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So I actually sat down and mapped out step by step how the hell I was going to manifest the love of my life, the man of my dreams.
And you know what happened as a result?
Like at all.
Instead, I’m going to show you how it CAN work in your favor!
The information that I’m sharing with you today is only one part of my#ManifestHim private coaching program and also is included in my 8 week Attract the One via Radical Self Love online coaching program.
If you follow the steps I’m sharing with you today you will:
Rumi, one of my favorite poets, once said:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
And that is what you’ve got to do, my dear.
Don’t LOOK for love as OUTSIDE of you. Instead, remove all the blocks and barriers you’ve created INSIDE of you to love.
Sounds woo-woo but it really is as simple as that.
Let’s do this!!!!!
Before you can actually change your life for the better and attract in the love of your life, you actually need to commit to it happening.
You need to be hell-bent on the outcome happening for you!
You need to push aside any worries or fears that it’s not going to work out.
You need to get rid of any sorry-ass excuses that “I’m too ugly/fat/boring/tired/busy to manifest love”.
Instead, COMMIT to yourself that love is available to you right in this moment and you will stop at nothing to get it.
You can’t always get what you want. That’s for sure. (cue Rolling Stones song….)
And sometimes we don’t even get what we need.
But what I’ve figured out in my life is that I usually (if not 100% of the time) get what I COMMIT to and put my mind to and work my ass off towards getting….
What’s that? I can’t run my own wildly successful love coaching business online, mister neigh sayer ?
Just you fucking watch me!
And then I commit to making it happen and then BAM! Less than 3 months later, I have a schedule full of clients and am building various online programs that already have a waiting list.
That’s the difference between WANTING something in life and actually GETTING something in life.
So, when you actually DECIDE that you’re ready for your soulmate in your life (and this is no small feat because you will have to face your SHIT and own up to it on a daily basis), you have to COMMIT to it.
Just like getting married, baby.
Anything less than a 120% commitment, well, that’s the relationship you’re going to get. Half-assed.
Okay, this one is a bit more challenging for some people, because we are a tangled mess of fears and insecurities and ‘yeah, but…’ that even though you say the affirmations and journal and dream and whatever else woo-woo shit that I suggest you do….
If you don’t actually BELIEVE it can happen for you deep down inside, it WON’T happen for you.
(I elaborate MORE on this concept in my recent blog post – so I’m not going to go into it here. Read the post. Then come back, mmmkay?)
So, spend a couple minutes figuring out what your current belief systems are in regards to love and a good way to do it is as follows:
I’m not saying you have to publicly post on Facebook that you are looking for your soulmate and currently taking applications. (although you certainly can if you want to. I saw someone do it once and I thought “Hells yes! Good for him. Putting himself out there and letting the world know he is ready!”)
But what it does mean is this:
I love this part! This is where you get to sit down and journal EXACTLY what you want Mister/Missus Right to look like, smell like, feel like, etc.
Our subconscious mind operates in pictures and feelings.
So – get clear on what your perfect life with this perfect person is going to LOOK like. And I highly suggest you get super duper clear in what you want. And please DON’T write what you don’t want. Only focus on what you DO want. Nothing is too trivial. Put it all in there!
And then sit your pretty self down for at least 10 minutes a day and DREAM. See this vision clearly in your mind’s eye and FEEL it like it was happening today.
That’s an order, young lady!
I know, easier said than done. But this step has to happen.
Work on forgiving yourself.
Forgive past lovers and old partners.
You NEED to create space for this NEW love to enter your life.
Another great analogy (because I love them)….
Imagine you were walking through a prairie of waist high grass.
You walk through it once.
Most likely, no one will be able to tell you were there….
But, if you walk it over and over and over again…
A path is formed!
So, train yer brain!
What NEW PATHWAYS are you going to create?
We have spent years and years and years creating certain paths and belief systems and a lot of the time….they aren’t even our belief systems! They were handed down to us by society or by our parents or friends!
You tell the story of how you were hurt in the past, or why daddy didn’t love you, or how you were left at the alter on your wedding day…..YAWN!
Stop it already!
The more you tell the same old sorry stories, the more you tell the universe that is what you expect to continue to happen with your life.
Instead, start telling a new story of how you always meeting amazing and loving people. Of how you are excited to go to new events because of the people you are going to meet. Of how much you fricken love yourself and love your life and are looking forward to so many new amazing experiences in your future!
You get me, here?
It takes a village, baby.
When I was seriously ready to let go of my old limiting belief systems, you know what I did?
No body can (or should) go at ‘it’ alone.
Think about professional athletes – they have coaches! They don’t decide one day to stop training because they are good at what they do. Nope, they seek help and get better!
And you know what else?
Some days you feel like crap. Your emotions get the better of you (especially if you’re a woman!) and you feel like there is no hope in sight. So you cuddle up with a gallon of Ben and Jerry’s.
But if you have a support system on hand – those moments won’t last long and they will be few and far between!
So – take a good hard look at your friends – are they building you up or tearing you down? Are you cheering you on or agreeing with you when you say there are no good men out there?
And guess what – when you’re soulmate comes along….shit comes up!
My relationship with my man can be challenging. He’s a beautiful mirror of issues in myself that I have not healed.
And if I didn’t have friends/mentors/coaches that I could turn to when the shit hits the fan….well most likely we still wouldn’t be together. It’s constant work, my friends. And it never ends.
You’ve set the intention. You’ve done the work. Now what?
Keep doing the work!
Keep taking the steps to improve yourself.
Clear out emotional baggage.
Get your mind on track and stop thinking silly old limiting beliefs.
Take care of your beautiful body – hikes, yoga, gym time, whatever you enjoy.
Love yourself fiercely, like you’re all you’ve got.
Because guess what?
You ARE all you’ve got.
You’ve done all you can. Now is the time to let go and trust in the universe. Trust that all is happening in divine timing and will manifest exactly when and how it’s supposed to!
If you want to jump start the process of attracting in your one true love, then let’s get on the phone and talk! Apply for a Breakthrough to Love Coaching Call and let’s see if working together is a logical next step for you!