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To call in the one…
Find their other half…
Their ‘media naranja’ as they say in español….
(now that I’m lounging on the beach in Costa Rica, I actually have time to compile the results and make something of them!)
3. Go on spiritual dating sites
4. Not looking
6. Vision board
7. Becoming celibate
8. Making a witches brew
10. Praying harder
(well up until now because I’ve actually figured out HOW TO manifest an amazing partner that is exactly what I asked for)
It’s what I lovingly refer to as the WHIPPED CREAM ON GARBAGE syndrome.
Told to me first by my father.
A world renowned hypnotherapist.
“World Renowned? What does that mean?”, you might ask.
Well, quite simply it means people fly in from all across the globe to work with him.
When I was a kid he taught me about beliefs and affirmations.
Well actually he said shit. They are whipped cream on shit.
If you don’t get to the underlying belief system.
If your underlying belief system, your garbage, is that I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I suck, no one will ever love me…
You can look in the mirror and affirm yourself to death but you will still not be good enough, not lovely, not loved…
As you can see, the reasons all these things that women are trying are not working is because they are….
WHIPPED CREAM ON SHIT.
It might taste sweet, it might sound sweet, it might LOOK sweet, but it doesn’t actually work.
Whereas the 6 week program I’ve developed, gets to the garbage, it gets down to the nitty gritty, to the sludge, to the toxic waste.
That underlying belief system….that record on repeat, that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, you suck, you’ll never be loved….
What ever it is that YOUR record is…
These are horrible. These are toxic. They are sludge. They are garbage. A toxic heap.
It’s because deep down inside you actually believe it.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself pretty words…
Sit down with your journal and write affirmations till your fingers bleed.
Do your mantras every day…
Because those are only going to work (and they do work by the way) if you clear the trash, the rubbish, the crap that is sitting deep down inside.
You have this beautiful light, this diamond, this jewel on the inside but it’s so tarnished and covered in all these different negative beliefs.
This 6 weeks to love program, what it does, is start to polish that jewel by tearing away those belief systems one by one and replacing them with something new.
Let me reiterate one more time.
I am beautiful.
I am lovely
I am worthy.
I am good enough.
I deserve to have the love of my life.
They all pile up on top of each other.
They build and they build and they build…
We have to clear the trash out.
Make space. Make room.
So when you actually do amazing powerful work – like mediation , mantras, and affirmations, they WORK! Because then your entire field is clear.
It’s like trying to make a meal in a pan that’s crusted over with last nights dinner. And before that, last weeks’ lunch. And the month before’s breakfast.
All these layers of grime have been stacked on top of each other.
At the time you’re trying to create anything beautiful and lovely….well it’s gonna taste like horrible old shit. It’s gonna taste like rotten food from months ago.
So you’ve got to clear out the pan.
aka – clear out the trash.
And start fresh!
You know her.
You’ve caught glimpses of her.
But it’s not all the time.
And I want to help you get to the point where she is.
Because all of those untruths and misbeliefs….
Sending you love,
(Want to find out more about the 6 Weeks to Love 1:1 Intensive Coaching program? It might be the ONE THING that can guide you from where you are to where you want to be!)
“I have chosen you as my lover for many reasons. But I am most compelled by the attraction I feel for your feminine heart… Your special gift to me is the unique quality of the feminine love you offer. Your feminine essence fills my life with a love that is so intimate and tender, my heart opens at your sight. I understand there is a lot more to you, but you are my chosen lover – rather than just my friend – because the ambrosial light of your feminine essence fills my heart and brightens my world with beauty, inspiration and the unending grace of love’s abundance.”
– David Deida
Which means at some point in your life and somewhere deep in your heart you have held the fairy tale belief: the right man will find you, you’ll give him what he wants and needs, and he’ll love you forever.
Sure you still LOVE romance novels and you might cry during weddings but somewhere along the way….
So you put on your big girl pants.
And you slowly started to let the magic and wonder of love and fairy tales fade away…
Do you deep down inside STILL BELIEVE in that fairy tale romance?
Are you ready to attract and keep a man capable of meeting you where you’re at and giving you what you most passionately yearn for?
Then read on. Because I’m here to tell you that it’s not only possible, I’m going to show you how to do it.
For those of you who are not familiar with David Deida, I highly suggest you buy Dear Lover immediately! (And then buy The Way of the Superior Man for extra brownie points and understanding.) David Deida is my own personal spiritual guru in regards to love, sex, intimacy and the divine masculine and feminine.
I’ve been studying him for years and there was ONE HUGE turning point for me that happened while reading his books.
One very important shift that allowed me to see what I was doing wrong in all my prior relationships.
In order to understand what you could be doing wrong, you have to understand the difference between the divine masculine and the divine feminine.
And I’m not talking about the difference between a boy and a girl and if you’ve got male-bits or lady-parts.
I’m talking deep down inside…..
2. the ever-changing flow of love and and life; the unknown; the mystery; the constant change
2. dance and move yourself in total body ecstasy
Both of us have masculine AND feminine qualities, but there will always be one that you MOST resonate with.
If you’re still having trouble figuring out which you are, this question usually seals the deal.
2. be ravished by your lover and desire him/her to merge with your heart and take you completely
If you answered (1) to most of the above, then definitely a masculine core essence, regards of what your genitals are. If you answered (2), well then definitely the feminine.
I speak from personal experience.
I’m a lady at heart; but I never really had that ‘a-ha’ realization until I read David Deida.
I was caught up in the de-feminization of our society. Women can work AND run the household. They can have kids and a career. By golly, if a man can do it then so can a women!
Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, except backwards and in high heels!
In all my intimate relationships, I was trying so hardly to be the man AND the woman. And as a result, one of the following things happened:
And I’m you can guess what happened as a result.
We broke up.
One day, while I was serving in a brew pub, a cute sweet guy sat at my table. He ordered a beer and he asked for my number.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret…
The relationship you have to objects, the weather, food, and to others – and they all reflect the relationship you have with YOURSELF!
This all started when you were a child.
What words did they use when they scolded you? Do you use the same words when you scold YOURSELF? The same goes for how you praise yourself. Did you use the same words when you are telling yourself ‘Well-done!’ Or perhaps your parents never praised you so you have no idea how to praise yourself.
And that’s okay. Don’t blame your parents. That’s a victim mentality and removing the ability to take control of your life and actions.
I don’t blame parents. They can’t teach you what they themselves did not know. They are simply victims of victims.
Let that sink in.
Every major relationship we have…..
Is a reflection….
Of the relationship….
We had with one of our parents.
Perhaps too much truth that it’s scary?
What we attract always mirrors qualities we have or beliefs we have about ourselves.
Look for someone in your life that bothers you. Describe three things about this person you don’t like. Now look deeply inside of you and ask yourself ‘Where am I like that and when do I do the same thing?”
Close your eyes and give yourself time to answer the question. Write down those instances when you’ve been the EXACT SAME WAY of what bothers you about someone else.
Then ask yourself if you’re willing to change.
When you remove patterns, habits and beliefs from your thinking and behavior, they will change or leave your life. It’s as simple as that.
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” – Ghandi
If you have a lover who is cold and seems unloving, look to see if there is a belief within you that came from watching your parents in your childhood that says “Love is cold and undemonstartive.”
If you have a partner who is nagging and non-supportive, again, look to your childhood beliefs. Did you have a parent that was nagging and non-supportive? Are you that way?
Change your patterns and your will find that ‘they’ are different too.
How do we attract the love we want?
There’s a quote I love:
Love comes when we are least expecting it, when we are not looking for it. Hunting for love NEVER brings the right partner. It only creates longing and unhappiness.
Love is never outside ourselves, love is within ourselves.
Here’s a tool that I use with clients and it works. It’s also something that can be changed or added to on a daily or monthly basis as your desires and qualities change.
Sit down and list the qualities you want in a relationship. How do you want to feel in a relationship? How do you want your partner to act towards you? And what do you want your partner to say to you?
And that’s it.
Be ready for love when it does come.
Prepare the field and be ready for love to grow!
Be loving and you will be lovable.
And I wish I could tell you that the work stopped there.
That’s not how it works.
Using the tools I teach to other women, I manifested the man of my dreams.
Like really hard.
Like ‘what would you do if we broke up’ type of conversation really hard.
And let me tell you, my heart was hurting.
I learned really quick that the work never ends. And especially not in the most important relationship – the one with your intimate.
I knew these fights that my guy and I were having were not only about him..but deeply deeply about me.
When he said that I made him feel like ‘he wasn’t good enough and that he failed,’ well you can bet I flipped that around in my head instantly to mean “I don’t think I’m good enough and I think I failed.”
As soon as we shifted from honeymoon phase and started down this path to self-sabotage, there were two very important tools that I used to figure out what the hell was going on and how the heck to fix it.
Because ultimately, deep down in my heart, I know I deserve to have an amazing relationship with myself an with my beloved.
And if you’re reading this, so do you.
The premise of the Work is 4 questions. Byron Katie offers up the worksheet freely on her website which you can access and print out at any time.
In my case, I will use a very personal example to show you how it’s done:
In this case, when I searched into my heart (and it didn’t take much searching) I found the answer to be ‘no.’
If I had answered ‘yes’ I would have moved onto question 2.
For me, I felt sad and insecure. I felt like I wasn’t good enough.
You can then dig deeper into the reply by answering an additional series of questions.
a) Does that thought bring peace or stress into your life?
b) What images do you see, past and future, and what physical sensations arise as you think that thought and witness those images?
c) What emotions arise when you believe that thought?
d) Do any obsessions or addictions begins o appear when you believe that thought? (Do you act out on any of the following: alcohol, drugs, credit cards, food, sex, television?)
e) How do you treat the person in this situation when you believe the thought? How do you treat other people and yourself?
I would simply be at peace. I would be happy in my relationship on a daily basis and excited about all the big changes ahead of us! I would enjoy each and every moment with this amazing being who loves me dearly.
And after you’ve done all of this, the turn-around. Take the belief and turn it around to yourself, to the other and to the opposite.
1. To the Self – I don’t really love me.
2. To the other – I don’t really love him.
3. To the opposite – He doesn’t really love me.
And then you ask yourself if the turnaround is less true, true, or more true than the original statement. And let me tell you, you’ll know if your heart immediately if they are true or even truer than your originally statement.
Even more, it’s beneficial to find at least 3 times in this situation where you can find those turn arounds to be true.
By doing this exercise I VERY QUICKLY realized my core issue was a feeling of not being good enough and not loving myself.
I realized that I had been forgetting about me.
Little me, the scared little girl inside, was not feeling the love. So she was lashing out…
Which brings me to the second exercise on my healing journey to self-love and awareness.
This is a book that is the culmination of over 30 years of clinical experience performed by Susan Anderson.
The inner child is our 4 year old self that has basic needs to feel loved and safe and secure. When those needs aren’t being met, our outer child acts out as a way to get those needs to be met. However, it’s never in a healthy way and as a result of outer child’s actions, it usually makes the problem worse.
When I realized that issues between he and I were most certainly our outer children acting out, I did a writing exercise.
It might seems silly. And it will most likely seem a little schizophrenic, but it works. And I highly suggest you try it.
Close your eyes and imagine your inner child. Your inner child is you at four years old and just wants love. When those needs aren’t being met, Outer Child (lets pretend it’s a big brother around 10 years old) acts out to help protect Inner. But it always makes things worse.
See your Inner Child. See your Outer child. And then put your Adult Self in the room with the two of them. Your adult self is a loving, caring adult. (I usually envision a loving aunt or grandma for this).
Tell Inner child that it’s okay to turn around and stand up to Outer Child. Inner child tells Outer Child that there is no need to protect her any more because Adult Self is there.
Now this is where it gets fun.
Open your eyes. Grab and pen and paper and start by having a conversation between your Inner Child and your Adult (Big) self.
I will use the beginning of my dialog as an example so you can see how powerful this work is and you’ll be surprised by what actually comes up!
Big: What’s up, little? Why is Outer acting up so much? What am I missing?
Little: I’m scared. What if Ron doesn’t like me in the end? Once he really gets to know me? What if I’m unlovable?
Big: That’s not possible. You’re completely lovable. I love you!
Little: No you don’t. You’re so worried about external validation that you’re not really focused on loving me.
Big: That’s going to change. I’ll do things every day to show that I love you. I do love you. And I love Ron, too.
Little: But what about me? If you don’t love me, things will get worse. Outer will keep acting out and sabotage your relationship with Ron. And you’ll be alone. And unhappy. Because all you’ll be left with is me…who you don’t really love. And we’ll both be sad.
Big: I hear you. I’m listening. You need more love. I’m sorry I’ve been neglecting you. What can I do?
You see?! It’s so amazing what comes up in our subconscious as we’re having a conversation with ourselves.
The conversation went on and I realized some deep and powerful nuggets, such as: “I’m so scared of being seen for who I really am. What if I’m not good enough?”
The conversation ended with Big comforting Little and promising to “be pro-active and take the steps I need to take and not allow fear to ruin my life. I’ll put on my big girl pants and start acting like a mature grown-up and show you love. I’ll act from my heart in love and not from fear.”
I know, sounds a bit crazy.
But you’ll have to trust me on this.
And I continue to use them when necessary. It’s a never-ending process. We don’t reach enlightenment. Just like we don’t reach a perfect relationship end-point where we can just sit back, put our feet up and enjoy the good life.
Oh, and one more thing….
If you just THINK the dialog, your mind is too quick. It gets ahead of you and tries to come up with the solution. You HAVE to write and have the conversation. Only then you will reach your ‘a-ha’ moments.
And I promise, your life will improve. Not just in your love life and relationships, but in general.
And tell me what happens when you do so.
Already read the books? Tell me below how you’ve put those tools into your life practice! Not just in relationships but in every aspect!
Then read on, girlfriend, because I’ve got three helpful practices you can implement today in order to attract JUST THAT TYPE of love and partner into your life!
As time goes on and my connection deepens with my man, I can’t help but reflect on how far I’ve come in the realm of love. My partner cares for me deeply and I feel secure in his love. He cherishes me and our relationship deepens on a daily basis as he showers me with love and appreciation.
My past relationships are sprinkled with heartbreak, tears, sadness, and disappointment. (sound familiar?)
And as painful as it was, I wouldn’t trade those experiences for the world because they taught me ONE very important thing.
So what is that ONE thing?
It’s important to know what we want in life and in our love life. When we know what we want, we can take the steps towards creating it!
But sometimes it’s not so easy to figure that out…
How many times have you been asked “What do you want?”
to which the answer is usually:
But ask a woman what she DOESN’T want, on the hand…
Ahh…..now we’re talking!
So, when you are continuously confronted with painful situations laden with what you DON’T WANT, it’s a great basis for creating the opposite: a life you do want!
All that pain and all that heartbreak gave me a crystal clear vision of what I do not want in my love life.
These three things I teach in my 6 Weeks to Love Intensive Coaching program and I’m happy to introduce them to you now!
I know you’ve heard it before because I like to preach it!
You’ve got to LOVE THYSELF.
Self-love is the KEY to attracting an amazing relationship.
Our lives are simply mirrors of our beliefs of yesterday. Whatever we believe about ourselves or believe we can have is EXACTLY what we end up creating in our lives.
The reason self-love is so important is simple: we attract people who treat us how we treat ourselves.
How many of you have heard about the woman who always attracts in the abuser? And usually the woman is a stereotypical type of gal: meek, timid, doesn’t believe in herself, the victim.
Many of us carry hidden beliefs that we aren’t good enough or worthy enough to be deeply loved. So we attract someone in that gives us just what we believe we deserve. We create relationships that ‘prove’ this to be true. We call-in people and circumstances that make us feel unworthy. And it affirms our belief system and the cycle continues.
So how do you break that cycle?
The way to end this cycle is exactly what I teach in my coaching intensive. It centers around learning how to value yourself way MORE than you ever have before!
You learn to listen to yourself. You learn what YOUR needs are. You get to know yourself and become super sensitive to your needs. It’s everything that you’ve always wished (and waited) that your ideal partner would do for you.
It’s how your ideal match would care for you.
You’ve GOT to start loving yourself today in the EXACT way you want to be loved.
Only then will you attract in the person that will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
Let’s say you wanted to buy a new couch for your living room.
But your living room is full!
There’s the old couch still in there, for one. There are stacks of books piled next to it. Last night’s dinner is still on the coffee table….
There is no space in your living room for a new couch.
So how do you expect to fit one in there?
Well for one, you’ve got to clean up the mess.
For two, get that old couch out of there!
It’s the exact same for your love life.
Clean up the mess –
This one is the best part of the process!
It’s the best for two reasons.
I love to write and I love to dream and use my imagination.
The sky is the limit! This is how progress is created in the world. How many scientists and revolutionaries came up with something simply amazing that changed the course of history because they dared to dream of something that didn’t exist before?
The lightbulb. Electricity. The gas powered car. An airplane. Gravity. The Earth revolving around the sun, for goodness sake.
And you know what these all had in common?
It was something that didn’t exist prior. It was only in that person’s head.
So when you visualize love, all you have to do is close your eyes and picture yourself in an average day with your partner.
Before I was actually in this amazing relationship I am today, I would journal and dream and write down everything I wanted in a relationship.
And then I would close my eyes…
I could imagine what it would FEEL like to be with this person even though I didn’t have the awesome relationship yet.
Before I had experienced what it truly felt like to be cherished by a man, I would hold that vision and feeling in my mind at least once a day, and usually more like three or even five times a day! It felt good to go to my ‘never land’ of a place I had never experienced before.
The more I concentrated on the vision and the feeling, the more certain I became in the idea that my love was being attracted to me. The more I felt those feelings of love and worth, the more excited I got about the relationship!
The more excited I become, the closer the relationship came to me until one day, he was standing right in front of me and ordering a beer. (yup, I met my guy while I was a waitress. Goes to show, you never know what life has in store for you!)
By implementing the practices above, I started the process of attracting my devoted partner towards me.
2. I created space for a partner in my life.
3. And I visualized what life would look like with that person.
If you’re interested in going deeper and attracting in your partner in as little as 6 weeks, I highly suggest you apply to for my 1:1 intensive coaching program.
And also, please leave a comment below telling us how you’re going to become the embodiment of love. How are you going to implement these practices into your daily life? Have you already been doing them and are they working for you?
I look forward to hearing from you!
At least, that’s what I thought. I didn’t have a huge amount of confidence; I didn’t go on many dates; The popular (aka cute) guys weren’t attracted to me.
Times were rough.
And it’s good attention. It’s not because I’m wearing a low-cut shirt or a super short skirt.
How would you like to learn how to instantly appear more attractive to the opposite sex without going on a diet, getting a haircut, or buying new clothes? How would you like to have men notice YOU instantly when you walk into a room? Do you desire to get asked out on more dates without changing a thing about your personality?
So how do you make some simple changes that will have the men turning heads when you walk into the room and notice you as you’re walking down the street?
Read on my friend, and stick with me until number 7 – because it’s my favorite one, it’s the MOST effective (for me) and you’ll never guess what it is!
This one is the MOST SIMPLE one to implement! And it works! A study in Switzerland examined the relationship between attractiveness and smiling.
And not only that, a happy facial expression compensated for relative unattractiveness. So, put a beautiful smile on your face, honey, when you walk into the restaurant, or step into a bar, or walk into a new environment where you don’t know anyone and you’ll instantly appear more attractive and approachable.
This is a bit trickier to convey if you’re not a naturally confident person. It’s so much easier to be a wall flower. BUT that’s not for you! Here are a couple of tips to convey elevated levels of confidence that will INSTANTLY make you appear sexier. Celebrate the success of others. Don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes. Celebrate your OWN successes (no, it’s not bragging)! And get this –
Isn’t that amazing? Too many women judge themselves too harshly (I can raise my hand and say I’ve been in this boat before. Too many times.) Have confidence in your beauty and trust that most people actually see you as MORE beautiful than you see yourself! Own it, girlfriend.
Join a hiking group, volunteer for a cause you believe in, train for a marathon, play guitar at an open mic night, you get the idea! You’ll instantly appear more attractive when you’re following your heart and filling your day with activities that you enjoy.
Bonus – the people you meet will be into the same interests as you – score!
Meeting a guy with similar interests will make it much more likely you two will hit it off and create a lasting friendship, if not something more!
If you wear stuff you feel good in, you’’ll instantly look and feel more attractive. Go through the closet and get rid of items that no longer serve you and put much more focus into wearing the items that you LOVE. When you’re celebrating the real YOU, the guys you attract to you will appreciate the real you, too.
Have beautiful blue eyes? Long sexy legs? Shiny brown hair? Whatever it is that you LOVE about you, find a way to make your best features stand out by choosing certain clothes and accessories that accentuate them. For example, if you have really pretty dark eyes, wearing gold hoop earrings might draw more attention to them. Or how you wear your bangs might attract more attention to those beautiful eyes.
It’s been a while since I’ve had bangs, but when I did, I got so many compliments on my eyes! The attention/focus was directed straight to my big blue eyes!
Another interesting study!
When you hang out with a group of ladies, men will generally see individual group members as being more attractive than they actually are.
Can we say – ladies night!
I find that men are super attracted to me when I’m wearing red lipstick. I FEEL like a sexy vixen when I’m in it, and I KNOW that confidence is just oozing out of my pores and men see that and are attracted to it. I’m not saying you have to go out and buy the lipstick yourself, but it works for me. And it’s a really simple thing to do whenever I need a boost and want to feel more attractive.
There are plenty shades of red, if you’re looking to get a couple more looks in your direction, find a shade that works for you!
Start putting all 7 of these steps into practice and get ready for more heads to be turning your way and for your confidence levels to soar and to instantly feel more attractive to the opposite sex!
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