7 Reasons to LOVE being Single during the Holidays (or any time of year for that matter)

Newsflash: being single during the holidays can massively suck.

(And in other news, the sky is blue, the snow is white, and eggnog is disgusting)

But guess what, lady?!

Being SINGLE during the holidays can actually be the ‘most wonderful time of the year.’

So before you drown your sorrows in a cup of whiskey and hot cocoa…

Why not FIRST focus on these 7 AMAZING reasons why being single during the holidays is actually an awesome thing! (plus, I give you one extra bonus reason….so stick around until the end!)

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7 Reasons to LOVE being single for the Holidays!

1. Quality Time with Friends and Family

This is a wonderful time to deepen the connection with those that are already in your life! Instead of focusing on why you’re oh-so-alone, why don’t  you put more energy into relationships with those that you already love!? Or the family members that you only see once a year!?

You’re already surrounded by loved ones. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and have a great time with those amazing people that already love and adore you, baby!

 

2. Pamper Yo’self

And that’s an order!

Guess what?

You have no significant other to spend money on in the form of gifts, booze, dinners, etc. 

So save that money and spend it on you!

Have you had your eye on something special for you for a while? Well NOW is the perfect time to get yourself those pair of shoes, or new phone or put the money aside for a trip. You get the idea!

On a side note – If you are stressing that you’re alone, NOW is the time to learn these 3 ways to become Irresistible. 

 

3. Work it out, baby

Instead of moping around feeling sorry for yourself, use your free time to work out! Get in shape. Get in better shape! Head to the gym with your single girlfriends instead of having another martini after work.

This is the perfect time to actually utilize your free time towards something productive….like taking care of that beautiful body of yours!

 

4. Socialize and Be Merry

When you’re single….you get to meet MORE people! So get out there and socialize because you’re not going to be single forever. Enjoy the fact that you can unabashedly meet and flirt with everyone at the party (until you find out they are taken, of course).

And on another side note, you actually don’t have to worry about fights with your significant other. And for some reason, they seem to come up a lot during the holidays! Fights about money, fights about family, fights about who has to shovel this time, etc…

 

5. Tell peeps you’re single

For some reason, during the holidays us coupled people like to set up our single friends! So this is great time to announce to the world that you’re single. And that you’re totally open to being set up on blind dates. And that you’d totally love to tag along with couples to their functions. You’d be amazing at how FULL your social calendar can become!

Fun Story…

One Single Year – one of my married friends invited me to their Jewish family holiday Hanukkah party! It was so much fun and totally amazing! I learned so much. I ate new food. I got hit on by 80 year old uncles. AND I didn’t necessarily have to worry about being polite to the snobby aunt that no-one could stand to be around, because they weren’t my family!

Ha! You just never know what will happen when you’re open to tagging along to everyone else’s events!

 

6. Start your Resolutions Early

Want to read 50 books next year? Start making the list and buying the books.

Resolve to get yourself to the gym 5 days a week? Start going now!

Want to take the trip of a lifetime? Start saving now and looking up flights!

You get the idea. Use this extra time to start working on you and what makes you happy and feel fulfilled in life. Instead of focusing on the lack and what you don’t have.

Which is pretty much the fastest way to feel bad about yourself and get stuck in your misery.

 

7. Holiday Guilty Pleasures

I once ate an entire pumpkin pie in one sitting in high school.

And I’ve done it again since.

Why?

Because I LOVE pumpkin pie.

And I had no one to share it with.

Now I’m not saying you should sit around and stuff your face with bonbons.

But the point I’m trying to make is that if you want to sit around in comfy pajamas all weekend and watch the Hallmark channel holiday movie marathon for 36 hours straight…

Well you can do just that, now can’t you?

And if you’re obsessed with holiday music, well you can sing ‘Single Bells, Single Bells’ at the top of your lungs while drinking a bottle (or two) of wine on Christmas Eve, now can’t you???

 

8. In Laws.

Seriously. Need I elaborate more on that bonus reason?

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Your Friends Know Why You’re Single (Truth Tuesdays Ep 42)

Here’s a truth bomb for ya: Your friends know why you’re single! 

Let’s be real, they’ve known you forever.   They know all of your stories and your issues and your struggles. They’ve seen you interact with the opposite sex. They’ve heard all of your relationship stories.

And when it comes to your love life, let’s be real, they are definitely MORE OBJECTIVE than you are!    So, if you want to know WHY you’re single and what to change about yourself, ask a friend. 

  If you don’t mind that you’re single and are perfectly happy going to a restaurant and asking for a ‘table for one!’ then stop reading this blog.

But if you’re looking for the real reason you’re single such as:

  • “you’re a bit clingy”
  • “you totally obsess over men and smother them”
  • “You’re absolutely needy, demanding and kinda a bitch to guys.”

Then it’s important that you ask a friend who is going to be honest with you. But perhaps cushion the blow a little bit?

 

If you’ve been single forever, or your dating game seems to be a bit off, or you always attract a ‘certain type’ or the guys you like never like you back, then perhaps it is time for a serving of cold, hard truth!   A word of caution – the truth can hurt.   So make sure you’re ready to hear it.  

And then swallow your pride, get over yourself, and fix what is getting in your way to having an amazing partnership!

 

And you might want to sign up for my free masterclass coming up “Single for the Holidays? Manifest Love Now!”  

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How to get an ’emotionally unavailable’ man to commit (#truthtuesdays Ep 41)

I recently had a woman ask me: 

 

How do you deeply connect with a man who is emotionally unavailable, depressed, over-anxious and over-thinking who shuns connection?
 
Woah! Great question.
 
Watch below if you’re wondering how exactly you do that…
 If you’re curious to know more about Conflict to Conscious Communication that I talked about in the video, click here. 

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What GOLF has to do with Manifesting Love (#truthtuesdays ep 40)

Would you believe it if I told you that a golf tournament back in high school changed my view on love and manifestation for the rest of my life?!

Whether you golf or not, watch and learn about my ‘golf failure’ at a tournament and how it helped me shape my outlook on life and increase my powers of manifestation immediately! 

This is something you won’t want to miss if you’re single and looking for love…

 

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7 Reasons Women Don’t Have Sex with Men

Now before you start thinking that this is a pro-lesbian piece…

It actually has nothing to do with lesbians. (I’m pro-lesbian, pro-choice, pro-gays, pro-whatever-you-wanna-be.) 

Instead, allow me to inform the heterosexual male species why sex isn’t always so enjoyable for us females and why sometimes we don’t want to have sex with you. 

“I have a headache.”

Ever heard that one before? 

There are various reasons why a woman simply ‘wont’ be in the mood’ and guess what, buster? It has a LOT to do with YOU or past men that have left her unfulfilled and wanting more.

I’m ordering the reasons in order of importance, with the most important reason up on top.

1. You’re the Only One Getting Off

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This is the most important reason a woman doesn’t want to sleep with you. I don’t care if it’s the first time you’re sleeping together or the 1,000th time. If you ain’t pleasing her to orgasm, she most likely will NOT be pleased and will not want to sleep with you again.

Sex is a two way street where both partners are enjoying themselves. And don’t get me wrong and think it has to be tit-for-tat. There’s been plenty of sexual romps with my man where only one of us got off. We’ve had sexual experiences where one of us focused ENTIRELY on the other person’s pleasure. It’s all part of the adult teeter-totter game. 

Instead, I’m talking about the men who just have sex for their pleasure and don’t put any focus on the woman. 

This type of sexual relations seemed to be HUGE (at least for me) in my 20s. Men just wanted one thing and they didn’t care about if the woman got off. Or they didn’t know any better and thought that ‘penetration’ was enough to stimulate an orgasm. Or they were too immature to talk about sex and feelings and emotions. 

Simple questions like: 

“Does it feel good when I touch you like this?” 

“Right here?”

“Harder, softer?”

Make a world of a difference in regards to pleasuring your partner (and it goes both ways, you know!) 

Men, if you’re the only one consistently getting off (and trust me, you SHOULD know if she orgasmed without a doubt), it’s time to learn how to please your lady or else she ain’t going to be sticking around much longer. 

Here’s some fun facts: 

•62 percent of women always orgasm during masturbation

•34 percent of women always orgasm during oral sex

•27 percent of women always orgasm during intercourse where the penis enters the vagina

•26 percent of women always orgasm during genital touching

​It’s time to step up your game! 

2. You’re Not Very Good At Sex… Or Sex Becomes Predictable

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This is the most important reason a woman doesn’t want to sleep with you. I don’t care if it’s the first time you’re sleeping together or the 1,000th time. If you ain’t pleasing her to orgasm, she most likely will NOT be pleased and will not want to sleep with you again. 

Sex is a two way street where both partners are enjoying themselves. And don’t get me wrong and think it has to be tit-for-tat. There’s been plenty of sexual romps with my man where only one of us got off. We’ve had sexual experiences where one of us focused ENTIRELY on the other person’s pleasure. It’s all part of the adult teeter-totter game. 

Instead, I’m talking about the men who just have sex for their pleasure and don’t put any focus on the woman. 

This type of sexual relations seemed to be HUGE (at least for me) in my 20s. Men just wanted one thing and they didn’t care about if the woman got off. Or they didn’t know any better and thought that ‘penetration’ was enough to stimulate an orgasm. Or they were too immature to talk about sex and feelings and emotions. 

Simple questions like: 

“Does it feel good when I touch you like this?” 

“Right here?”

“Harder, softer?” 

Make a world of a difference in regards to pleasuring your partner (and it goes both ways, you know!) 

Men, if you’re the only one consistently getting off (and trust me, you SHOULD know if she orgasmed without a doubt), it’s time to learn how to please your lady or else she ain’t going to be sticking around much longer. 

Here’s some fun facts: 

62 percent of women always orgasm during masturbation

34 percent of women always orgasm during oral sex

27 percent of women always orgasm during intercourse where the penis enters the vagina

26 percent of women always orgasm during genital touching

  1. You’re The Only One Getting Off

Now before you start thinking that this is a pro-lesbian piece…

It actually has nothing to do with lesbians. (I’m pro-lesbian, pro-choice, pro-gays, pro-whatever-you-wanna-be.) 

Instead, allow me to inform the heterosexual male species why sex isn’t always so enjoyable for us females and why sometimes we don’t want to have sex with you. 

“I have a headache.” 

Ever heard that one before? 

There are various reasons why a woman simply ‘wont’ be in the mood’ and guess what, buster? It has a LOT to do with YOU or past men that have left her unfulfilled and wanting more. 

I’m ordering the reasons in order of importance, with the most important reason up on top.

This is a hard pill to swallow, I’m sure because most men (when asked) will claim to be a stallion in the sack! 

Unfortunately it’s not the case. 

According to a recent survey, not only are 80 percent of women putting their health last—after their children, spouses and even pets—but 62 percent of women admitted to not being satisfied with their sex lives.

Umm…that’s a lot of unhappy sex lives. 

And if sex is starting to become predictable, your honey is most likely going to say “Not tonight, sweetie, I’m tired.” 

So, what can you do to spice things up in the bedroom? Try having sex outside of the bedroom. There’s a lot of other rooms in your house. Or outside of your house, for that matter! Surprise her with flowers, sexy music, or a new sexual position. Buy a book on Kama Sutra and randomly open to a page and exclaim “We are trying this tonight, baby!”

That’s a quote, right? 🙂 

Now, what happens if you fear you might not be very good at sex?

There is where communication comes into the equation. Start asking your sexual partner(s) what she likes. Listen to her breath when you’re touching her. Do a bit of research on how to get her off. Treat sex like anything else you’ve mastered in your life. To be great at it, you’ve got to dedicate some time to study! 

Trust me, I’ve never met a woman who claimed that her man was too good in the sack.

This is a hard pill to swallow, I’m sure because most men (when asked) will claim to be a stallion in the sack! 

Unfortunately it’s not the case. 

According to a recent survey, not only are 80 percent of women putting their health last—after their children, spouses and even pets—but 62 percent of women admitted to not being satisfied with their sex lives.

Umm…that’s a lot of unhappy sex lives. 

And if sex is starting to become predictable, your honey is most likely going to say “Not tonight, sweetie, I’m tired.” 

So, what can you do to spice things up in the bedroom? Try having sex outside of the bedroom. There’s a lot of other rooms in your house. Or outside of your house, for that matter! Surprise her with flowers, sexy music, or a new sexual position. Buy a book on Kama Sutra and randomly open to a page and exclaim “We are trying this tonight, baby!”

Sex is the spice of life, so make sure it’s extra spicy! 

That’s a quote, right? 🙂 

Now, what happens if you fear you might not be very good at sex? 

There is where communication comes into the equation. Start asking your sexual partner(s) what she likes. Listen to her breath when you’re touching her. Do a bit of research on how to get her off. Treat sex like anything else you’ve mastered in your life. To be great at it, you’ve got to dedicate some time to study! 

Trust me, I’ve never met a woman who claimed that her man was too good in the sack.

3. She’s Sexually Frustrated… and it’s because of You! 

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Number 3 really is just an extension of the last two points. If you’re not good at sex and if she isn’t really enjoying it how she’d prefer, she’s going to be become extremely sexually frustrated and not want to ‘do it’ with you.

She’ll probably also spend more time fantasizing about others and this is when you can start down a slippery slope. (And not in a good slippery way!) 

If she’s sexually frustrated, you two have got to get GREAT at communicating. She’s only frustrated because you’re not pleasuring her how SHE likes. 

You need to ask her what she wants. But she also needs to speak up and tell you how she likes it. 

Number 3 really is just an extension of the last two points. If you’re not good at sex and if she isn’t really enjoying it how she’d prefer, she’s going to be become extremely sexually frustrated and not want to ‘do it’ with you. 

She’ll probably also spend more time fantasizing about others and this is when you can start down a slippery slope. (And not in a good slippery way!) 

If she’s sexually frustrated, you two have got to get GREAT at communicating. She’s only frustrated because you’re not pleasuring her how SHE likes. 

You need to ask her what she wants. But she also needs to speak up and tell you how she likes it. 

In general, most women want more foreplay, more intimacy, more touching and more kissing. If she feels like a piece of meat, a mounting block, or simply a hole to get off in, well she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you.

For women, sex is all about the emotional connection. And I know you men most likely don’t want to hear this next bit but you’ve got to talk about it. And not when you’re horizontal. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about sex over dinner. 

Honey, I’ve been thinking about sex lately. And I want to learn how to please you even more. Please, tell me what you like in bed. 

Any woman will LOVE a man that puts her pleasure as a priority.

In general, most women want more foreplay, more intimacy, more touching and more kissing. If she feels like a piece of meat, a mounting block, or simply a hole to get off in, well she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 

For women, sex is all about the emotional connection. And I know you men most likely don’t want to hear this next bit but you’ve got to talk about it. And not when you’re horizontal. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about sex over dinner. 

Honey, I’ve been thinking about sex lately. And I want to learn how to please you even more. Please, tell me what you like in bed. 

Any woman will LOVE a man that puts her pleasure as a priority.

4. Poor Communication

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No matter how long you’ve been dating or if this is a one-night stand, if two two of you cannot communicate, the sex most likely will not be great and she’s not going to want to sleep with you again.

(Looking to improve your communication with your signifiant other. Check out my Communication Course!)

The quality of the relationship with a partner can seriously impact the quality of a woman’s sexual experiences. When a woman is not feeling loved, cherished and appreciated by her partner, the last thing she wants to do is have sex with him.

Having sex is directly attached to a woman’s emotions. Yup, I’ve said it again. If she is upset, angry or resentful towards her mate, sex is probably not going to happen. If it does happen, it will most likely be out of obligation with little or no satisfaction for her. Which then brings us back to point number 1. If she’s not getting off or not enjoying it, she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 

Here’s what I suggest: talk to your lady.

And not about trivial shit. Things that matter to her. 

At least once a day ask her how she feels about something directly related to her emotional state.

  • Honey, how do you feel about our relationship? 
  • Babe, how do you feel about our sex life? 
  • Darling, how would you feel about trying a new sexual position tonight? 
  • Love, how are you feeling today about us and our life together?

Taking the time to ask your partner about her feelings and listen whole-heartedly works wonders to improve communication and also increase emotional intimacy between the two of you leading to….

MORE SEX!

And better sex, too. 

No matter how long you’ve been dating or if this is a one-night stand, if two two of you cannot communicate, the sex most likely will not be great and she’s not going to want to sleep with you again. 

(Looking to improve your communication with your signifiant other. Check out my Communication Course!) 

The quality of the relationship with a partner can seriously impact the quality of a woman’s sexual experiences. When a woman is not feeling loved, cherished and appreciated by her partner, the last thing she wants to do is have sex with him.

Having sex is directly attached to a woman’s emotions. Yup, I’ve said it again. If she is upset, angry or resentful towards her mate, sex is probably not going to happen. If it does happen, it will most likely be out of obligation with little or no satisfaction for her. Which then brings us back to point number 1. If she’s not getting off or not enjoying it, she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 

Here’s what I suggest: talk to your lady. 

And not about trivial shit. Things that matter to her. 

At least once a day ask her how she feels about something directly related to her emotional state. 

Honey, how do you feel about our relationship? 

Babe, how do you feel about our sex life? 

Darling, how would you feel about trying a new sexual position tonight? 

Love, how are you feeling today about us and our life together? 

Taking the time to ask your partner about her feelings and listen whole-heartedly works wonders to improve communication and also increase emotional intimacy between the two of you leading to….

MORE SEX! 

And better sex, too. 

5. Busy Schedules & Exhausted Bodies 

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If her schedule is insane and she’s physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, it will leave little room for sex. 

Yeah – this one isn’t your fault! 

However, it’s something the two of you can work on so that you are both getting enough sex in your life which will improve the mood, reduce the stress and increase overall body health. 

Here’s what you can do:

1. Talk about it.  (Honey, in an ideal world, how much sex would you like to be having? In a perfect world, would someone else be dropping the kids off at all their extra curricular activities? Would you like to hire a part-time nanny or housecleaner?) 

Taking some items off her to-do list can make a HUGE difference. So many women think they have to do it all. Which is simply untrue. 

Help your lady out, when possible. 

2. Prioritize Sex

I highly encourage a ‘date-night’ at least once a week where the two of you are alone and hanging out. You’ve planned a romantic dinner. Kids are somewhere else and the two of you can simply focus on your relationship again. 

While all the items on your to-do list may seem really important, truly nothing is as important as a healthy and sexually fulfilling love life with the person you love.

If her schedule is insane and she’s physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, it will leave little room for sex. 

Yeah – this one isn’t your fault! 

However, it’s something the two of you can work on so that you are both getting enough sex in your life which will improve the mood, reduce the stress and increase overall body health. 

Here’s what you can do: 

1. Talk about it.  (Honey, in an ideal world, how much sex would you like to be having? In a perfect world, would someone else be dropping the kids off at all their extra curricular activities? Would you like to hire a part-time nanny or housecleaner?) 

Taking some items off her to-do list can make a HUGE difference. SO many women think they have to do it all. Which is simply untrue. 

Help your lady out, when possible. 

2. Prioritize Sex 

I highly encourage a ‘date-night’ at least once a week where the two of you are alone and hanging out. You’ve planned a romantic dinner. Kids are somewhere else and the two of you can simply focus on your relationship again. 

While all the items on your to-do list may seem really important, truly nothing is as important as a healthy and sexually fulfilling love life with the person you love.

6. She Doesn’t Feel Sexy

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If a woman doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to feel like having sex. (What a concept, right?)

In the US, we are a bit obsessed with looks and there’s an unrealistic expectation that a woman looks a certain way. There was a study published in The Journal of Sex Research that found that the emphasis in American culture on being young and thin is more influential than menopause when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

No matter her looks or her size, there are so many things you can do to help your partner feel sexy and as a result, feel like having sex with you!

Tell her on a daily basis everything you love about her. Make sure to cover all the bases, not just the physical attributes. Tell her how much you appreciate her and that she takes care of the kids, she cleans the house, she makes dinner, she makes 6 figures, whatever it is, think of various reasons you love the heck out of her and tell her these things daily. 

Many relationships fail because partners start to take each other for granted and forget to focus on the positive attributes of their partners.

Here’s another idea: figure out your partner’s Love Language and make sure to speak to it on a daily basis. This will go a long way in getting you more high-quality sex, my friends! 

(Once again, for all you couples out there, check out my course on Communication. We address the Love Languages first thing!)

If a woman doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to feel like having sex. (What a concept, right?) 

In the US, we are a bit obsessed with looks and there’s an unrealistic expectation that a woman looks a certain way. There was a study published in The Journal of Sex Research that found that the emphasis in American culture on being young and thin is more influential than menopause when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

No matter her looks or her size, there are so many things you can do to help your partner feel sexy and as a result, feel like having sex with you! 

Tell her on a daily basis everything you love about her. Make sure to cover all the bases, not just the physical attributes. Tell her how much you appreciate her and that she takes care of the kids, she cleans the house, she makes dinner, she makes 6 figures, whatever it is, think of various reasons you love the heck out of her and tell her these things daily. 

Many relationships fail because partners start to take each other for granted and forget to focus on the positive attributes of their partners. 

Here’s another idea: figure out your partner’s Love Language and make sure to speak to it on a daily basis. This will go a long way in getting you more high-quality sex, my friends! 

(Once again, for all you couples out there, check out my course on Communication. We address the Love Languages first thing!)

7. Your Penis Size

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Okay, you feared this was going to come up on the list, didn’t you? And I almost didn’t put it on here. But to be honest, yes it does play a role in sex. But, it’s not super important. Ask any woman and many will agree that it’s ‘not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean’ that makes up for great sex.

Your penis is just ONE PART of sex. And if you two have great communication, and you are actively engaged in her pleasure, and you’re mixing things up, and you’re taking stress off her plate, then I’d say you two are having great sex regardless of the size, color, location of your member. 

But if you suck at everything else AND you’re lacking in the girth department, then you’re out of luck my friend. 

You can’t change your penis size, but you can read points 1 through 6 again and step up your game!

Ladies… comment below. Anything else I missed that you’d like men to know. 

Men… tell us your thoughts. We’re all grown-ups here! 

(And of course make sure to share on your favorite social media platform because there are some clueless boys out there!) 

Okay, you feared this was going to come up on the list, didn’t you? And I almost didn’t put it on here. But to be honest, yes it does play a role in sex. It’s not super important. Ask any woman and many will agree that it’s ‘not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean’ that makes up for great sex. 

Your penis is just ONE PART of sex. And if you two have great communication, and you are actively engaged in her pleasure, and you’re mixing things up, and you’re taking stress off her plate, then I’d say you two are having great sex regardless of the size, color, location of your member. 

But if you suck at everything else AND you’re lacking in the girth department, then you’re out of luck my friend. 

You can’t change your penis size, but you can read points 1 through 6 again and step up your game!

Resources: 

http://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/new-survey-most-women-are-not-satisfied-their-sex-lives 

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/latricia-smith/5-reasons-women-are-dissatisfied-their-sex-lives

http://www.healthywomen.org/content/article/new-survey-most-women-are-not-satisfied-their-sex-lives 

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/latricia-smith/5-reasons-women-are-dissatisfied-their-sex-lives

Can you have it all? Both the Career of your Dreams & the Love of Your Life? (#truthtuesdays Ep 37)

Can you realistically have BOTH the business of your dreams AND the love of your life? 

It’s a question that many of my clients have asked me.

In fact, I’ve even have some women tell me that they’d rather build their empire first and THEN focus on finding the love of their life! 

What? 

My man was the only reason I was able to build my cafe years back. Without his support, I would have fizzled out after all those long days, nights and weekends. 

So this week, I had a conversation with my colleague and friend, Gaelle Lecourt. She’s a freedom and business coach and she helps women to create financial freedom by showing them the steps and processes to build their dream career allowing them a life of freedom.

 

Yes, you can have it all. 

 

You can have both love and a successful career that you run on your own terms. 

Make sure to watch and stay for the whole thing because we cover: 

  • Many women entrepreneurs are saying they have no time to find Mr Right because they are too busy building their business. Why is it important to find more time in their life as a female entrepreneur, especially at the beginning when you start your business?
  • How to find more time in your life for your business, especially if you’re a start-up and especially if you’re also searching for love!
  • Why it is important to create systems in business and in life if you truly want to have it all!  
  • Have no idea where to start in regards to a business of your own? Here’s how you can create your own mini-system! 
  • Where can you find Gaelle?

  • Check out her website, stalk her on Instagram (she has some GREAT content there), or ask to join her Facebook group (you’ll find me there as well!)
  • Interested in starting a business of your own? Click here for Gaelle’s generous gift which is “How to leave your 9-5 and start your online coaching business with confidence.”  
  • Yes, you CAN have it all!

The 5 Obvious Perks of Dating Older Men (and why they drive me insane sometimes, too)

My man is 13 years older than me. 

*GASP* 

But here’s the real deal: I’ve always dated older men. 

In high school, I was a freshman and he was a junior. I was a sophomore and he was a freshman in college. 

In college, he was 28!

After I graduated college, he was in his late 30s. 

In my later 20s, they would be in their early 40s. 

And now at the ripe old age of 31, he is 44. 

For a while, I tried to date men my age. But it never lasted very long and it can be summed up in one word: 

M A T U R I T Y 

And boys my age simply didn’t have it. (Looking to rope your own Cowboy? Check out my programs page to Manifest Love.)

Yes, there are pros and cons to dating men my age or not my age and I’d like to run them by you so you can decide for yourself if dipping into the silver foxes dating pool is something that you’d like to experience. 🙂 

 

5 Reasons Why Dating Older Men is a Great Thing to Do 

1. They have money. And I don’t mean this in a superficial way. But I simply mean that they don’t stress out over having to buy things. Like food or toilet paper. This usually means they are financially responsible and own their own house and a car that doesn’t breakdown every other time they pick you up for a date. 

2. They are gentlemenly. Ok, not all of them. But at least the ones I have dated understand the old-fashioned way of treating a lady like a lady. He opens my door. He offers me his jacket when I’m cold. He gets me a glass of water when I’m thirsty instead of saying ‘go get it yourself.’ You get the idea. It’s nice to be treated like a queen. (Speaking of which. I suggest you check my free how-to guide called Land Prince Charming. It worked for me. It can work for you, too!) 

3. Older men are better lovers. Truly. They last longer and know how to appreciate the female body. They are ‘givers’ more than they are ‘receivers’ and they are ‘experienced’ in the land of the female curves, hills and valleys. 

4. They have purpose and drive. Older men usually are past the ‘play’ phase in life where they are stumbling in and out of bars with zero direction in life. Instead, they have grown up and have figured out what they want to do with their lives and are usually going out there and ‘getting it’ which is extremely sexy. 

5. They are mature. Wait, did I say that already? It bears repeating. Older men are actually grown up. And they know what they want out of life. They understand how to treat women (especially their lovers and mothers). They don’t play games (usually). Oh and get this, it takes men a whole lot longer to mature than us women, wouldn’t you agree? 

 

5 Reasons Why Dating Older Men Can Be Really F***ing Challenging 

1. Sometimes they can get all ‘I’m older than you so I have more life experience and I’ve been through this already‘ type of shit and it drives you insane! I get it. You’re older. But it does not equate with wiser. And guess what? Sometimes we need to go through our own shit in order to ‘figure it out.’ 

2. Many older men have been married or have kids and aren’t interested in doing that again. Make sure you get clear on what YOU want and ask him what HE wants before diving in. 

3. A lot of them would rather stay at home and work on the house or play with their cars (like my guy) instead of going out to meet friends, have drinks and explore. #getsOld

4. You get annoyed with  all his friends saying things like “What? You’re only _____? I could be your mother!” or “Robbing the cradle, huh man? Good for you!” Or even worse, when he mother says “She’s too young for you. She’s got too much energy. She’ll end up leaving you.” #hurtful #SheReallySaidThat

5. His daughter/son is only a couple years younger than you and/or his parents are your grandparents age! That’s hard on the ego. But if you can look past it, it’s not really a big deal. Humans are humans and I promise you, there are weirder situations out there. For example, my last boyfriend was a year older than my step-mother! It’s not that he was THAT much older. It was that he was older and my stepmom is a decade younger than my father. Weird. But, whatever. 

A long time ago, I decided that men took about 10 additional years to mature to ‘adult age’ than us women did. So as long as I was dating a decade older, I’d be dating my equal. 

Call me egotistical but it’s true. And sadly, sometimes the men in their 40s that I dated still didn’t have their shit together. 

Turns out, age isn’t everything. 

 

What do YOU think? Have any thoughts/feelings/experience on the subject? Comment below and make sure to share the love on Facebook!

(Explicit) #truthtuesdays ep 35 interview with Gillian Sky Walker – Love & Relationship Coach

You know the one thing I LOVE most about having my own business? 

It’s that I get to run the show and do whatever the hell (or heavens, for that matter) I want to do! Meaning, I get to swear when I want to. And in this week’s edition of #TruthTuesdays, Gillian Sky Walker and I swear. A lot. 

  • So, if you’re offended by words that start with F and end with K…
  • If you really don’t care to hear synonyms for crap, poo or poopy…
  • And if you think multiple marriages is something that cannot be forgiven…

Then do NOT watch this week’s episode of #TruthTuesdays. 

Because Gillian and I are real and raw and we drop the F-Bomb. Multiple times. Gillian also confesses intimate details about the failure of her first…and second…marriages. 

 

We have a lot of TRUTH to share with you this week if you’re looking to score life-long love and intimacy and it can be nicely emphasized by cursing a bunch and shaking you out of your stupor! 

You hear me? 

 

May I present to you Gillian Sky Walker

– Life Coach. Yoga Teacher. Stripper. Shaman. Love is the answer. And I can help you find it.  –

Taken directly from her Facebook profile page. (Which if you haven’t Facebook stalked her yet, do it now.)

You can also get some help (if you’re single) with your online dating profile by cruising over to her website – Profile Pimpers. Yup. How cool is she? 

Gillian is a Love and Relationship Coach and I LOVE having her as a friend and presenting her decades of knowledge onto you now, dear reader and watcher. 

 

Just so you know what you're getting yourself into when you click play above, let me give you a little bit of what you're going to catch on the video. 

  • www.ProfilePimpers.com - optimize your online profile to land dates with high quality individuals (minute 1) 
  • Gillian first marriage and her run-in (and out) with a certain religious organization (minute 3)
  • Gillian second marriage, red flags, horrific dating experiences and Peter Pans, "washed up goods" at 31 years old and why you should 'trust your fucking intuition' (minute 4) 
  • Soul searching, 'WTF am I doing?' moments, plus the other F word (FEAR) keeping her (and you!) in relationships that aren't meant to be (minute 5) 
  • The Peru Decision aka Ayahuasca aka 'the Mind Fuck' and leading to a lot of throwing up, leaving her second marriage and finding her true 'soulmate' (minute 6) 
  • Over-giving, the 'shell of a person' = needs not getting met (minute 8) 
  • How to find your power again (minute 11) 
  • Make decisions from a place of __________ (*hint - has to do with self-love) (minute 13) 
  • The "F-You Power" and "F-Yeah Vibration" (minute 14)
  • How to find your way back to yourself (minute 16)
  • THIS is the best way to start your day to set yourself up for success (minute 17)
  • Challenges and perks of a long distance relationship (minute 19)
  • How incredibly important __________ is to the success of a soulmate relationship (minute 20) 
  • What to look for in a life partner (minute 22) 
  • Advice for all couples to keep the magic alive (minute 26) 
  • Advice for all single women looking to land Prince Charming (minute 27) 

 

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6 Q’s to Ask on a 1st Date to Find a High-Quality Partner

Finding a high-quality partner can be hard.

Where do they all hide? 

 

If you’ve been focusing on the superficial things such as the money in his bank account, his height or his looks, girl, you are focusing upon the wrong thing! 

 

There are SIX essential questions one must ask on a first date if you want to find out if the person sitting across from you is HIGH-QUALITY SOULMATE material! 

 

Watch below and take notes. 

 

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