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Men: Here’s what women REALLY notice about you…

Men: Let’s be real. I bet at one time or another you wished you looked like this because then ALL the pretty ladies would be into you, right? 

Turns out, when polled, most ladies don't actually notice the 'looks of a man' when he walks up to her. 

 

Instead, these are the things that women notice first thing when a man walks up to her (to ask her for her number because she's just so darn cute.) 

(And find out what men think makes a woman REALLY BEAUTIFUL by clicking here to read!) 

 

Danelle: His facial expression and his height 

Anna: Height, does he have kind eyes and is he smiling?

Michele: His eyes and then his voice.

Nicole: height, eyes, smile (or lack of)

Kimberly: If he has a weapon or not.

Maggie: Probably how tall he is

Betty: His energy

Clair: The way he walks. And his energy

Kari: Eyes and smile.

Kelly: His face 

Bethany: His walk and how he carries himself (is he looking at the ground, phone, people around him) then I notice height of course and chest/shoulders ?

Stacey: Eyes

Donna: Scent, expression on face

Debra: Way he walks..and yes, Looks!!

Joia: His posture

Molly: His eyes and his smile 

Megan: Where his eyes are looking and the curvature/expression on his lips. 

Sara: Eyes, smile

Rena: How close he gets. 

Dorothy: What he's wearing, height, the way his face is put together. 

Megan: How he carries himself

Jenny: If he's aware of himself. If he's paying attention to his surroundings.

Ashley: posture 

Melissa: All depends. Posture, dress or "style" he has, smile, movements, eye contact. Over all "vibe" he carries, it isn't about the brand of clothes for example.. instead it is the whole energy, presence then once he has arrived- it is the quality of the conversation, how his mind works, his humor etc 

Wahkeena: vibes

Kathleen: His eyes and energy vibration

Peggy:His eyes 

Beth: Confidence, eye contact, sense of warmth or not, presence or not 

Lacey: His confidence (or lack there of) then probably height/smile

Alyssa: How he carries himself. Its in the walk and his eyes that get me. If he gives me that look and I’m into him...damn watch out. 

Beth: his heart 

 

Gentlemen, as you can see, the grand majority of women do not even notice your physique when you're walking up to her. Instead, it's your eye contact, it's the smile on your face, and it's the overall energy and presence that you present that a woman is going to notice. 

 

Here's my suggestion for walking up to a woman and catching her attention and (hopefully) landing her number: 

  1. Make eye contact 
  2. Smile 
  3. Stand tall and act confident 
  4. Be open and honest. Women can notice a man's vibes from a mile away so be genuine with her. If you noticed her amazing gorgeous hair, tell her that. If you can't help but notice that she has a beautiful smile, let her know. We women are crafty creatures and we will notice if you are not really present, if you are marking shit up and using 'a line' or low in the self confidence department. 

 

And at the end of the day, if she's not interested, at least you got the courage to talk to a pretty woman that caught your eye and you most likely made her day by being genuine and offering a real compliment! 

 

Ladies: anything else to add? Please comment below! 

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7 Reasons to LOVE being Single during the Holidays (or any time of year for that matter)

Newsflash: being single during the holidays can massively suck.

(And in other news, the sky is blue, the snow is white, and eggnog is disgusting)

But guess what, lady?!

Being SINGLE during the holidays can actually be the ‘most wonderful time of the year.’

So before you drown your sorrows in a cup of whiskey and hot cocoa…

Why not FIRST focus on these 7 AMAZING reasons why being single during the holidays is actually an awesome thing! (plus, I give you one extra bonus reason….so stick around until the end!)

Also – you will certainly want to sign up for my upcoming webinar next week:

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Click here to register your lovely self

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7 Reasons to LOVE being single for the Holidays!

1. Quality Time with Friends and Family

This is a wonderful time to deepen the connection with those that are already in your life! Instead of focusing on why you’re oh-so-alone, why don’t  you put more energy into relationships with those that you already love!? Or the family members that you only see once a year!?

You’re already surrounded by loved ones. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and have a great time with those amazing people that already love and adore you, baby!

 

2. Pamper Yo’self

And that’s an order!

Guess what?

You have no significant other to spend money on in the form of gifts, booze, dinners, etc. 

So save that money and spend it on you!

Have you had your eye on something special for you for a while? Well NOW is the perfect time to get yourself those pair of shoes, or new phone or put the money aside for a trip. You get the idea!

On a side note – If you are stressing that you’re alone, NOW is the time to learn these 3 ways to become Irresistible. 

 

3. Work it out, baby

Instead of moping around feeling sorry for yourself, use your free time to work out! Get in shape. Get in better shape! Head to the gym with your single girlfriends instead of having another martini after work.

This is the perfect time to actually utilize your free time towards something productive….like taking care of that beautiful body of yours!

 

4. Socialize and Be Merry

When you’re single….you get to meet MORE people! So get out there and socialize because you’re not going to be single forever. Enjoy the fact that you can unabashedly meet and flirt with everyone at the party (until you find out they are taken, of course).

And on another side note, you actually don’t have to worry about fights with your significant other. And for some reason, they seem to come up a lot during the holidays! Fights about money, fights about family, fights about who has to shovel this time, etc…

 

5. Tell peeps you’re single

For some reason, during the holidays us coupled people like to set up our single friends! So this is great time to announce to the world that you’re single. And that you’re totally open to being set up on blind dates. And that you’d totally love to tag along with couples to their functions. You’d be amazing at how FULL your social calendar can become!

Fun Story…

One Single Year – one of my married friends invited me to their Jewish family holiday Hanukkah party! It was so much fun and totally amazing! I learned so much. I ate new food. I got hit on by 80 year old uncles. AND I didn’t necessarily have to worry about being polite to the snobby aunt that no-one could stand to be around, because they weren’t my family!

Ha! You just never know what will happen when you’re open to tagging along to everyone else’s events!

 

6. Start your Resolutions Early

Want to read 50 books next year? Start making the list and buying the books.

Resolve to get yourself to the gym 5 days a week? Start going now!

Want to take the trip of a lifetime? Start saving now and looking up flights!

You get the idea. Use this extra time to start working on you and what makes you happy and feel fulfilled in life. Instead of focusing on the lack and what you don’t have.

Which is pretty much the fastest way to feel bad about yourself and get stuck in your misery.

 

7. Holiday Guilty Pleasures

I once ate an entire pumpkin pie in one sitting in high school.

And I’ve done it again since.

Why?

Because I LOVE pumpkin pie.

And I had no one to share it with.

Now I’m not saying you should sit around and stuff your face with bonbons.

But the point I’m trying to make is that if you want to sit around in comfy pajamas all weekend and watch the Hallmark channel holiday movie marathon for 36 hours straight…

Well you can do just that, now can’t you?

And if you’re obsessed with holiday music, well you can sing ‘Single Bells, Single Bells’ at the top of your lungs while drinking a bottle (or two) of wine on Christmas Eve, now can’t you???

 

8. In Laws.

Seriously. Need I elaborate more on that bonus reason?

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Your Friends Know Why You’re Single (Truth Tuesdays Ep 42)

Here’s a truth bomb for ya: Your friends know why you’re single! 

Let’s be real, they’ve known you forever.   They know all of your stories and your issues and your struggles. They’ve seen you interact with the opposite sex. They’ve heard all of your relationship stories.

And when it comes to your love life, let’s be real, they are definitely MORE OBJECTIVE than you are!    So, if you want to know WHY you’re single and what to change about yourself, ask a friend. 

  If you don’t mind that you’re single and are perfectly happy going to a restaurant and asking for a ‘table for one!’ then stop reading this blog.

But if you’re looking for the real reason you’re single such as:

  • “you’re a bit clingy”
  • “you totally obsess over men and smother them”
  • “You’re absolutely needy, demanding and kinda a bitch to guys.”

Then it’s important that you ask a friend who is going to be honest with you. But perhaps cushion the blow a little bit?

 

If you’ve been single forever, or your dating game seems to be a bit off, or you always attract a ‘certain type’ or the guys you like never like you back, then perhaps it is time for a serving of cold, hard truth!   A word of caution – the truth can hurt.   So make sure you’re ready to hear it.  

And then swallow your pride, get over yourself, and fix what is getting in your way to having an amazing partnership!

 

And you might want to sign up for my free masterclass coming up “Single for the Holidays? Manifest Love Now!”  

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How to get an ’emotionally unavailable’ man to commit (#truthtuesdays Ep 41)

I recently had a woman ask me: 

 

How do you deeply connect with a man who is emotionally unavailable, depressed, over-anxious and over-thinking who shuns connection?
 
Woah! Great question.
 
Watch below if you’re wondering how exactly you do that…
 If you’re curious to know more about Conflict to Conscious Communication that I talked about in the video, click here. 

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Can you have it all? Both the Career of your Dreams & the Love of Your Life? (#truthtuesdays Ep 37)

Can you realistically have BOTH the business of your dreams AND the love of your life? 

It’s a question that many of my clients have asked me.

In fact, I’ve even have some women tell me that they’d rather build their empire first and THEN focus on finding the love of their life! 

What? 

My man was the only reason I was able to build my cafe years back. Without his support, I would have fizzled out after all those long days, nights and weekends. 

So this week, I had a conversation with my colleague and friend, Gaelle Lecourt. She’s a freedom and business coach and she helps women to create financial freedom by showing them the steps and processes to build their dream career allowing them a life of freedom.

 

Yes, you can have it all. 

 

You can have both love and a successful career that you run on your own terms. 

Make sure to watch and stay for the whole thing because we cover: 

  • Many women entrepreneurs are saying they have no time to find Mr Right because they are too busy building their business. Why is it important to find more time in their life as a female entrepreneur, especially at the beginning when you start your business?
  • How to find more time in your life for your business, especially if you’re a start-up and especially if you’re also searching for love!
  • Why it is important to create systems in business and in life if you truly want to have it all!  
  • Have no idea where to start in regards to a business of your own? Here’s how you can create your own mini-system! 

  • Where can you find Gaelle?

  • Check out her website, stalk her on Instagram (she has some GREAT content there), or ask to join her Facebook group (you’ll find me there as well!)
  • Interested in starting a business of your own? Click here for Gaelle’s generous gift which is “How to leave your 9-5 and start your online coaching business with confidence.”  
  • Yes, you CAN have it all!

6 Q’s to Ask on a 1st Date to Find a High-Quality Partner

Finding a high-quality partner can be hard.

Where do they all hide? 

 

If you’ve been focusing on the superficial things such as the money in his bank account, his height or his looks, girl, you are focusing upon the wrong thing! 

 

There are SIX essential questions one must ask on a first date if you want to find out if the person sitting across from you is HIGH-QUALITY SOULMATE material! 

 

Watch below and take notes. 

 

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Sneak Peak from my New Book! An exercise to INCREASE your self love

I’m super duper excited to share with you an excerpt from my book! 

I’m snuggled away in Costa Rica enjoying the mountains and the clouds and the ocean and the sand…all the while drawing inspiration from all the beauty around me to write a book on how to manifest (and keep) soulmate level love! 

If that topic is something that interests you, then you’re going to love the exercise I share in this snippet from my book! 

Want to learn even MORE about how to Manifest Love? Click the link below to get on the waiting list for Destination:Soulmate! 

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How to GET OVER your trust issues so you can have Happily Ever After (Truth Tuesdays)

I’ve never been cheated upon. 

 

Thank god.

 

But my partner, unfortunately, has experienced the gut-wrenching pain of a significant other NOT being faithful. 

According to “Infidelity Statistics”

“It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage… And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, if you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart”

Yuck.

That means at least half of you who are reading this have engaged in infidelity or have been cheated on! 

So – if that is you, how do you tell your partner that you have trust issues? 

And more importantly, how do you GET OVER your insecurities already!? 

Find out by watching!

And make sure you do the following exercises I talk about in the video: 

1. Write your Painful Love Story and then shift it to become the HERO in your life, not the VICTIM

2. Write your Letters of Forgiveness and BURN them, baby! 

 

For those of you who are looking for clear, open, honest and conflict-free communication with your significant other, check out my Conflict to Conscious Communication course!! 

It’s a MUST for anyone looking to remove arguing, drama and fights from there relationship for good!

The “One Date” Rule

My client Jenny told me about the “One Date” Rule that she has. 

Essentially if she’s not feeling it, he doesn’t get a second date.

 

But I’m a big fan of the “Two Date” Rule! 

Give anyone the benefit of the doubt: maybe he was nervous, maybe he was preoccupied with work, maybe he knew he had garlic breath and was desperately trying to stay away from your nose!

 

In fact my own personal motto is:


“I’ll try anything once and twice just to make sure!” 

 

This is the exact reason that I have my clients break their Personal Prince Charming list into 3 separate lists! (If you haven’t filled it out yet, check out my 3 Tips to Land Prince Charming!)

1. Non Negotiables – These are things that are make or break. And also, you should know after a first date if he/she passes the test of your non-negotiables list.

2. What We Have In Common – These are shared interests like working out, biking, dancing, traveling, etc

3. Icing on the Cake – These are the superficial items like “tall, dark and handsome.”

 

So many women are looking over amazing men because they don’t fit EVERYTHING on their Prince Charming list.

Says Trish: “But he’s not a Jewish banker who lives in Manhattan!! How could he possibly be The One?”

You gotta open your mind to what “the one” could be, girl!

 

When let’s be real, if he met all the non-negotiables and had 90% shared interests but wasn’t 6’2″ and was balding, would you really care?

But when you look at the ‘icing on the cake’ first….. you are missing out.

 

So – don’t be like Jenny and subscribe to the one-date rule. Because you will be missing out on a world of potential! 

Open your mind to the potential of meeting new people and having fun with them!

 

Instead, why not adopt the motto that another client, S. told me is now her personal motto:

 

“I look at first dates as practice! I love meeting new people so I just approach the first date as fun.”

And all that being said, I also have created a different “One Date” rule which is this: 

Any person who gets the courage to ask you out deserves a date! You can spare 30 minutes over a cup of coffee, can’t you?

When I first met my guy, I was totally NOT interested at all. And If I had said “NO” to him asking for my phone number because he didn’t appear like ‘my type’ at first glance….

 

Well, I wouldn’t be here today over 2 years later, would I!?

So – let’s recap shall we?

 

1. Give EVERY person who gets up the courage to ask you out the opportunity to get to know you better. (If I hadn’t of done that…well I would NOT be with my man today!)

2. Unless he’s absolutely a horrible serial killer, give every date a second date chance. Some people are just scared or awkward on the first date.