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Men: Here’s what women REALLY notice about you…

Men: Let’s be real. I bet at one time or another you wished you looked like this because then ALL the pretty ladies would be into you, right? 

Turns out, when polled, most ladies don't actually notice the 'looks of a man' when he walks up to her. 

 

Instead, these are the things that women notice first thing when a man walks up to her (to ask her for her number because she's just so darn cute.) 

(And find out what men think makes a woman REALLY BEAUTIFUL by clicking here to read!) 

 

Danelle: His facial expression and his height 

Anna: Height, does he have kind eyes and is he smiling?

Michele: His eyes and then his voice.

Nicole: height, eyes, smile (or lack of)

Kimberly: If he has a weapon or not.

Maggie: Probably how tall he is

Betty: His energy

Clair: The way he walks. And his energy

KariEyes and smile.

Kelly: His face 

Bethany: His walk and how he carries himself (is he looking at the ground, phone, people around him) then I notice height of course and chest/shoulders ?

Stacey: Eyes

Donna: Scent, expression on face

Debra: Way he walks..and yes, Looks!!

Joia: His posture

Molly: His eyes and his smile 

Megan: Where his eyes are looking and the curvature/expression on his lips. 

Sara: Eyes, smile

Rena: How close he gets. 

Dorothy: What he's wearing, height, the way his face is put together. 

Megan: How he carries himself

Jenny: If he's aware of himself. If he's paying attention to his surroundings.

Ashley: posture 

Melissa: All depends. Posture, dress or "style" he has, smile, movements, eye contact. Over all "vibe" he carries, it isn't about the brand of clothes for example.. instead it is the whole energy, presence then once he has arrived- it is the quality of the conversation, how his mind works, his humor etc 

Wahkeena: vibes

Kathleen: His eyes and energy vibration

Peggy:His eyes 

Beth: Confidence, eye contact, sense of warmth or not, presence or not 

Lacey: His confidence (or lack there of) then probably height/smile

Alyssa: How he carries himself. Its in the walk and his eyes that get me. If he gives me that look and I’m into him...damn watch out. 

Beth: his heart 

 

Gentlemen, as you can see, the grand majority of women do not even notice your physique when you're walking up to her. Instead, it's your eye contact, it's the smile on your face, and it's the overall energy and presence that you present that a woman is going to notice. 

 

Here's my suggestion for walking up to a woman and catching her attention and (hopefully) landing her number: 

  1. Make eye contact 
  2. Smile 
  3. Stand tall and act confident 
  4. Be open and honest. Women can notice a man's vibes from a mile away so be genuine with her. If you noticed her amazing gorgeous hair, tell her that. If you can't help but notice that she has a beautiful smile, let her know. We women are crafty creatures and we will notice if you are not really present, if you are marking shit up and using 'a line' or low in the self confidence department. 

 

And at the end of the day, if she's not interested, at least you got the courage to talk to a pretty woman that caught your eye and you most likely made her day by being genuine and offering a real compliment! 

 

Ladies: anything else to add? Please comment below! 

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3 Ways to avoid DRAMA in your relationship

Here’s the best way I know to avoid drama in your relationship:

Don’t BE dramatic. 

 

Simple as that. 

 

We get what we put out, energetically speaking. And so if YOU are the type of gal who is dramatic, who is jealous, who gossips, etc, you will absolutely attract drama into your relationship.

 

One of my favorite sayings is this: 

 

“We don’t get what we want. We get who we are.” 

 

So who are you being? 

I know this is not what you wanted to hear and many will think to themselves: I’m not dramatic! I’m not jealous. I have no issues. I’m just perfect. It’s him that needs to change. 

Sorry, sister. This is simply not true. No one is perfect. We are all works in progress. 

 

News flash: We are mirrors for one another. 

 

And your relationship is the most intimate mirror you will ever have. So if you don’t like something in your relationship, you’ve got to change yourself. YOU are the person who needs to take a good hard look into the mirror and realize that you need to step it up in the self-development department.  

 

So how do you improve yourself and remove the pattern of being dramatic, or needy, or whatever other ‘issues’ that you may have? 

 

  1. Read self-help books. Yes, you heard me correctly. Self-help books are no longer just for those under the care of a psychiatrist. I’ve read over 1,000 self-help books in the past decade and they have morphed me into a human being that truly cares about herself, that sees the good in every person she meets, and believes that love is at the core of it all. And as a result? I have a pretty damn good life filled with amazing close and loving relationships. We are mirrors for one another. Once you change your internal environment, your external environment will change. I do promise you this. 
  1. Meditate.  Our ego loves to run the show. He’ll run the show in the form of self-doubt, self-sabotaging, fears, talking yourself out of a good idea, pursuing the ‘bad boys’ instead of the strong, supportive man, etc. One of the best ways I know to shut the ego off – aka the monkey mind – is to meditate. It clears the mind and paves the wave for love/inspiration/source energy to step in. A daily meditation of only 10 minutes has been shown to have a variety of benefits including: stress reduction, improving concentration, encouraging a healthy lifestyle, increasing self-awareness, increasing happiness, increasing acceptance, and reducing the desire to give a damn what other people think about you or what other people are doing with their lives. And that my dear, is fricken awesome, if you ask me.
  1. Love yourself and treat yourself how you want to be treated. So many of clients are their own worst enemy! The shit they say to themselves has even me feeling anxious and uncomfortable. But the more you can learn to love yourself and feel like a rockstar in your skin, the less drama you will feel you need to play out in your life. Start being aware of the words you are saying in your mind and be kinder and more gentle in your speak. Take time out of each and every day to do something for you. Even if it’s just 10 minutes to sit down and read your favorite book. You must put yourself first in your life not last after every item on your to-do list. 

 

Because it’s so important I’ll say it one last time to really sink this point home: we are consistently attracting into our lives the exact energy that we are putting out into the world. 

 

If you think the world is filled with kind, loving individuals, in general you will experience a world filled with kind, loving, and generous individuals. 

If on the other hand, you think people are not to be trusted and he’ll cheat on you and everyone is only out for themselves…well…you probably can guess exactly what you’ll encounter on a daily basis. 

In summary, if you’re looking to remove the drama from your relationship, remove the drama from yourself first! 

Manifest a successful Love Life in 2018 with the Vision Board

What is a vision board and how does it actually work? 

 

Is it just some new-age hype designed to get your hopes up and then let you down when things don’t actually go your way!? 

 

HELL NO! 

 

A vision board is a powerful tool of manifestation…when used correctly! 

 

Find out how to actually use a vision board to your advantage so that this coming year actually is filled with your hopes and dreams come true!

When you’re done, make sure to post your pictures of your vision board below.  And before you ask, here’s the link to the “Love of my Life” vision board in Pinterest. 🙂

 

If you loved this, I’ve got one more thing for you – join us for a FREE, NO-PITCH workshop Saturday, December 30th, 2017! 

 

Simply request access to my facebook group – Happily Ever After…is Yours! – and mark your calendar to join us live at 9am Los Angeles, Noon NYC, 5pm London on December 30th!

 

7 Reasons to LOVE being Single during the Holidays (or any time of year for that matter)

Newsflash: being single during the holidays can massively suck.

(And in other news, the sky is blue, the snow is white, and eggnog is disgusting)

But guess what, lady?!

Being SINGLE during the holidays can actually be the ‘most wonderful time of the year.’

So before you drown your sorrows in a cup of whiskey and hot cocoa…

Why not FIRST focus on these 7 AMAZING reasons why being single during the holidays is actually an awesome thing! (plus, I give you one extra bonus reason….so stick around until the end!)

Also – you will certainly want to sign up for my upcoming webinar next week:

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7 Reasons to LOVE being single for the Holidays!

1. Quality Time with Friends and Family

This is a wonderful time to deepen the connection with those that are already in your life! Instead of focusing on why you’re oh-so-alone, why don’t  you put more energy into relationships with those that you already love!? Or the family members that you only see once a year!?

You’re already surrounded by loved ones. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and have a great time with those amazing people that already love and adore you, baby!

 

2. Pamper Yo’self

And that’s an order!

Guess what?

You have no significant other to spend money on in the form of gifts, booze, dinners, etc. 

So save that money and spend it on you!

Have you had your eye on something special for you for a while? Well NOW is the perfect time to get yourself those pair of shoes, or new phone or put the money aside for a trip. You get the idea!

On a side note – If you are stressing that you’re alone, NOW is the time to learn these 3 ways to become Irresistible. 

 

3. Work it out, baby

Instead of moping around feeling sorry for yourself, use your free time to work out! Get in shape. Get in better shape! Head to the gym with your single girlfriends instead of having another martini after work.

This is the perfect time to actually utilize your free time towards something productive….like taking care of that beautiful body of yours!

 

4. Socialize and Be Merry

When you’re single….you get to meet MORE people! So get out there and socialize because you’re not going to be single forever. Enjoy the fact that you can unabashedly meet and flirt with everyone at the party (until you find out they are taken, of course).

And on another side note, you actually don’t have to worry about fights with your significant other. And for some reason, they seem to come up a lot during the holidays! Fights about money, fights about family, fights about who has to shovel this time, etc…

 

5. Tell peeps you’re single

For some reason, during the holidays us coupled people like to set up our single friends! So this is great time to announce to the world that you’re single. And that you’re totally open to being set up on blind dates. And that you’d totally love to tag along with couples to their functions. You’d be amazing at how FULL your social calendar can become!

Fun Story…

One Single Year – one of my married friends invited me to their Jewish family holiday Hanukkah party! It was so much fun and totally amazing! I learned so much. I ate new food. I got hit on by 80 year old uncles. AND I didn’t necessarily have to worry about being polite to the snobby aunt that no-one could stand to be around, because they weren’t my family!

Ha! You just never know what will happen when you’re open to tagging along to everyone else’s events!

 

6. Start your Resolutions Early

Want to read 50 books next year? Start making the list and buying the books.

Resolve to get yourself to the gym 5 days a week? Start going now!

Want to take the trip of a lifetime? Start saving now and looking up flights!

You get the idea. Use this extra time to start working on you and what makes you happy and feel fulfilled in life. Instead of focusing on the lack and what you don’t have.

Which is pretty much the fastest way to feel bad about yourself and get stuck in your misery.

 

7. Holiday Guilty Pleasures

I once ate an entire pumpkin pie in one sitting in high school.

And I’ve done it again since.

Why?

Because I LOVE pumpkin pie.

And I had no one to share it with.

Now I’m not saying you should sit around and stuff your face with bonbons.

But the point I’m trying to make is that if you want to sit around in comfy pajamas all weekend and watch the Hallmark channel holiday movie marathon for 36 hours straight…

Well you can do just that, now can’t you?

And if you’re obsessed with holiday music, well you can sing ‘Single Bells, Single Bells’ at the top of your lungs while drinking a bottle (or two) of wine on Christmas Eve, now can’t you???

 

8. In Laws.

Seriously. Need I elaborate more on that bonus reason?

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Your Friends Know Why You’re Single (Truth Tuesdays Ep 42)

Here’s a truth bomb for ya: Your friends know why you’re single! 

Let’s be real, they’ve known you forever.   They know all of your stories and your issues and your struggles. They’ve seen you interact with the opposite sex. They’ve heard all of your relationship stories.

And when it comes to your love life, let’s be real, they are definitely MORE OBJECTIVE than you are!    So, if you want to know WHY you’re single and what to change about yourself, ask a friend. 

  If you don’t mind that you’re single and are perfectly happy going to a restaurant and asking for a ‘table for one!’ then stop reading this blog.

But if you’re looking for the real reason you’re single such as:

  • “you’re a bit clingy”
  • “you totally obsess over men and smother them”
  • “You’re absolutely needy, demanding and kinda a bitch to guys.”

Then it’s important that you ask a friend who is going to be honest with you. But perhaps cushion the blow a little bit?

 

If you’ve been single forever, or your dating game seems to be a bit off, or you always attract a ‘certain type’ or the guys you like never like you back, then perhaps it is time for a serving of cold, hard truth!   A word of caution – the truth can hurt.   So make sure you’re ready to hear it.  

And then swallow your pride, get over yourself, and fix what is getting in your way to having an amazing partnership!

 

And you might want to sign up for my free masterclass coming up “Single for the Holidays? Manifest Love Now!”  

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How to get an ’emotionally unavailable’ man to commit (#truthtuesdays Ep 41)

I recently had a woman ask me: 

 

How do you deeply connect with a man who is emotionally unavailable, depressed, over-anxious and over-thinking who shuns connection?
 
Woah! Great question.
 
Watch below if you’re wondering how exactly you do that…
 If you’re curious to know more about Conflict to Conscious Communication that I talked about in the video, click here. 

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What GOLF has to do with Manifesting Love (#truthtuesdays ep 40)

Would you believe it if I told you that a golf tournament back in high school changed my view on love and manifestation for the rest of my life?!

Whether you golf or not, watch and learn about my ‘golf failure’ at a tournament and how it helped me shape my outlook on life and increase my powers of manifestation immediately! 

This is something you won’t want to miss if you’re single and looking for love…

 

Did you LOVE the message in this video? Consider sharing it with your friends or leave a comment below! 

 

 

 

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5 Manifestation Secrets – shh! (#truthtuesdays ep 39)

Would you like to know my secrets of Manifestation?  

 

Having it all doesn’t have to be for the select few.  You can have: 

  • The Love of your Life
  • The Job of your Dreams
  • The Lifestyle and Money you Desire 

 

Find out how by using my Five Manifestation Secrets I share with you below! 

(Plus I give you one bonus secret as well!) 

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7 Reasons Women Don’t Have Sex with Men

Now before you start thinking that this is a pro-lesbian piece…

It actually has nothing to do with lesbians. (I’m pro-lesbian, pro-choice, pro-gays, pro-whatever-you-wanna-be.) 

Instead, allow me to inform the heterosexual male species why sex isn’t always so enjoyable for us females and why sometimes we don’t want to have sex with you. 

“I have a headache.”

Ever heard that one before? 

There are various reasons why a woman simply ‘wont’ be in the mood’ and guess what, buster? It has a LOT to do with YOU or past men that have left her unfulfilled and wanting more.

I’m ordering the reasons in order of importance, with the most important reason up on top.

1. You're the Only One Getting Off

This is the most important reason a woman doesn’t want to sleep with you. I don’t care if it’s the first time you’re sleeping together or the 1,000th time. If you ain’t pleasing her to orgasm, she most likely will NOT be pleased and will not want to sleep with you again.

Sex is a two way street where both partners are enjoying themselves. And don’t get me wrong and think it has to be tit-for-tat. There’s been plenty of sexual romps with my man where only one of us got off. We’ve had sexual experiences where one of us focused ENTIRELY on the other person’s pleasure. It’s all part of the adult teeter-totter game. 

Instead, I’m talking about the men who just have sex for their pleasure and don’t put any focus on the woman. 

This type of sexual relations seemed to be HUGE (at least for me) in my 20s. Men just wanted one thing and they didn’t care about if the woman got off. Or they didn’t know any better and thought that ‘penetration’ was enough to stimulate an orgasm. Or they were too immature to talk about sex and feelings and emotions. 

Simple questions like: 

“Does it feel good when I touch you like this?” 

“Right here?”

“Harder, softer?”

Make a world of a difference in regards to pleasuring your partner (and it goes both ways, you know!) 

Men, if you’re the only one consistently getting off (and trust me, you SHOULD know if she orgasmed without a doubt), it’s time to learn how to please your lady or else she ain’t going to be sticking around much longer. 

Here’s some fun facts: 

•62 percent of women always orgasm during masturbation

•34 percent of women always orgasm during oral sex

•27 percent of women always orgasm during intercourse where the penis enters the vagina

•26 percent of women always orgasm during genital touching

​It's time to step up your game! 


2. You're Not Very Good At Sex... Or Sex Becomes Predictable

This is the most important reason a woman doesn’t want to sleep with you. I don’t care if it’s the first time you’re sleeping together or the 1,000th time. If you ain’t pleasing her to orgasm, she most likely will NOT be pleased and will not want to sleep with you again. 


Sex is a two way street where both partners are enjoying themselves. And don’t get me wrong and think it has to be tit-for-tat. There’s been plenty of sexual romps with my man where only one of us got off. We’ve had sexual experiences where one of us focused ENTIRELY on the other person’s pleasure. It’s all part of the adult teeter-totter game. 


Instead, I’m talking about the men who just have sex for their pleasure and don’t put any focus on the woman. 


This type of sexual relations seemed to be HUGE (at least for me) in my 20s. Men just wanted one thing and they didn’t care about if the woman got off. Or they didn’t know any better and thought that ‘penetration’ was enough to stimulate an orgasm. Or they were too immature to talk about sex and feelings and emotions. 


Simple questions like: 

“Does it feel good when I touch you like this?” 

“Right here?”

“Harder, softer?” 


Make a world of a difference in regards to pleasuring your partner (and it goes both ways, you know!) 


Men, if you’re the only one consistently getting off (and trust me, you SHOULD know if she orgasmed without a doubt), it’s time to learn how to please your lady or else she ain’t going to be sticking around much longer. 


Here’s some fun facts: 

62 percent of women always orgasm during masturbation

34 percent of women always orgasm during oral sex

27 percent of women always orgasm during intercourse where the penis enters the vagina

26 percent of women always orgasm during genital touching


  1. You’re The Only One Getting Off

Now before you start thinking that this is a pro-lesbian piece…


It actually has nothing to do with lesbians. (I’m pro-lesbian, pro-choice, pro-gays, pro-whatever-you-wanna-be.) 


Instead, allow me to inform the heterosexual male species why sex isn’t always so enjoyable for us females and why sometimes we don’t want to have sex with you. 


“I have a headache.” 


Ever heard that one before? 


There are various reasons why a woman simply ‘wont’ be in the mood’ and guess what, buster? It has a LOT to do with YOU or past men that have left her unfulfilled and wanting more. 


I’m ordering the reasons in order of importance, with the most important reason up on top.

This is a hard pill to swallow, I’m sure because most men (when asked) will claim to be a stallion in the sack! 

Unfortunately it’s not the case. 

According to a recent survey, not only are 80 percent of women putting their health last—after their children, spouses and even pets—but 62 percent of women admitted to not being satisfied with their sex lives.

Umm…that’s a lot of unhappy sex lives. 

And if sex is starting to become predictable, your honey is most likely going to say “Not tonight, sweetie, I’m tired.” 

So, what can you do to spice things up in the bedroom? Try having sex outside of the bedroom. There’s a lot of other rooms in your house. Or outside of your house, for that matter! Surprise her with flowers, sexy music, or a new sexual position. Buy a book on Kama Sutra and randomly open to a page and exclaim “We are trying this tonight, baby!”

Sex is the spice of life, so make sure it’s extra spicy! 

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That’s a quote, right? 🙂 

Now, what happens if you fear you might not be very good at sex?

There is where communication comes into the equation. Start asking your sexual partner(s) what she likes. Listen to her breath when you’re touching her. Do a bit of research on how to get her off. Treat sex like anything else you’ve mastered in your life. To be great at it, you’ve got to dedicate some time to study! 

Trust me, I’ve never met a woman who claimed that her man was too good in the sack.

This is a hard pill to swallow, I’m sure because most men (when asked) will claim to be a stallion in the sack! 


Unfortunately it’s not the case. 


According to a recent survey, not only are 80 percent of women putting their health last—after their children, spouses and even pets—but 62 percent of women admitted to not being satisfied with their sex lives.


Umm…that’s a lot of unhappy sex lives. 


And if sex is starting to become predictable, your honey is most likely going to say “Not tonight, sweetie, I’m tired.” 


So, what can you do to spice things up in the bedroom? Try having sex outside of the bedroom. There’s a lot of other rooms in your house. Or outside of your house, for that matter! Surprise her with flowers, sexy music, or a new sexual position. Buy a book on Kama Sutra and randomly open to a page and exclaim “We are trying this tonight, baby!”


Sex is the spice of life, so make sure it’s extra spicy! 


That’s a quote, right? 🙂 


Now, what happens if you fear you might not be very good at sex? 


There is where communication comes into the equation. Start asking your sexual partner(s) what she likes. Listen to her breath when you’re touching her. Do a bit of research on how to get her off. Treat sex like anything else you’ve mastered in your life. To be great at it, you’ve got to dedicate some time to study! 


Trust me, I’ve never met a woman who claimed that her man was too good in the sack.

3. She's Sexually Frustrated... and it's because of You! 

Number 3 really is just an extension of the last two points. If you’re not good at sex and if she isn’t really enjoying it how she’d prefer, she’s going to be become extremely sexually frustrated and not want to ‘do it’ with you.

She’ll probably also spend more time fantasizing about others and this is when you can start down a slippery slope. (And not in a good slippery way!) 

If she’s sexually frustrated, you two have got to get GREAT at communicating. She’s only frustrated because you’re not pleasuring her how SHE likes. 

You need to ask her what she wants. But she also needs to speak up and tell you how she likes it. 

Number 3 really is just an extension of the last two points. If you’re not good at sex and if she isn’t really enjoying it how she’d prefer, she’s going to be become extremely sexually frustrated and not want to ‘do it’ with you. 


She’ll probably also spend more time fantasizing about others and this is when you can start down a slippery slope. (And not in a good slippery way!) 


If she’s sexually frustrated, you two have got to get GREAT at communicating. She’s only frustrated because you’re not pleasuring her how SHE likes. 


You need to ask her what she wants. But she also needs to speak up and tell you how she likes it. 


Great sex is a two-way street of communication.

Great sex is a two-way street of communication.

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In general, most women want more foreplay, more intimacy, more touching and more kissing. If she feels like a piece of meat, a mounting block, or simply a hole to get off in, well she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you.

For women, sex is all about the emotional connection. And I know you men most likely don’t want to hear this next bit but you’ve got to talk about it. And not when you’re horizontal. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about sex over dinner. 

Honey, I’ve been thinking about sex lately. And I want to learn how to please you even more. Please, tell me what you like in bed. 

Any woman will LOVE a man that puts her pleasure as a priority.


In general, most women want more foreplay, more intimacy, more touching and more kissing. If she feels like a piece of meat, a mounting block, or simply a hole to get off in, well she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 


For women, sex is all about the emotional connection. And I know you men most likely don’t want to hear this next bit but you’ve got to talk about it. And not when you’re horizontal. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about sex over dinner. 


Honey, I’ve been thinking about sex lately. And I want to learn how to please you even more. Please, tell me what you like in bed. 


Any woman will LOVE a man that puts her pleasure as a priority.

4. Poor Communication

No matter how long you’ve been dating or if this is a one-night stand, if two two of you cannot communicate, the sex most likely will not be great and she’s not going to want to sleep with you again.

(Looking to improve your communication with your signifiant other. Check out my Communication Course!)

The quality of the relationship with a partner can seriously impact the quality of a woman's sexual experiences. When a woman is not feeling loved, cherished and appreciated by her partner, the last thing she wants to do is have sex with him.

Having sex is directly attached to a woman’s emotions. Yup, I’ve said it again. If she is upset, angry or resentful towards her mate, sex is probably not going to happen. If it does happen, it will most likely be out of obligation with little or no satisfaction for her. Which then brings us back to point number 1. If she’s not getting off or not enjoying it, she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 

Here’s what I suggest: talk to your lady.

And not about trivial shit. Things that matter to her. 

At least once a day ask her how she feels about something directly related to her emotional state.

  • Honey, how do you feel about our relationship? 
  • Babe, how do you feel about our sex life? 
  • Darling, how would you feel about trying a new sexual position tonight? 
  • Love, how are you feeling today about us and our life together?

Taking the time to ask your partner about her feelings and listen whole-heartedly works wonders to improve communication and also increase emotional intimacy between the two of you leading to….

MORE SEX!

And better sex, too. 

No matter how long you’ve been dating or if this is a one-night stand, if two two of you cannot communicate, the sex most likely will not be great and she’s not going to want to sleep with you again. 


(Looking to improve your communication with your signifiant other. Check out my Communication Course!) 


The quality of the relationship with a partner can seriously impact the quality of a woman's sexual experiences. When a woman is not feeling loved, cherished and appreciated by her partner, the last thing she wants to do is have sex with him.


Having sex is directly attached to a woman’s emotions. Yup, I’ve said it again. If she is upset, angry or resentful towards her mate, sex is probably not going to happen. If it does happen, it will most likely be out of obligation with little or no satisfaction for her. Which then brings us back to point number 1. If she’s not getting off or not enjoying it, she’s not going to want to continue to sleep with you. 


Here’s what I suggest: talk to your lady. 


And not about trivial shit. Things that matter to her. 


At least once a day ask her how she feels about something directly related to her emotional state. 


Honey, how do you feel about our relationship? 

Babe, how do you feel about our sex life? 

Darling, how would you feel about trying a new sexual position tonight? 

Love, how are you feeling today about us and our life together? 


Taking the time to ask your partner about her feelings and listen whole-heartedly works wonders to improve communication and also increase emotional intimacy between the two of you leading to….


MORE SEX! 


And better sex, too. 


5. Busy Schedules & Exhausted Bodies 

If her schedule is insane and she’s physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, it will leave little room for sex. 

Yeah - this one isn’t your fault! 

However, it’s something the two of you can work on so that you are both getting enough sex in your life which will improve the mood, reduce the stress and increase overall body health. 

Here’s what you can do:

1. Talk about it.  (Honey, in an ideal world, how much sex would you like to be having? In a perfect world, would someone else be dropping the kids off at all their extra curricular activities? Would you like to hire a part-time nanny or housecleaner?) 

Taking some items off her to-do list can make a HUGE difference. So many women think they have to do it all. Which is simply untrue. 

Help your lady out, when possible. 

2. Prioritize Sex

I highly encourage a ‘date-night’ at least once a week where the two of you are alone and hanging out. You’ve planned a romantic dinner. Kids are somewhere else and the two of you can simply focus on your relationship again. 

While all the items on your to-do list may seem really important, truly nothing is as important as a healthy and sexually fulfilling love life with the person you love.

If her schedule is insane and she’s physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, it will leave little room for sex. 


Yeah - this one isn’t your fault! 


However, it’s something the two of you can work on so that you are both getting enough sex in your life which will improve the mood, reduce the stress and increase overall body health. 


Here’s what you can do: 


1. Talk about it.  (Honey, in an ideal world, how much sex would you like to be having? In a perfect world, would someone else be dropping the kids off at all their extra curricular activities? Would you like to hire a part-time nanny or housecleaner?) 


Taking some items off her to-do list can make a HUGE difference. SO many women think they have to do it all. Which is simply untrue. 


Help your lady out, when possible. 


2. Prioritize Sex 

I highly encourage a ‘date-night’ at least once a week where the two of you are alone and hanging out. You’ve planned a romantic dinner. Kids are somewhere else and the two of you can simply focus on your relationship again. 


While all the items on your to-do list may seem really important, truly nothing is as important as a healthy and sexually fulfilling love life with the person you love.

6. She Doesn't Feel Sexy

If a woman doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to feel like having sex. (What a concept, right?)

In the US, we are a bit obsessed with looks and there’s an unrealistic expectation that a woman looks a certain way. There was a study published in The Journal of Sex Research that found that the emphasis in American culture on being young and thin is more influential than menopause when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

No matter her looks or her size, there are so many things you can do to help your partner feel sexy and as a result, feel like having sex with you!

Tell her on a daily basis everything you love about her. Make sure to cover all the bases, not just the physical attributes. Tell her how much you appreciate her and that she takes care of the kids, she cleans the house, she makes dinner, she makes 6 figures, whatever it is, think of various reasons you love the heck out of her and tell her these things daily. 

Many relationships fail because partners start to take each other for granted and forget to focus on the positive attributes of their partners.

Here’s another idea: figure out your partner’s Love Language and make sure to speak to it on a daily basis. This will go a long way in getting you more high-quality sex, my friends! 

(Once again, for all you couples out there, check out my course on Communication. We address the Love Languages first thing!)

If a woman doesn’t feel sexy, she’s not going to feel like having sex. (What a concept, right?) 


In the US, we are a bit obsessed with looks and there’s an unrealistic expectation that a woman looks a certain way. There was a study published in The Journal of Sex Research that found that the emphasis in American culture on being young and thin is more influential than menopause when it comes to sexual satisfaction.


No matter her looks or her size, there are so many things you can do to help your partner feel sexy and as a result, feel like having sex with you! 


Tell her on a daily basis everything you love about her. Make sure to cover all the bases, not just the physical attributes. Tell her how much you appreciate her and that she takes care of the kids, she cleans the house, she makes dinner, she makes 6 figures, whatever it is, think of various reasons you love the heck out of her and tell her these things daily. 


Many relationships fail because partners start to take each other for granted and forget to focus on the positive attributes of their partners. 


Here’s another idea: figure out your partner’s Love Language and make sure to speak to it on a daily basis. This will go a long way in getting you more high-quality sex, my friends! 


(Once again, for all you couples out there, check out my course on Communication. We address the Love Languages first thing!)

7. Your Penis Size

Okay, you feared this was going to come up on the list, didn’t you? And I almost didn’t put it on here. But to be honest, yes it does play a role in sex. But, it’s not super important. Ask any woman and many will agree that it’s ‘not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean’ that makes up for great sex.

It’s ‘not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean’ that makes up great sex.

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Your penis is just ONE PART of sex. And if you two have great communication, and you are actively engaged in her pleasure, and you’re mixing things up, and you’re taking stress off her plate, then I’d say you two are having great sex regardless of the size, color, location of your member. 

But if you suck at everything else AND you’re lacking in the girth department, then you’re out of luck my friend. 

You can’t change your penis size, but you can read points 1 through 6 again and step up your game!

Ladies... comment below. Anything else I missed that you'd like men to know. 

Men... tell us your thoughts. We're all grown-ups here! 

(And of course make sure to share on your favorite social media platform because there are some clueless boys out there!) 


Okay, you feared this was going to come up on the list, didn’t you? And I almost didn’t put it on here. But to be honest, yes it does play a role in sex. It’s not super important. Ask any woman and many will agree that it’s ‘not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean’ that makes up for great sex. 


Your penis is just ONE PART of sex. And if you two have great communication, and you are actively engaged in her pleasure, and you’re mixing things up, and you’re taking stress off her plate, then I’d say you two are having great sex regardless of the size, color, location of your member. 


But if you suck at everything else AND you’re lacking in the girth department, then you’re out of luck my friend. 


You can’t change your penis size, but you can read points 1 through 6 again and step up your game!