In this video, I share the ONE TOOL that I use every single day.
STILL.
I used it every day for 4 weeks to attract in THE ONE.
And now I use it to attract to me wealth, abundance, happiness, my job, my house, everything!
And it’s a big deal because it works!
How would you like the exact guy who has caught your eye to come up to you and start the conversation?
And then to ask you out?
In this weekends episode of Truth Tuesdays, I give you the exact tools to do just that!
For a guy who has feelings (which, um, hello, is pretty much every man), it is HARD to go up to an attractive woman and ask her out.
So, ladies, you HAVE to help them out, here!
If you’re interested in a man, you have to SHOW him that you’ve interested and give him the PERMISSION to come up to you and chat you up!
If you don’t…..
Well you are missing out on a lot of opportunities to start conversations with decent men.
In the video, I give you the top 3 ways to show a guy that you’re interested….so that he’ll come up to you, chat you up and ask you out!
One. Smile
Everyone looks so much more beautiful when they smile! And when you smile at a guy, you boost his confidence.
He thinks “hey, she’s cute. And waaaaaiiiiiit, she’s smiling at ME!”
Two. Make extended eye contact
This one is HUGE. And scary.
Make eye contact with a guy you’re interested in for at least 5 seconds.
And smile!
That gives him the green-light to come up to you and start a conversation….even if it’s “Do I know you?”
Three. Ask for help
Every man likes to feel needed.
So allow him to help you in some type of way!
“Do you know the fastest way to get to….?”
“Do you know what is good here?”
“What do you suggest I order?”
“Can you reach that for me?”
You get the idea.
Allow him to feel like he is needed and necessary and he’ll instantly be much more attracted to a woman that “needs” him than an independent woman who does not.
Four. Create a little mystery
Don’t give it all up!
Don’t tell him all about you and your entire life’s story in your 5 minute meeting.
Instead, create an air of mystery and allow him to want more….to ask for more….and ultimately…
To ask you for a date!
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Yes, it’s your parents fault that you’re single.
Don’t you just love some blunt truth?
Here’s why it’s your parents fault if you’re single (most likely)
We form our beliefs about the world when we are children.
We are looking around us and taking it all in.
We’re like little sponges.
And so….depending how daddy treated mommy and what mommy said to daddy, we believe it to be normal.
So, yes, it is your parents fault if you’re single if, for example, your Mom was telling you:
And on and on and on….
You see where I’m going here?
It IS your responsibility, however, now that you are aware of your amazing power of your belief systems, to create the life that you DO want.
So strong in fact that we have created an entire reality based around our beliefs.
Our beliefs as to whether we are:
You get the idea.
Now it’s up to you to do the work.
You can choose to have the love life of your dreams! You just have to want is MORE than the pain and hurt you’ve already experienced!
Are you ready to learn the #1 tool that I used on a daily basis in order to attract in my own personal prince charming?
It can be confusing with all the dating books out there filled with:
You know, stuff like that.
The exact tool I used every single day for four weeks…
Until I attracted in the one!
And so far…..so great!
[Don’t worry, you’ll be the first one to know when I make my first million 🙂 ]
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So I actually sat down and mapped out step by step how the hell I was going to manifest the love of my life, the man of my dreams.
And you know what happened as a result?
Like at all.
Instead, I’m going to show you how it CAN work in your favor!
The information that I’m sharing with you today is only one part of my#ManifestHim private coaching program and also is included in my 8 week Attract the One via Radical Self Love online coaching program.
If you follow the steps I’m sharing with you today you will:
Rumi, one of my favorite poets, once said:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
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And that is what you’ve got to do, my dear.
Don’t LOOK for love as OUTSIDE of you. Instead, remove all the blocks and barriers you’ve created INSIDE of you to love.
Sounds woo-woo but it really is as simple as that.
Let’s do this!!!!!
Before you can actually change your life for the better and attract in the love of your life, you actually need to commit to it happening.
You need to be hell-bent on the outcome happening for you!
You need to push aside any worries or fears that it’s not going to work out.
You need to get rid of any sorry-ass excuses that “I’m too ugly/fat/boring/tired/busy to manifest love”.
Instead, COMMIT to yourself that love is available to you right in this moment and you will stop at nothing to get it.
okay?
You can’t always get what you want. That’s for sure. (cue Rolling Stones song….)
And sometimes we don’t even get what we need.
But what I’ve figured out in my life is that I usually (if not 100% of the time) get what I COMMIT to and put my mind to and work my ass off towards getting….
What’s that? I can’t run my own wildly successful love coaching business online, mister neigh sayer ?
Just you fucking watch me!
And then I commit to making it happen and then BAM! Less than 3 months later, I have a schedule full of clients and am building various online programs that already have a waiting list.
Commitment.
That’s the difference between WANTING something in life and actually GETTING something in life.
So, when you actually DECIDE that you’re ready for your soulmate in your life (and this is no small feat because you will have to face your SHIT and own up to it on a daily basis), you have to COMMIT to it.
Just like getting married, baby.
Anything less than a 120% commitment, well, that’s the relationship you’re going to get. Half-assed.
Okay, this one is a bit more challenging for some people, because we are a tangled mess of fears and insecurities and ‘yeah, but…’ that even though you say the affirmations and journal and dream and whatever else woo-woo shit that I suggest you do….
If you don’t actually BELIEVE it can happen for you deep down inside, it WON’T happen for you.
(I elaborate MORE on this concept in my recent blog post – so I’m not going to go into it here. Read the post. Then come back, mmmkay?)
So, spend a couple minutes figuring out what your current belief systems are in regards to love and a good way to do it is as follows:
I’m not saying you have to publicly post on Facebook that you are looking for your soulmate and currently taking applications. (although you certainly can if you want to. I saw someone do it once and I thought “Hells yes! Good for him. Putting himself out there and letting the world know he is ready!”)
But what it does mean is this:
I love this part! This is where you get to sit down and journal EXACTLY what you want Mister/Missus Right to look like, smell like, feel like, etc.
Our subconscious mind operates in pictures and feelings.
So – get clear on what your perfect life with this perfect person is going to LOOK like. And I highly suggest you get super duper clear in what you want. And please DON’T write what you don’t want. Only focus on what you DO want. Nothing is too trivial. Put it all in there!
And then sit your pretty self down for at least 10 minutes a day and DREAM. See this vision clearly in your mind’s eye and FEEL it like it was happening today.
That’s an order, young lady!
I know, easier said than done. But this step has to happen.
Work on forgiving yourself.
Forgive past lovers and old partners.
You NEED to create space for this NEW love to enter your life.
Another great analogy (because I love them)….
Imagine you were walking through a prairie of waist high grass.
You walk through it once.
Most likely, no one will be able to tell you were there….
But, if you walk it over and over and over again…
A path is formed!
So, train yer brain!
What NEW PATHWAYS are you going to create?
We have spent years and years and years creating certain paths and belief systems and a lot of the time….they aren’t even our belief systems! They were handed down to us by society or by our parents or friends!
You tell the story of how you were hurt in the past, or why daddy didn’t love you, or how you were left at the alter on your wedding day…..YAWN!
Stop it already!
The more you tell the same old sorry stories, the more you tell the universe that is what you expect to continue to happen with your life.
Instead, start telling a new story of how you always meeting amazing and loving people. Of how you are excited to go to new events because of the people you are going to meet. Of how much you fricken love yourself and love your life and are looking forward to so many new amazing experiences in your future!
You get me, here?
It takes a village, baby.
When I was seriously ready to let go of my old limiting belief systems, you know what I did?
Yeah, duh.
No body can (or should) go at ‘it’ alone.
Think about professional athletes – they have coaches! They don’t decide one day to stop training because they are good at what they do. Nope, they seek help and get better!
And you know what else?
Some days you feel like crap. Your emotions get the better of you (especially if you’re a woman!) and you feel like there is no hope in sight. So you cuddle up with a gallon of Ben and Jerry’s.
But if you have a support system on hand – those moments won’t last long and they will be few and far between!
So – take a good hard look at your friends – are they building you up or tearing you down? Are you cheering you on or agreeing with you when you say there are no good men out there?
And guess what – when you’re soulmate comes along….shit comes up!
My relationship with my man can be challenging. He’s a beautiful mirror of issues in myself that I have not healed.
And if I didn’t have friends/mentors/coaches that I could turn to when the shit hits the fan….well most likely we still wouldn’t be together. It’s constant work, my friends. And it never ends.
You’ve set the intention. You’ve done the work. Now what?
Keep doing the work!
Keep taking the steps to improve yourself.
Clear out emotional baggage.
Get your mind on track and stop thinking silly old limiting beliefs.
Take care of your beautiful body – hikes, yoga, gym time, whatever you enjoy.
Love yourself fiercely, like you’re all you’ve got.
Because guess what?
You ARE all you’ve got.
You’ve done all you can. Now is the time to let go and trust in the universe. Trust that all is happening in divine timing and will manifest exactly when and how it’s supposed to!
If you want to jump start the process of attracting in your one true love, then let’s get on the phone and talk! Apply for a Breakthrough to Love Coaching Call and let’s see if working together is a logical next step for you!
Here’s the dealio.
(yep, that beauty up there)
You can let that shit go. With ease. And no longer allow it to plague you with guilt, shame and anxiety!
So – I suggest you watch the not quite 5 minute video up there to learn EXACTLY what it is you can do whenever the hell you want to let go of yucky feelings.
You make space for LOVE, BABY!
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But I wasn’t always that way.
I used to be quite the lady and change my attitude and persona and words based on who I was talking to.
If I met a woman who owned a health clinic, for example, I would play up my nutrition degree, I would talk about how I didn’t eat gluten, I would invite her to my yoga class, I would even change the cantor of my speech and the words I would use.
Yes – we probably shouldn’t talk to our grandma the same way we would talk to our best friend. And if I met the president of the U.S., I wouldn’t say “sup, dawg?”
But there’s something to be said about being unapologetically true to myself and my beliefs and my way of going about in the world.
Prior to my coaching business, I owned a little cafe.
And it pretty much owned my life.
I didn’t have many friends, because I was working 60 to 80 hour weeks, and just didn’t have the time or energy to nurture relationships.
It was a total drag.
If I didn’t have my partner, well I’m not really sure how I would have gotten through that period in my life.
All work and no play.
When that phase ended, I decided I needed some serious female connections in my life.
Strong powerful women that were kicking ass in life (and in their careers) and fiercely proud of who they were.
I wasn’t being genuine.
I didn’t act fully like me – which meant being funny and silly, cursing when appropriate and having a drink now and then.
Instead, I acted how I assumed that person would act or expect in a friend.
These powerful women that I was so desperately trying to make friends with…
And you wanna know why?
So since I wasn’t being genuine, they picked up on it and kept their distance.
Acquaintances, YES. Friends, NO.
And once I let the magic and beauty and uniqueness of ME shine through 100% of the time….
Deep and powerful connections happened!
So where am I going with this?
If you are putting on aires and trying to be someone else that you think a guy will like….well then sooner or later he’s going to find the ‘real you’ and might not like what he sees.
So the sooner you go about being 100% confident in who you are and allowing that person to be present 100% of the time…
The only people you actually attract to you are the ones that really matter because they LOVE the true you.
And when you attract in a match that SEES you for who you are and LOVES you for who you are, good times and bad, with or without makeup, with a massive zit on your face or just after a massage….
You get the idea…
That’s why I created my 8 Week Radical Self Love Group Coaching Program!
Sound good?
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To call in the one…
Find their other half…
Their ‘media naranja’ as they say in español….
(now that I’m lounging on the beach in Costa Rica, I actually have time to compile the results and make something of them!)
1. Visualize
2. Meditate
3. Go on spiritual dating sites
4. Not looking
5. Looking
6. Vision board
7. Becoming celibate
8. Making a witches brew
9. Praying
10. Praying harder
(well up until now because I’ve actually figured out HOW TO manifest an amazing partner that is exactly what I asked for)
It’s what I lovingly refer to as the WHIPPED CREAM ON GARBAGE syndrome.
Told to me first by my father.
A world renowned hypnotherapist.
“World Renowned? What does that mean?”, you might ask.
Well, quite simply it means people fly in from all across the globe to work with him.
When I was a kid he taught me about beliefs and affirmations.
Well actually he said shit. They are whipped cream on shit.
If you don’t get to the underlying belief system.
If your underlying belief system, your garbage, is that I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I suck, no one will ever love me…
You can look in the mirror and affirm yourself to death but you will still not be good enough, not lovely, not loved…
So…
As you can see, the reasons all these things that women are trying are not working is because they are….
WHIPPED CREAM ON SHIT.
It might taste sweet, it might sound sweet, it might LOOK sweet, but it doesn’t actually work.
Whereas the 6 week program I’ve developed, gets to the garbage, it gets down to the nitty gritty, to the sludge, to the toxic waste.
That underlying belief system….that record on repeat, that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, you suck, you’ll never be loved….
What ever it is that YOUR record is…
These are horrible. These are toxic. They are sludge. They are garbage. A toxic heap.
It’s because deep down inside you actually believe it.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself pretty words…
Sit down with your journal and write affirmations till your fingers bleed.
Do your mantras every day…
Because those are only going to work (and they do work by the way) if you clear the trash, the rubbish, the crap that is sitting deep down inside.
You have this beautiful light, this diamond, this jewel on the inside but it’s so tarnished and covered in all these different negative beliefs.
This 6 weeks to love program, what it does, is start to polish that jewel by tearing away those belief systems one by one and replacing them with something new.
Let me reiterate one more time.
Whipped cream = where you want to be.I am beautiful.
I am lovely
I am worthy.
I am good enough.
I deserve to have the love of my life.
They all pile up on top of each other.
They build and they build and they build…
We have to clear the trash out.
Make space. Make room.
So when you actually do amazing powerful work – like mediation , mantras, and affirmations, they WORK! Because then your entire field is clear.
It’s like trying to make a meal in a pan that’s crusted over with last nights dinner. And before that, last weeks’ lunch. And the month before’s breakfast.
All these layers of grime have been stacked on top of each other.
At the time you’re trying to create anything beautiful and lovely….well it’s gonna taste like horrible old shit. It’s gonna taste like rotten food from months ago.
So you’ve got to clear out the pan.
aka – clear out the trash.
And start fresh!
You know her.
She’s there.
You’ve caught glimpses of her.
But it’s not all the time.
And I want to help you get to the point where she is.
Because all of those untruths and misbeliefs….
Are GONE!
Sending you love,
xo
Emyrald
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