5 Ways a Love Coach helps Y-O-U to find love

Are you looking for the ‘secret’ to a life filled with love, happiness and romance?! 

And yet, are you even a little bit apprehensive that true love exists, given the current divorce rates? 

Do you believe in the power of a positive example that can guide you and lead by example? 

Stick with me…. and allow me to answer your concerns, my dear.

 

I’ve had numerous people ask me what a love coach is. 

And it’s quite possible that before you ‘met’ me, you’d never heard of a love coach before!

In fact, I even had one older gentleman laugh out loud when I told him what I did! (upon further questioning, he said he laughed because he’d never heard of that as a profession before)

Quite simply, a love coach helps you to find love. 

 

But most women have it backwards. I’ll admit it, I had backwards for years, too!

 

They think that once they get the guy, THEN they’ll feel loved and adored and cherished. 

 

Am I right?! 

But here’s what I teach and this is why it works.

First, BE TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF. 

Second, FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR LIFE. 

Third, ATTRACT AN AMAZING HIGH QUALITY MAN INTO YOUR LIFE. 

 

This is the exact opposite of what most women do. And honestly, why do you think over 50% of marriages end in divorce?
It’s because people are looking outside of themselves for love and validation. They are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right to complete them, to save them, to fix them.
And that is the fasted way to D-I-V-O-R-C-E if I’ve ever heard one!

So, looking to know why a Love Coach could be exactly what you’re looking for in order to have a life filled with love and admiration and cherishing?! 

Of course you do!

 

One. Point out the blocks right in front of your eyes 

 

Have you ever misplaced something and spent hours looking for it? You turned all the drawers inside out, you checked your car at least 10 times and you went through all the pockets of your jeans? And then a friend/boyfriend/boss/mother walks into the room and immediately sees what you’ve been searching for?!

 

Of course you have!

 

We’ve all been there.

 

Have you heard the expression: “Not being able to see the forrest for the trees”?

 

It means that when you’re in the thick of it, it can be very hard to see the bigger picture.

 

Because a love coach has worked with tens, hundreds, and sometimes even thousands of clients, she has a pretty good idea of common blocks and limiting beliefs.

 

In fact, usually after the first consultation with a new client, I can tell them exactly what their biggest block to love is. 

 

Similar to how an athletic coach is going to be able to point out something wrong in your stance or your swing, a love coach is going to see quite clearly (from an outsiders point of view) what it is that you’re doing wrong.

 

Get it?

 

Trust your love coach.

 

She knows what she’s talking about. She’s unbiased and simply sees things that you cannot because you’ve lived with yourself and your quirks your entire life.

 

Two. You just hired your own personal cheerleader….go, team go! 

 

A love coach is your own personal cheerleader cheering you on to success! Where else in your life do you have someone who is 150% committed to your success and to finding an ideal partner?

Girlfriends are great, but let’s be honest here. Sometimes girlfriends don’t have all the time in the world to listen to your sob story.

Or – sometimes girlfriends don’t give the greatest advice: “You should totally sleep with him. He’s hot!”

And even though your mother loves you, she’s not qualified to give unbiased love advice. Most mothers don’t want their children to experience pain or hurt. So her advice is going to be based on how to protect you.

When you hire a love coach, you get someone that is going to boost up your self-esteem always. You get someone who is there to help you through thick and thin. A person who will NOT let you wallow in your sadness. A person who will NOT let you make excuses as to why you’re alone and allow you to live with them.

Oh no.

A love coach KNOWS that you are 100% meant for legendary love. And she is going to remind you of your awesomeness and your dreams of a love story to remember….

Every.

Single.

Day.

Sound good?!

 

Three. She leads by example

 

There’s an old saying that says “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” 

 

So who are you hanging out with? 

 

  • Other single women who are also struggling to find romance?
  • Married couples who fight all the time?
  • A single mom who struggles to make ends meet?

These are extreme examples but the point I’m trying to make is this:

 

I’m going to show up 150% as the highest vibe person I can be. Not only for myself but for YOU, my dear client. 

 

Every single thing I teach, I’ve done.

 

Every single exercise, worksheet, meditation, writing exercise I have done 100s of times. No exaggeration.

 

I teach the practices that have worked for me.

 

So trust that I understand what you’re going through. And that I also have the exact tools necessary to get you to where you want to be.

 

Four. Mess to Success… I’ve been there! 

 

Similar to the point above….girl. I’ve been through it all in regards to love. I can look at my younger self and lovingly say: “what an idiot!” 

 

But I also know it was for a reason.

The more challenging our struggle is….

The harder the journey is…

The more people I can connect with and the greater the triumph will be!

 

Every good love story has some type of challenge, a battle, a journey to true love. 

I have one, too.

 

And as a result, I’ve accumulated a life-time of skills and tools that have worked for me and countless others!

 

It’s inspiring to know that your coach once had her own limiting beliefs and thought she wasn’t ‘good enough for love’ and despite those thoughts, she fought through it all until coming out on top!

If I can do it, so can you!

 

Five. Accountability Partner

 

This one is truly the most important way a love coach can help you find love.

It’s one thing to read books.

 

It’s another thing to write down goals.

 

But if you don’t actually TAKE ACTION on your dreams and desires, nothing will happen! 

 

You can fantasize and dream all day in your PJs on the couch…

 

But if you don’t actually leave the house, how do you expect to meet Prince Charming?! 

 

A love coach helps you to set achievable and realistic goals and then holds your little buns to the fire to ensure you accomplish what you set out to do.
And if ‘true love’ is the goal, allow me to give you a loving smack on the ass to ensure you accomplish that goal! 

 

Are you ready to find love? 

Sign up for a time to chat and we’ll discuss your goals around the love life you crave and get you started down the path towards Happily Ever After!

Envision, Manifest, Create the Love of your life with these 3 questions (#TruthTuesdays Ep 25)

Would you like to learn how to ENVISION the love life of your wildest dreams!? 

 

Would you like to know without a doubt what is standing in your way to having the love you crave? 

 

Would you also like to know what you have to do and who you have to be in order to realize the love of your life!? 

 

There is a process called Envisioning that will give you the CLEAR answers to the questions above.

 

If you’re looking to consciously create the love life of your dreams, then Envisioning is the process meant for you! 

 

And if you’re familiar with visualization, this is an entirely different process! So watch and learn, my dear!

 


#TRUTHTUESDAYS EP. 11 How to attract a man with the “3 S’s” so he stops his search with other women

How do you get a man to STOP shopping the market and commit to you? 

You use the THREE S’s of course! 

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One – Sex

Don’t you dare be scared to be sexy. Show off the best sides of you. The sides that make you feel sexy and like you are the prize. But DON’T get stuck on ONLY the sex part. Remember that you also have two more wonderful categories that you are going to share. Men are attracted to beautiful looking things. And women are beautiful creatures. Show your sexy side…..

But that’s not all…

 

Two – Smarts

Show your man your smarts! Sure, you can impress him with what you’ve done for your career. The non-profit you started all on your own. Whatever it is, absolutely show him your intelligence and your strength. That you are capable of having an intelligent conversation and that there is something going on behind the scenes of the pretty face.

But of course don’t get caught up only in your brain or the man will be intimidated and see you as competition.

You have to add in one more thing….

 

Three – Sharing

Open up your heart, girl. Be vulnerable. Share. Be open. Express the beautiful heart that you have. Allow yourself to be in your feminine and share your emotions. Just don’t get stuck there or you risk becoming too emotional and a type of woman that all men run from.

 

It’s the combination of all three s’s that make a man want to drop everything and pursue you full time.

It’s the SEX, THE SMARTS, AND THE SHARING that show a man just how valuable you are, like YOU are the prize, and he’ll come running!

 

Promise.

 

Action Step:

MAKE YOUR LIST

Take a sheet of paper and write at the top: Sex, Smarts, Sharing.

Fill it out! What do you have to offer in each of the 3 categories?

On the next date, make sure all three of those areas shine and are shown.

You are irresistible to high quality men by BEING a high quality woman balanced in her heart, her body and her mind. 

Being alone is actually a wonderful thing if you want to partner up

Be alone…

If you’re looking for love.

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What? How does that make sense?

Stick with me, I’m going to share exactly why being alone and giving yourself space from the dating game can actually be your greatest blessing if you’re looking for love!

WHY BEING ALONE LEADS TO SOULMATE LEVEL LOVE:

1. You learn about you.

Too many women get caught up in a relationship. It’s all about HIM. It’s HIS likes and HIS life and HIS dreams. You get too caught up in the dating game and trying to PLEASE other men. To look desirable. To say certain things. To appear to be witty and clever and independent and NOT clingy. But what of that is really YOU? I’ve actually suggested to MANY of my clients who are ready to experience a deep and profound love that they take a break from dating. They take a break from looking. They STOP thinking about love and a partnership. But doesn’t that go against so many things that I teach in regards to manifestation and the law of attraction? Yes and no. To be completely honest, most women don’t know what they want. And so they are going out there blindly trying to attract in all types of men, ANY men, in order to fulfill that desire to love and be loved. But here’s what I suggest instead…. take alone time to learn about you. To figure out what you enjoy and what makes you happy. Then when you go back out into the dating world it’s from a place of ‘I am me. Hear me roar! Oh yeah, and this is what I want in a man.” You go out there with such clarity with what you want because you know first what makes you tick. And what lights your heart up with joy! I guarantee, then you’ll meet a high quality man who is super aligned with you and your desires! 

2. You recharge your batteries!

Having time and space for you and your interests and your desires fills your heart up with joy! Instead of duty dating because you’re inspired and ready to meet the one….stay at home and do what you enjoy: watch a movie, read a book, write poetry, walk the dog, go to a yoga class, schedule a massage. Yes, you do have to put yourself out there in order to actually meet men, BUT, at the same time the happier you are, the more ‘FULL’ you are…you’ll be able to come from a space of actually being able to GIVE in the relationship!

3. You get what you give.

When you learn to nourish yourself….and put yourself first…and cherish your feelings first…. you’ll attract in a man, friends, a partner, a boss, a kitten, etc to do the same! You have to BE the energy you want to attract. And if you don’t love yourself FIRST before a man, you are NOT going to meet a man who puts you first. This is really important so let me say it again:  You have to put your feelings first in order to attract in a high quality man who will do the same.

4. You shift your focus.

When you go out to the world with a focus of: “I want. I need. I desire. I’m ready. Hello, universe, WHERE IS MY MAN?????!,” IT DOESN’T HAPPEN. Why? Quite simply because you’re putting the energy out there of lack. The energy that you don’t yet have it because you still desire it! Instead, when you sit back and shift your focus on loving yourself, you’re putting the energy out of being completely content with where you are. And not only that, you’re putting out extreme confidence that what you desire is on it’s way to you. By shifting your focus away from the desire and neediness and clinginess of a relationship towards YOURSELF and loving yourself and feeling completely content and happy with where you are and what you are doing NOW, you are sending the very important message to the universe that you already have everything that you need. And that is when the love of your life will appear. When you’re completely content with your life as it is. When you are completely in love with the awesomeness that you are.

5. You can’t give what you don’t have.

This point pulls them all together. And when you’re alone here is what you get:

  • an appreciation for who you are, and the ability to respond to your own BS thoughts and limiting beliefs and unravel where they came from and how they are getting in the way. And by appreciating your uniqueness, you are able to lovingly appreciate the partner that you are with.
  • a life filled with activities that you enjoy doing! And a partner who either enjoys similar activities or understands the beauty and health behind filled his life with what he enjoys, regardless of if they match his partner or not! And when you are filling your life with activities that give you joy and so is your partner…guess what? You’re both happy!
  • a deep love for your own feelings. And when you love yourself for who you are and all the diverse and deep feelings that you have, you’ll absolutely attract in a strong man who can appreciate and understand and handle your strong feelings. And as women, we have feelings that run deep. And shallow men cannot handle that. They want us to change/control our feelings to make them feel better. Instead, cherish your feelings. Honor your feelings. Love and respect your feelings and I guarantee you’ll attract in a man who revels in the beauty of your deep current of emotion.
  • confidence. When you can not only handle being alone but love and appreciate being by yourself, your own levels of confidence will soar! And there is nothing sexier than a confident woman who doesn’t NEED a man, and who is sure of herself and her wants. When you talk to men from a place of self-love and self-confidence, you’ll start to attract in some super high-quality men who also love themselves and are condiment in their purpose and place in life. And isn’t that the type of man you really want?? 

Girl, being alone is not a bad thing.

BEING ALONE IS A WONDERFUL THING!

Take a break from the dating game and learn to love and appreciate yourself first.

#DATEYOURSELF first and then you’ll attract in such a high quality man that is aligned with who you are that you’ll wonder why you ever settled for anything less!

And if you want to learn the exact 7 steps that I used to attract in my own Personal Prince Charming, join us for  a FREE challenge starting next Monday!

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#TRUTHTUESDAYS Ep. 6 – Your parents are the reason you’re still single

Yes, it’s your parents fault that you’re single. 

Don’t you just love some blunt truth?

Here’s why it’s your parents fault if you’re single (most likely)

We form our beliefs about the world when we are children.

We are looking around us and taking it all in.

We’re like little sponges.

And so….depending how daddy treated mommy and what mommy said to daddy, we believe it to be normal.

WE ASSUME THAT ‘THIS’ IS HOW A MAN TREATS A WOMAN AND ‘THIS’ IS WHAT ‘I’ BELIEVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND LOVE.

So, yes, it is your parents fault if you’re single if, for example, your Mom was telling you:

  • there are no good men out there
  • good men are hard to find
  • he’ll always leave you in the end
  • don’t ever get married; it’s so difficult

And on and on and on….

You see where I’m going here?

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IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT HOW YOU WERE RAISED OR WHAT YOUR PARENTS SAID OR THE CORRESPONDING BELIEF SYSTEMS YOU FORMED AS A RESULT. 

It IS your responsibility, however, now that you are aware of your amazing power of your belief systems, to create the life that you DO want.

OUR BELIEF SYSTEMS ARE STRONG. 

So strong in fact that we have created an entire reality based around our beliefs.

Our beliefs as to whether we are:

  • good enough
  • lovable 
  • worthy of a good man
  • worthy of a good job
  • worthy of happiness

You get the idea.

HERE’S WHAT YOU’VE GOT TO DO: 

  1. Take out a sheet of paper
  2. Write down everything you can remember in regards to how your parents treated each other. What they said. How they acted. Body language.
  3. Then write down everything you can remember in regards to other pertinent relationships – aunts, uncles, friends’ parents, grandparents, etc
  4. Now take out a second sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle.
  5. On the left side, write down all your limiting beliefs about relationships (for example: Men are hard to find. I’m not good enough for a good man. Strong women always stay single.)
  6. On the right side, now write a NEW belief that is going to empower you and get you one step closer to the love of your life (for example: Great men are all around me! I’m so amazing and lovely and the prize! It’s easy for a strong woman to find a strong man)
  7. And then, whenever any of the old beliefs try to make their way into your field of consciousness….PUSH THEM ASIDE.

Now it’s up to you to do the work.

YOU HAVE TO BE STRONGER THAN THE LIMITING BELIEFS OF YESTERDAY.

You can choose to have the love life of your dreams! You just have to want is MORE than the pain and hurt you’ve already experienced!

#TRUTHTUESDAYS Ep. 5 – The #1 tool to manifest the love of your life

Are you a single lady who is tired and frustrated with being alone?

Are you ready to learn the #1 tool that I used on a daily basis in order to attract in my own personal prince charming? 

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It can be confusing with all the dating books out there filled with:

  • how-to land the guy of your dreams
  • what not-to-d0 on the first date
  • how to get any guy to ask you out!

You know, stuff like that.

Instead, allow me to show you the stuff that actually works.

The exact tool I used every single day for four weeks…

Until I attracted in the one!

Now, I’m using the SAME tool for my business, career and finances.

And so far…..so great!

[Don’t worry, you’ll be the first one to know when I make my first million 🙂 ]

Want to learn so many more amazing tools to increase your inner love in order to attract in your own personal Prince Charming?

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9 Steps – How to Manifest Love Using the Law of Attraction

9 Steps –

How to Manifest Love Using the Law of Attraction

How to manifest love using the law of attraction

Once upon a time I decided I had HAD ENOUGH of having my heart broken.

So I actually sat down and mapped out step by step how the hell I was going to manifest the love of my life, the man of my dreams.

And you know what happened as a result?

It worked!

In this post, I’m going to share with you the actual steps I took and also why the LAW OF ATTRACTION sometimes doesn’t work. 

Like at all.

Instead, I’m going to show you how it CAN work in your favor!

The information that I’m sharing with you today is only one part of my#ManifestHim private coaching program and also is included in my 8 week Attract the One via Radical Self Love online coaching program. 

If you follow the steps I’m sharing with you today you will:

  1. Become a powerful love magnet
  2. Boost your self love
  3. Attract in your beloved/soulmate/true love in a very short time period

Sound good?

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Rumi, one of my favorite poets, once said:


Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.



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And that is what you’ve got to do, my dear.

Don’t LOOK for love as OUTSIDE of you. Instead, remove all the blocks and barriers you’ve created INSIDE of you to love.

Once you become love, you will attract love to you.

Sounds woo-woo but it really is as simple as that.

Manifesting your Soulmate using the Law of Attraction

Let’s do this!!!!!

Step 1: Make a Commitment

Before you can actually change your life for the better and attract in the love of your life, you actually need to commit to it happening. 

You need to be hell-bent on the outcome happening for you! 

You need to push aside any worries or fears that it’s not going to work out.

You need to get rid of any sorry-ass excuses that “I’m too ugly/fat/boring/tired/busy to manifest love”.

Instead, COMMIT to yourself that love is available to you right in this moment and you will stop at nothing to get it.

okay? 

You can’t always get what you want. That’s for sure. (cue Rolling Stones song….)

And sometimes we don’t even get what we need.

But what I’ve figured out in my life is that I usually (if not 100% of the time) get what I COMMIT to and put my mind to and work my ass off towards getting….

What’s that? I can’t run my own wildly successful love coaching business online, mister neigh sayer ? 

Just you fucking watch me!

And then I commit to making it happen and then BAM! Less than 3 months later, I have a schedule full of clients and am building various online programs that already have a waiting list. 

Commitment. 

That’s the difference between WANTING something in life and actually GETTING something in life. 

So, when you actually DECIDE that you’re ready for your soulmate in your life (and this is no small feat because you will have to face your SHIT and own up to it on a daily basis), you have to COMMIT to it.

Just like getting married, baby.

Anything less than a 120% commitment, well, that’s the relationship you’re going to get. Half-assed.

Step 2: Believe it can happen and is possible for you

Okay, this one is a bit more challenging for some people, because we are a tangled mess of fears and insecurities and ‘yeah, but…’ that even though you say the affirmations and journal and dream and whatever else woo-woo shit that I suggest you do….

If you don’t actually BELIEVE it can happen for you deep down inside, it WON’T happen for you. 

(I elaborate MORE on this concept in my recent blog post – so I’m not going to go into it here. Read the post. Then come back, mmmkay?)

So, spend a couple minutes figuring out what your current belief systems are in regards to love and a good way to do it is as follows:

  1. Write down the following phrase on a sheet of paper: I deserve to have an amazing partner and the love of my life today!
  2. Then listen….
  3. Did your mind reply with “Hells yeah I do!” or did your mind reply with something along the lines of “yeah, but, that hasn’t happened. And actually last time I thought I was with the one it ended in heartbreak. Fuck, man. I’m gonna end up as a cat lady, I just know it.”
  4. Now that you know what your limiting beliefs are, flip that shit around and write a positive affirmation instead!
  5. Get pumped and read that affirmation to yourself on a daily basis!
  6. Dance a bit first and get moving so you’ve got endorphins moving through your body (EMOTION CREATES VIBRATION) and then tell yourself how much you deserve to have an amazing partner and love of your life today and that he is on his way this current instant.
  7. Love yourself. Because, duh. That comes first. Only then will someone else love you.

Step 3: Put the ‘word’ or ‘intention’ out there

I’m not saying you have to publicly post on Facebook that you are looking for your soulmate and currently taking applications. (although you certainly can if you want to. I saw someone do it once and I thought “Hells yes! Good for him. Putting himself out there and letting the world know he is ready!”)

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But what it does mean is this:

  1. Write an intention – You can say it out loud or write it down. Something along the lines of “I am open to receiving the love of my life, my soulmate, my twin flame. I now welcome love in.” 
  2. Open your heart and be ready to receive love. Visualize what life would be like with this person. Feel the love in your heart as though it was already here in this present moment.
  3. Open your mind and be open to the possibilities of love coming your way. The mind is very literal. So grab and pen and paper and start writing your affirmations on a daily basis. “My perfect partner is out there and on his way to me now!” 

Step 4: Get clear in your vision

I love this part! This is where you get to sit down and journal EXACTLY what you want Mister/Missus Right to look like, smell like, feel like, etc.

Our subconscious mind operates in pictures and feelings.

So – get clear on what your perfect life with this perfect person is going to LOOK like. And I highly suggest you get super duper clear in what you want. And please DON’T write what you don’t want. Only focus on what you DO want. Nothing is too trivial. Put it all in there!

And then sit your pretty self down for at least 10 minutes a day and DREAM. See this vision clearly in your mind’s eye and FEEL it like it was happening today.

That’s an order, young lady!

Step 5: Let GO of old pain and heartbreak

I know, easier said than done. But this step has to happen.

Work on forgiving yourself.

Forgive past lovers and old partners.

You NEED to create space for this NEW love to enter your life.

  1. Heal your heart. How? Well, there are a variety of ways and I could write a book on HOW to do it. But for sake of time, I’ll tell you this, instead. Do sweet things every day for YOU to show yourself that you love yourself. Write down all the ways that someone (including yourself) have hurt you in the past and then….BURN IT! As you tell yourself that you forgive them all (and you) and you are willing and open to receive love into your heart, now.
  2. De-clutter your mind. What are the stories that are going on in your brain such as “I’ll be happier once I have my soulmate.” I’ll finally start a family and feel worthy once I have my soulmate” “All guys suck and will only hurt me in the end.” Whatever they are, we all have stories. You gotta replace those old thoughts and belief systems with new ones! So whatever your previous story was, it’s going to be something else instead like “I’m happy right now and my soulmate is on his way!” “I feel so worthy inside!” or “There is the perfect guy out there for me that will treasure me and cherish me!” Got it?
  3. Release the Past. It no longer serves you. I repeat: Let that shit go! Anything that happened in your past made you who you are today but it does NOT decide your future. So, if you’re holding on to your old sorry story of why you were hurt in the past, then you are living in the past. And how the hell is your soulmate going to step in and fill that space? There is NO space. You are living in the past. Stop it! Here’s an analogy to help: if you’ve got a passenger in your car (aka your thoughts of a past lover) how is your new lover (aka your soulmate) going to get in? 
  4. Make room for love. Are you working two jobs and come home exhausted each night? Is your house cluttered and not even welcoming for guests? Do you have ‘friends with benefits’ that take up any free nights you actually have and are also emotionally draining? If you met your soulmate today, would you have emotional/physical/spiritual room for them!? Think about various ways in your life that you may be blocking your ability to have a partner in your life and go about making room for love!

Step 6: Tell a NEW story, already

Another great analogy (because I love them)….

Imagine you were walking through a prairie of waist high grass.

You walk through it once.

Most likely, no one will be able to tell you were there….

But, if you walk it over and over and over again…

A path is formed!

So, train yer brain!

What NEW PATHWAYS are you going to create? 

We have spent years and years and years creating certain paths and belief systems and a lot of the time….they aren’t even our belief systems! They were handed down to us by society or by our parents or friends!

You tell the story of how you were hurt in the past, or why daddy didn’t love you, or how you were left at the alter on your wedding day…..YAWN!

Stop it already! 

The more you tell the same old sorry stories, the more you tell the universe that is what you expect to continue to happen with your life. 

Instead, start telling a new story of how you always meeting amazing and loving people. Of how you are excited to go to new events because of the people you are going to meet. Of how much you fricken love yourself and love your life and are looking forward to so many new amazing experiences in your future!

You get me, here?

Step 7: Get a support system to cheer you on!

It takes a village, baby.

When I was seriously ready to let go of my old limiting belief systems, you know what I did?

I hired a love coach!

Yeah, duh.

No body can (or should) go at ‘it’ alone.

Think about professional athletes – they have coaches! They don’t decide one day to stop training because they are good at what they do. Nope, they seek help and get better!

And you know what else? 

Some days you feel like crap. Your emotions get the better of you (especially if you’re a woman!) and you feel like there is no hope in sight. So you cuddle up with a gallon of Ben and Jerry’s.

But if you have a support system on hand – those moments won’t last long and they will be few and far between! 

So – take a good hard look at your friends – are they building you up or tearing you down? Are you cheering you on or agreeing with you when you say there are no good men out there?

And guess what – when you’re soulmate comes along….shit comes up!

My relationship with my man can be challenging. He’s a beautiful mirror of issues in myself that I have not healed.

And if I didn’t have friends/mentors/coaches that I could turn to when the shit hits the fan….well most likely we still wouldn’t be together. It’s constant work, my friends. And it never ends.

Step 8: Get ready (emotionally, spiritually, physically, whatever) for your soulmate!

You’ve set the intention. You’ve done the work. Now what?

Keep doing the work!

Keep taking the steps to improve yourself.

Clear out emotional baggage.

Get your mind on track and stop thinking silly old limiting beliefs.

Take care of your beautiful body – hikes, yoga, gym time, whatever you enjoy.

Love yourself fiercely, like you’re all you’ve got. 

Because guess what? 

You ARE all you’ve got. 

Step 9: Let go (again!)

You’ve done all you can. Now is the time to let go and trust in the universe. Trust that all is happening in divine timing and will manifest exactly when and how it’s supposed to!

One More thing….

If you want to jump start the process of attracting in your one true love, then let’s get on the phone and talk! Apply for a Breakthrough to Love Coaching Call and let’s see if working together is a logical next step for you!

#TRUTHTUESDAYS Ep. 2 – Releasing Pain, Shame and Guilt

Ready to release guilt, pain and shame?

Here’s the dealio.

We’ve all done stuff we ain’t proud of.

Myself included.

Emyrald Sinclaire love coach

(yep, that beauty up there)

But here’s the good news!

You can let that shit go. With ease. And no longer allow it to plague you with guilt, shame and anxiety!

So – I suggest you watch the not quite 5 minute video up there to learn EXACTLY what it is you can do whenever the hell you want to let go of yucky feelings.

You know what happens then?

You make space for LOVE, BABY!

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And if this is up your alley of what you’d like to create in your life, then I HIGHLY suggest you check out my  8 Week Radical Self Love Group Coaching Program!

  • To help you learn how to LOVE the real you.
  • TO help you let go of CRAP that no longer serves you – i.e. feelings of guilt, shame, pain.
  • To help you appreciate the beauty that is within.
  • To help you learn to love and appreciate yourself for exactly who you are so that you live the life of your dreams and attract in an amazing and loving partner to share it with!
  • To help you raise your confidence and self-love levels so that you fall deeply in love with yourself.
  • To help you break through your excuses and pain and barriers to love so that you finally learn to love yourself and attract in the love of your life to do the same (if you’re single) or drastically improve your current relationship if you’re in one!

Sound good? 

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#TRUTHTUESDAYS Ep. 1 – Be yourself already!

WATCH THE VIDEO FIRST. THEN READ ON!

AS YOU’VE LEARNED BY NOW, I CUSS LIKE A SAILOR.

But I wasn’t always that way. 

I used to be quite the lady and change my attitude and persona and words based on who I was talking to.

If I met a woman who owned a health clinic, for example, I would play up my nutrition degree, I would talk about how I didn’t eat gluten, I would invite her to my yoga class, I would even change the cantor of my speech and the words I would use.

WHICH IS KINDA LAME IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT.

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HERE’S THE THING.

Yes – we probably shouldn’t talk to our grandma the same way we would talk to our best friend. And if I met the president of the U.S., I wouldn’t say “sup, dawg?”

But there’s something to be said about being unapologetically true to myself and my beliefs and my way of going about in the world.

Prior to my coaching business, I owned a little cafe.

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And it pretty much owned my life.

I didn’t have many friends, because I was working 60 to 80 hour weeks, and just didn’t have the time or energy to nurture relationships.

It was a total drag.

AS YOU CAN GUESS, I GOT LONELY.

If I didn’t have my partner, well I’m not really sure how I would have gotten through that period in my life.

All work and no play.

When that phase ended, I decided I needed some serious female connections in my life.

Strong powerful women that were kicking ass in life (and in their careers) and fiercely proud of who they were.

So I started to go to various networking events where I assumed these amazing women hung out!

And you know what happened?I started meeting some cool babes!

BUT…AND THERE’S ALWAYS A BUT…

I wasn’t being genuine.

I didn’t act fully like me – which meant being funny and silly, cursing when appropriate and having a drink now and then.

Instead, I acted how I assumed that person would act or expect in a friend.

So all those connections with these powerful women remained superficial.

No deep and powerful connections happened as a result.But then! 

AND THANK GODDESS THERE IS A TURNAROUND.

  • I decided to let loose. (because what the fuck did I have to lose?)
  • I talked with passion about what it was that interested me.
  • I had a drink when I felt like it when everyone else was sipping their bubble water.
  • I cursed whenever the fuck I felt like it (with some discretion…I’m not a complete asshole).

YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED?

These powerful women that I was so desperately trying to make friends with…

ALL OF A SUDDEN THEY WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH ME!

And you wanna know why?

I WAS FINALLY BEING ME!

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PEOPLE AREN’T DUMB. THEY CAN TELL WHEN YOU’RE NOT BEING SINCERE.

So since I wasn’t being genuine, they picked up on it and kept their distance.

Acquaintances, YES. Friends, NO.

And once I let the magic and beauty and uniqueness of ME shine through 100% of the time….

Deep and powerful connections happened!

So where am I going with this?

You have to be 100% unapologetically YOU in order to attract in those that will FULLY appreciate who you are.

If you are putting on aires and trying to be someone else that you think a guy will like….well then sooner or later he’s going to find the ‘real you’ and might not like what he sees.

So the sooner you go about being 100% confident in who you are and allowing that person to be present 100% of the time…

The only people you actually attract to you are the ones that really matter because they LOVE the true you.

And when you attract in a match that SEES you for who you are and LOVES you for who you are, good times and bad, with or without makeup, with a massive zit on your face or just after a massage….

You get the idea…

THAT’S SOULMATE LEVEL LOVE RIGHT THERE.

That’s why I created my 8 Week Radical Self Love Group Coaching Program!

  • To help you learn how to LOVE the real you.
  • To help you appreciate the beauty that is within.
  • To help you learn to love and appreciate yourself for exactly who you are so that you live the life of your dreams and attract in an amazing and loving partner to share it with!
  • To help you raise your confidence and self-love levels so that you fall deeply in love with yourself and attract in a man who does the same.
  • To help you break through your excuses and pain and barriers to love so that you finally learn to love yourself and attract in the love of your life to do the same!

Sound good? 

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Why affirmations are sh!t…and what to do about it!

 

I recently completed a survey of single women who are actively trying to do something to manifest their soulmate.

To call in the one…

Find their other half…

Their ‘media naranja’ as they say in español….

(now that I’m lounging on the beach in Costa Rica, I actually have time to compile the results and make something of them!)

Emyrald Sinclaire on the beach of Costa Rica

If you’re one of these ladies, do any of these things sound famiilar?

1. Visualize

2. Meditate

3. Go on spiritual dating sites

4. Not looking

5. Looking

6. Vision board

7. Becoming celibate

8. Making a witches brew

9. Praying

10. Praying harder

I will be the first to admit that I’ve tried it all in regards to dating (and no that wasn’t MY list up there.)
And yet nothing really ever worked….

(well up until now because I’ve actually figured out HOW TO manifest an amazing partner that is exactly what I asked for)

Want to know why?

It’s what I lovingly refer to as the WHIPPED CREAM ON GARBAGE syndrome.

Told to me first by my father.

A world renowned hypnotherapist.

“World Renowned? What does that mean?”, you might ask.

Well, quite simply it means people fly in from all across the globe to work with him.

When I was a kid he taught me about beliefs and affirmations.

And he said: Affirmations are crap. They actually don’t do anything because they are whipped cream on garbage.

Well actually he said shit. They are whipped cream on shit.

If you don’t get to the underlying belief system.

If your underlying belief system, your garbage, is that I’m not worthy, I’m not good enough, I suck, no one will ever love me…

You can look in the mirror and affirm yourself to death but you will still not be good enough, not lovely, not loved…

So…

As you can see, the reasons all these things that women are trying are not working is because they are….

WHIPPED CREAM ON SHIT.

It might taste sweet, it might sound sweet, it might LOOK sweet, but it doesn’t actually work.

Whereas the 6 week program I’ve developed, gets to the garbage, it gets down to the nitty gritty, to the sludge, to the toxic waste.

That underlying belief system….that record on repeat, that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not worthy, you suck, you’ll never be loved….

What ever it is that YOUR record is…

These are horrible. These are toxic. They are sludge. They are garbage. A toxic heap.

And that is the actual reason that you are not worthy of love.

It’s because deep down inside you actually believe it.

Look in the mirror and tell yourself pretty words…

Sit down with your journal and write affirmations till your fingers bleed.

Do your mantras every day…

Because those are only going to work (and they do work by the way) if you clear the trash, the rubbish, the crap that is sitting deep down inside.

You have this beautiful light, this diamond, this jewel on the inside but it’s so tarnished and covered in all these different negative beliefs.

This 6 weeks to love program, what it does, is start to polish that jewel by tearing away those belief systems one by one and replacing them with something new.

Let me reiterate one more time.

Whipped CreamWhipped cream = where you want to be.

I am beautiful.

I am lovely

I am worthy.

I am good enough.

I deserve to have the love of my life.

The garage (not true) = a lifetime of negative belief systems that have been handed to you from your parents, from society, from them TV shows you watch.Trash Monster

They all pile up on top of each other.
They build and they build and they build…

We have to clear the trash out.

Make space. Make room.

So when you actually do amazing powerful work – like mediation , mantras, and affirmations, they WORK! Because then your entire field is clear.

You see what I’m saying?

It’s like trying to make a meal in a pan that’s crusted over with last nights dinner. And before that, last weeks’ lunch. And the month before’s breakfast.

All these layers of grime have been stacked on top of each other.

At the time you’re trying to create anything beautiful and lovely….well it’s gonna taste like horrible old shit. It’s gonna taste like rotten food from months ago.

So you’ve got to clear out the pan.

aka – clear out the trash.

And start fresh!

And then – oh my goodness – you will be THE most powerful, sexy, goddess that you know in your heart of hearts to be true.

Emyrald Sinclaire love coach on the beach of Costa Rica

You know her.

She’s there.

You’ve caught glimpses of her.

But it’s not all the time.

And I want to help you get to the point where she is.

She’s there all of the time.

Because all of those untruths and misbeliefs….

Are GONE!

Sending you love,

xo

Emyrald

Emyrald Sinclaire love coach in costa rica

 

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