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3 Dating Secrets for 2018

“Online dating sucks!”

“I can’t meet anyone decent online.”

“There are no good men in my town.” 

Do any of these sound familiar? 

Maybe you’ve heard yourself say these things outloud lately? 

Not to fear – dating in 2018 is really not that hard. 


Allow me to break it down with three little secrets that I share with all of my clients.

(I also share how men are like dogs…but in a good way…in that they are easy to please and can be trained….sorry dudes.)

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13 Men (and 1 bi woman) Tell All: What’s REALLY beautiful about a woman

What do men REALLY want in a woman? 

What makes a woman’s beauty noticeable to a man? 

I bet it’s not what you think…


Let’s be real here, there are some crazy scary statistics out there focused around body images.  Crazy shit like: 


  • Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and resort to dieting to achieve their ‘ideal body shape.’ Why? Because only 5% of women naturally possess the body type often portrayed by models, superstars and actresses in the media. 5%!!! And I would wager that some of those 5% live in underdeveloped countries and actually suffer from malnutrition! 
  • 53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies! (Um, WTF?) This number grows to 78% by the time girls reach 17. But here’s the real shocker: 95% of people with eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25.
  • 80% of 10-year-old girls have dieted. 90% of high school junior and senior women diet regularly. And finally, young girls are more afraid of becoming fat than they are of nuclear war, cancer, or losing their parents!


Woah? Did anybody else just stand up and exclaim, “What the fuck media portrayal of beauty,” or is that just me? 


Regardless, as a self love activist, I have made it my personal mission to help women see their REAL beauty no matter their shape or size. 


And I’ve polled 13 men and 1 bi-woman to bring you the following results of what is REAL BEAUTY in a woman. 

(Also, if you haven’t read it…find out what women first notice in a man by clicking here…)


David: Her ability to effortlessly intuit and fulfill all of my needs.

James: Her heart. PERIOD. 

Hans: Outside and Inner Beauty  

Derek:Their taming qualities us filthy animals require to be better individuals, lol

Karlos: Passion for living and sense of adventure for me

Shane: Sanity. Aactually, just enough sanity.
Jay: Her desire and ability to take complete responsibility for her emotions and actions…(this also tends to contribute to the beautiful smile upon her face)
Tyler: Face.
Jeff: Commitment. I say this because i feel if you are truly commited to something, husband, wife, life partner, career, or positive energy you are the girl for me
Tex: Her intelligence. But, sadly, that won’t overcome an unfortunate body or face. We guys aren’t wired that way
Matthew: Intuitive wisdom 
Shivaya: the curves around the belly
Sophia: I’m going to answer this bc I’m bi. Women who aren’t afraid of being themselves. Also, women who have a sense of humor and communication skills. 
Phillip: Confidence 


As you can see, there are so many attributes that men (and women) find beautiful about you ladies. And it doesn’t have to do with your physical looks. Instead, it’s the energy you are putting off. It’s your passion. It’s your wisdom. It’s your confidence.


So the next time you aren’t feeling good enough or sexy enough, read the words above and remember that it’s so much more that makes a real woman beautiful! 


And finally, if you haven’t watched this video before, it’s time: 



“No wonder our perception of Beauty is distorted.” 




Men: Here’s what women REALLY notice about you…

Men: Let’s be real. I bet at one time or another you wished you looked like this because then ALL the pretty ladies would be into you, right? 

Turns out, when polled, most ladies don't actually notice the 'looks of a man' when he walks up to her. 


Instead, these are the things that women notice first thing when a man walks up to her (to ask her for her number because she's just so darn cute.) 

(And find out what men think makes a woman REALLY BEAUTIFUL by clicking here to read!) 


Danelle: His facial expression and his height 

Anna: Height, does he have kind eyes and is he smiling?

Michele: His eyes and then his voice.

Nicole: height, eyes, smile (or lack of)

Kimberly: If he has a weapon or not.

Maggie: Probably how tall he is

Betty: His energy

Clair: The way he walks. And his energy

KariEyes and smile.

Kelly: His face 

Bethany: His walk and how he carries himself (is he looking at the ground, phone, people around him) then I notice height of course and chest/shoulders ?

Stacey: Eyes

Donna: Scent, expression on face

Debra: Way he walks..and yes, Looks!!

Joia: His posture

Molly: His eyes and his smile 

Megan: Where his eyes are looking and the curvature/expression on his lips. 

Sara: Eyes, smile

Rena: How close he gets. 

Dorothy: What he's wearing, height, the way his face is put together. 

Megan: How he carries himself

Jenny: If he's aware of himself. If he's paying attention to his surroundings.

Ashley: posture 

Melissa: All depends. Posture, dress or "style" he has, smile, movements, eye contact. Over all "vibe" he carries, it isn't about the brand of clothes for example.. instead it is the whole energy, presence then once he has arrived- it is the quality of the conversation, how his mind works, his humor etc 

Wahkeena: vibes

Kathleen: His eyes and energy vibration

Peggy:His eyes 

Beth: Confidence, eye contact, sense of warmth or not, presence or not 

Lacey: His confidence (or lack there of) then probably height/smile

Alyssa: How he carries himself. Its in the walk and his eyes that get me. If he gives me that look and I’m into him...damn watch out. 

Beth: his heart 


Gentlemen, as you can see, the grand majority of women do not even notice your physique when you're walking up to her. Instead, it's your eye contact, it's the smile on your face, and it's the overall energy and presence that you present that a woman is going to notice. 


Here's my suggestion for walking up to a woman and catching her attention and (hopefully) landing her number: 

  1. Make eye contact 
  2. Smile 
  3. Stand tall and act confident 
  4. Be open and honest. Women can notice a man's vibes from a mile away so be genuine with her. If you noticed her amazing gorgeous hair, tell her that. If you can't help but notice that she has a beautiful smile, let her know. We women are crafty creatures and we will notice if you are not really present, if you are marking shit up and using 'a line' or low in the self confidence department. 


And at the end of the day, if she's not interested, at least you got the courage to talk to a pretty woman that caught your eye and you most likely made her day by being genuine and offering a real compliment! 


Ladies: anything else to add? Please comment below! 


How to get an ’emotionally unavailable’ man to commit (#truthtuesdays Ep 41)

I recently had a woman ask me: 


How do you deeply connect with a man who is emotionally unavailable, depressed, over-anxious and over-thinking who shuns connection?
Woah! Great question.
Watch below if you’re wondering how exactly you do that…
 If you’re curious to know more about Conflict to Conscious Communication that I talked about in the video, click here. 





7 Reasons Why Men Love Blowjobs

I’ll come right out and say it:

I like oral sex.

Both giving and receiving.

But not all women are like me. Or at least not willing to type it on a webpage for the entire world (hi, mom!) to read.

Most men love blowjobs.

And some women DON’T enjoy giving oral.

But let’s break down WHY men love oral sex so much and how it can contribute to:

  • a happier relationship
  • a healthier relationship
  • less stress and less fights
  • healthier division of energetic roles in the relationship
  • deeper trust between you and your partner


Men and women don’t always understand each other. Because guess what? We are different!!

Men don’t understand these emotional creatures that they also love so dearly.

And women, well, let’s be real. Men aren’t really that hard to figure out. BUT you have to make the effort to actually learn about what makes them tick. And then put those things to practice!

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Ladies, read on and learn why giving your man a BJ is actually one of the Best things you can do for your relationship.


In fact, if you want a man to totally and completely commit to you, then this type of sexual intimacy is going to increase the likelihood of that happening to you. (In a relationship and looking to deepen the connection between you and your partner? Sign up for the Relationship Reconnection! Yes, it’s free!)

Sound good?

And men….would I ever love to hear what you have to say on the subject down below…. 🙂 (in the comments section, silly!)

And as a side note, I don’t think most men would be able to tell you exactly WHY they love oral sex. They’d probably just say ‘because it feels good.’ Um, yeah. We know that.

But let’s dig a little deeper into the subconscious and energetic reasons why BJ’s get a man to commit to you truly and deeply.



One. Submissive Woman

The very act of getting down on your knees is one of submission. It’s one of service. You are giving to your man. You have to be vulnerable to him. You have to submit to him. And for a strong masculine man, it shows that you trust him. It helps him feel more like a masculine man.

If you’re actually down on your knees, you are literally making yourself submissive to him. You’re giving him the power to dominate.


Two. Vulnerability and Trust

Let’s be real here. I wouldn’t give a blow job to anyone other than my significant other.

Back in the day when I was dating… I remember having conversations with girlfriends about intimacy and sex. And one girl in particular said that she wouldn’t go ‘all the way’ with a man but that they’d fool around and have oral. I remember being flabbergasted! There is NO WAY IN HELL I would put just ANY random-ass penis in my mouth. Sorry to be vulgar but oral sex is all about vulnerability and trust.

You have to be open to your man. You have to trust him. You have to feel comfortable enough to communicate and ask certain questions like ‘Does this feel good?’ or ‘like this?’ or ‘Faster or slower?

The masculine energy needs to feel trusted by his woman. That is HUGE for the masculine energy man. When you go down on your guy, you are saying that you trust him because you are comfortable being completely vulnerable with him.


Three. Admiration

Most men love their penises. In fact, I haven’t yet met one who doesn’t!

When you take in your mouth what most men are ‘in love’ with, the root of their manhood, you are showing your man that you admire him.

You love the part of him that ultimately makes him a man.

And on the flip side, if you’re rejecting your man’s penis via oral sex, you are essentially saying that you ‘reject him’ or that you don’t love him.

Amazing how much connection happens from just one little act.


Four. Love Love Love

There are plenty of ways we give and receive love: hugging, kissing, buying presents, going out to dinner at a nice restaurant, touching, saying “I love you” and more.

And while there are many ways to express love, men have a certain association with sex and love that is different from women.

Have you ever thought to yourself: “Why is it all always about sex?”

Or at least heard a girlfriend ask it?


Did you hear that?

They LOVE it. It’s part of how they perceive love.

You’ve got to simply understand that sentence above and trust that it’s true.

To a man, if a woman wants to have sex with him regularly, it means she loves him and is attracted to him. The masculine energy perceives importance and significance in a woman being sexually attracted to him. So when this beautiful creature that he’s super sexually attracted to is also super sexually attracted to him…. he gets it. It’s his language.

Oh and get this, ladies. When you have sex with your man, oxytocin is released. It’s the feel-good chemical that attaches you to a man and makes you think you’re in love. So this happens to us, too. Which is also why you should be super conscientious of who you sleep with as you chemically bond to them for up to 8 weeks!


Five. Connection

Most men don’t open up and communicate their thoughts and feelings as much as women. (Speaking of which, if you want to know the one question to ask your man on a daily basis, click here!)

Sex is one form of connection for them as they don’t necessarily go out and chat with their guy friends the way we women communicate with our girlfriends.

Think about sex and orgasm for a moment.

Men reach orgasm and ‘let go.’ Usually it means they fall asleep. They are letting go of all the stress and worries of the day. They have fulfilled their mission, their goal.

For women, we reach orgasm and we want to ‘hold on.’ We want to snuggle. We want to talk. We want to deepen the connection. The holding on shows how much more emotional we are than men. We are very emotional creatures and don’t NEED sex in order to feel the connection to our partner.

Whereas, men do NEED the sex to feel the connection to us.


Six. It’s Feminine, Baby!

I’ve talked a bunch about the masculine and feminine energies today. And that’s because it’s important to understand in regards to a happy and healthy relationship.

Opposites attract. Compliments repel.

You need one Fred and one Ginger, if you’re dancing.

And you still need one Fred and one Ginger if you’re dancing between the sheets.

Once the feminine energy learns to understand the masculine energy and his need for connection through sex, many struggles drop away.

The feminine energy is fulfilling her desire to connect emotionally with her man.

The masculine energy feels respected and trusted.

And when the feminine energy feels her feelings cherished (which she wants at her core above all else) and the masculine energy has his thoughts respected (which he wants at his core above all else) the relationship blossoms into something you’ve never experienced before!


Seven. It’s just plain sexy

Men love to feast with their eyes. And it looks sexy when you have his member in your mouth. Men love to watch when you’re going down on them (have you noticed?). So make a show out of it. Wear sexy underwear. Position yourself in front of a mirror. Look up at him occasionally. He’ll eat that shit up! I promise.

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So am I saying that you have to give your man a blow-job every single day in order to experience long-lasting happiness in your relationship?

Well, maybe I am saying exactly that.

But if not, at least once a week!

I hope by now you have come to the realization that it’s more than simply oral sex: it’s respecting your man, it’s being vulnerable, it’s deepening your connection, it’s trusting him, it’s opening up into your pure feminine essence.

Take these 7 reasons to heart and perhaps make a commitment to reignite the spark in your relationship by seeing what happens when you decide to open up and commit to your man via oral sex on a regular basis.

And then tell me below in the comments how it goes for you! 😉

And of course share this article on your favorite social media platform. Trust me, the guys will thank you!


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