to that you can take today to remember your value, shall we?
(Which, by the way, I’m hosting my annual FREE Self Love Challenge! Every day you’ll get a Self Love Challenge to perform and you can share your experience in my private Facebook group with amazing women who are ready to love and empower you and hold you accountable to being the best possible version of yourself who loves the crap out of herself! How does that sound? Click here to get your beautiful self signed up. If you’re on this page, trust me, you could benefit from the Self Love Challenge.
Here’s Why We All Need More Self Love
First of all, how you value yourself will always be reflected in your environment including your finances, your significant relationship and the lifestyle you live.
Self Love = Self WorthSelf Worth = An Incredible Life
I promise you this: when I didn’t value myself, it was reflected back to me in the types of jobs I accepted, the types of men I dated (or put up with), how my friends treated me and my general low-class lifestyle.
But when I increased my self value… then the love of my life arrived… then the six figure
business was built… and finally, a lifestyle I loved!
It might seem simplistic. But these types of things don’t have to be hard.
Increase your opinion of yourself and the world will respond in the same!
(Oh yeah, and if you haven’t signed up for the self love challenge yet, what are you waiting for?
Click here to sign up and then come back to this page to continue reading!)
1. Start Pointing Out Things You Love About Yourself
Why do we always point out our flaws? Why do you reject compliments? Why do you pass by a mirror and find the one small tiny pimple and focus upon it over and over and over again?
We are our own worst critics and the more you talk yourself down the lower you are going to feel.
There is no rule against complimenting yourself.
There are no laws against accepting a compliment either for that matter.
So the next time someone compliments your shirt / your work / your dog / your car / your face / your whatever smile and say, “Thank you.” That’s it.
And today whenever you walk by the mirror, you are going to find one thing about yourself to compliment.
You are going to become your biggest cheerleader instead of your own worst enemy.
Be careful what you think and say about yourself because eventually they become your belief systems. And when you believe something to be TRUTH, you start to see affirmation of it in your reality.
(I’m going to sound like a broken record here because I believe in the power of valuing yourself… check out the self love challenge! It starts on February 11th!)
2. Stop Saying Yes to Things You Hate
This one might seem obvious… but how many of you actually say NO when you mean to say no?
Women are too nice.
As a woman, I’ve been guilted into saying ‘yes’ when I really wanted to say no because I didn’t want to be a bitch.
Luckily I got over that bad habit.
Today, I can proudly tell you that if I don’t really want to do it because I’m busy, or it just doesn’t interest me, or I don’t have the time, or just don’t give a flying F… I simply say, ‘no, thanks.’
When you say YES to things you hate, you are telling the Universe that your desires are not worthy. You are putting others’ desires and needs above your own. (that’s crazy!)
Quite simply: you are NOT in alignment with the desires of your heart.
That’s the complete opposite of self love.
So right now, you are going to place one hand on your heart and reach one hand into the air and repeat after me:
“Today I commit to saying NO to things I don’t want to do. Today I commit to saying YES only to things that bring me joy. Today I commit to being selfish because it IS all about me. This is my life and I deserve to be happy.”
And then go out there and do what you just said sweetheart.
(Want to jam more on this topic? I’’ll be discussing it in greater detail during the self-love challenge because I honestly believe that we all need to become MORE selfish. It would make the world a better place. Click here to join us!
3. Adopt the Attitude of Gratitude
It’s practically impossible to be grateful and …. anything else at the same time! You cannot be grateful and filled with hate or envy or self-loathing.
And so, I suggest you adopt the additive of gratitude for your body and start to send her some love for all the amazing things she does for you on a daily basis.
It’s the quickest way I know of to shift your vibration and raise your energy!
I’m so grateful for my lungs. (Hey, thanks guys for helping me to bring oxygen in and out of my body so that I can, you know, live.)
I’m so grateful for my legs! (You guys are power houses! Without you, I wouldn’t be able to dance through life!) I’m so grateful for my skin! (You know, skin, we’ve had a bit of a love/hate relationshipthroughout my life. But now, I’m so grateful for you. You keep all the stuff on the inside that needs to stay there… and all the stuff on the outside that needs to stay there, too. You rock!)
(Join the international Self Love Challenge here! Told ya, broken record.)
4. Say I Love You (at least once a day)
One of the most challenging things I did once upon a time when I was filled with feelings of:
Why can’t I look pretty like her?Why doesn’t he like me?Why isn’t my stomach flatter?Why isn’t my skin clearer?
Is that I looked myself in the eyeballs, in the mirror and said “I Love You.”
And then as I started to cry, I said it again. And again and again.
I realized I had been holding out for so long.
I was looking for love in so many other places that where you really can only find love… within.
I was searching outside of myself for validation of my worthiness.
And when I said those three little words to myself in the mirror, I realized it was the love I was looking for for all those years. #sigh
Why did I wait so long?
Regardless, you can choose to love yourself today. You can choose to express the love to yourself that you’ve been craving to others. You can use decide to love and accept yourself unconditionally regardless of every stupid thing you’ve done in the past that for some reason you think has made you less worthy and valuable.
Nothing will ever take away your value.
You are created from love. You are love. Nothing will ever change that.
(Which by the way, if you love my style, join us for the self love challenge. Whoop whoop!)
5. Sign up for the Self Love Challenge!
Seriously. We all learn from each other and it’s having friends, mentors and others around you that inspire you to lift you up and keep you accountable!
Join the world-wide Self Love Challenge!
You’ll take everything you’ve just read (and so much more) and actually PUT IT TO PRACTICE.
And that is where the magic happens.
Sign me up for the Self Love Challenge!
ABOUT YOUR HOST EMYRALD SINCLAIRE:
Self-love expert, Emyrald teaches women how to Manifest It A.L.L. (Abundance, Love and Life of Your Dreams)
When you learn how to raise your own internal worth and value, everything in your life changes, including the type of relationships you attract in, the amount of money in your bank account, and ultimately the type of life you lead!
It starts with Self Love so join the Self Love Challenge and get started down that path of manifesting the life of your dreams!